It is a hard thing to crawl out of. The death of Ollie has hurt us so badly, it will take time to get over it.
I seem to have fallen into a hole of depression.
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Staro, you are in our thoughts. We have missed you.
I know you miss your Ollie. Just know we care about you and Becky, and wish for you peace.
I know you miss your Ollie. Just know we care about you and Becky, and wish for you peace.
Hang in there Staro,you are missed,and hoping you feel better as time goes by..
Sometimes it's better to get angry. Or Cry.
Everyone deals with loss differently and sometimes it takes longer than others. It is good you can reach out here and know you have friends who care about you. There is no time limit.. grieve and remember. Prayers for you and your family.. and hugs
Love and Peace
Love and Peace
Feel the love of your family here on the SKMB. Know we care about you and Becky. Ollie was "family". Ollie would want you to hold only the good memories. Grieving is a process- allow us to help you as you need us. Know we miss you. I send you both love and green lights!
Hugs to all of you. Grief is a painful process but remember that you can always reach out to your friends here. It wont lessen your grief but just the knowledge that you are not alone is a big help, i hope. Thinking about you, Staro.
It takes time and knowing that the SKMB supports you during your time of loss.
Ollie wouldn't want you to be sad. We don't either. Time is the great healer and some things take longer than others to come to grips with. I know. I've been in your shoes. I never thought that I'd have another Ollie in my life. But you know what? There may come a day, when you least expect it, that another Ollie may catch your eye, put a smile on your beautiful face and melt your heart.
I've been with my new Ollie for about five years now, we found each other after about 18 months of me thinking I'd never find another. Time................
I've been with my new Ollie for about five years now, we found each other after about 18 months of me thinking I'd never find another. Time................
It's difficult, staro. Knowing that this is part of the process still doesn't always help with how it feels, does it? But it is a process, and there are brighter times around the corner, when the grief is replaced with acceptance and Ollie's continued living through all of your happy memories.
Hugs, along with the knowledge that we're hurting for you and here for you.
Hugs, along with the knowledge that we're hurting for you and here for you.
Give yourself time. Give of yourself, if possible. Sometimes that's the ticket to crawling out of the hole. Most of all, take care of yourself: eat well, sleep as regularly as possible, get outdoors if you can. Remember, you are loved.
(((Staro and Becky))) It's hard to listen to your head when your heart hurts so much so the knowing this will pass may only be a whisper. Remind yourself as often as you can that time will heal until that whisper truly becomes belief and know that we are here for you whenever you to need to reach out.
So sorry for your loss. Wishing you peace.
I am sorry Staro. Hoping you find some peace soon.
Neesy
#1 fan (Annie Wilkes cousin) 1st cousin Mom's side
Sorry Staro - it's not easy after you get knocked off your feet. Try to look after yourself and your family (((staropeace ))
I'm so sad to hear this staro! I surely know how grief can kick your arse off a cliff and into depression. Please take care of yourself and each other. You know, we used to give people plenty of time to grieve but these days we expect everyone back at it in a matter of days. It doesn't work. Take all the time you need. And mind the mind traps! Medicate if necessary. Know you are beloved here!
To lose any family member is shock. It's called "shock" for good reason. Stunned with pain. I've shared this idea here before, which is that at such times time is our friend. With every second time moves us a little further away from the pain. At first it doesn't seem to, the pain is still right there, but in time a distance begins to emerge until eventually we can imagine not hurting.
(((((staro and Becky)))))
(((((staro and Becky)))))
Staro. It is so hard to lose a loved one. Grieving is a process you have to go through each in our own time and way. The pit you are in now is a hard, hard place. I hope in time you bith will be able to remember the love you shared. In the meantime, we all love you and will pray for you.