A sad world, a sad day, and a sad existence

[~Ally~]

They say that misery loves company.....but I don't co-commiserate, and I don't do the "oh, poor pitiful you" thing....
My personal belief is that if you put positive energy and thoughts into the universe, those positive qualities are returned to you....
likewise, negative begets negative.
I've taken the liberty to re-write your post, keeping it on a positive slant.....I hope you don't mind.
Just thought seeing a more positive side to venting might be helpful.


I am blessed. I'm Free. Yes, I may be living with situations that I haven't gotten control of....yet......but time is on my side....I'm turning 34 this year, and I have so much life ahead of me to enjoy. Right now, I'm living with my parents, and when they are no longer with me, I will look back at the extra time we had together and smile.
I am working in a restaurant at the moment....I feel so lucky to have a job when so many have no work. Something better will come along, and I have hopes to find work pertaining to my hard earned degree in biology/chemistry.
An education is a valuable asset, and no one can ever take that away from me.

I'm not in Africa getting circumcised, and even though times are difficult, life is wonderful!
I am strong, and independent, and have no need to depend on alcohol or chemicals for comfort.
I have no husband or children, so I am flexible re-locate when the right craeer comes along. I have hopes for a bright future with a family of my own.

Sure, I am cute....but more importantly, I am a well educated, smart young woman....I will survive

Couldn't have put it any better myself...perfect!

 

[Angelo Bottigliero]

My personal belief is that if you put positive energy and thoughts into the universe, those positive qualities are returned to you....

I applaud you. So true.

 

[Dana Jean]

They say that misery loves company.....but I don't co-commiserate, and I don't do the "oh, poor pitiful you" thing.... We all have our problems and difficulties, and mine aren't any bigger or smaller or more important than anyone else's.
My personal belief is that if you put positive energy and thoughts into the universe, those positive qualities are returned to you....
likewise, negative begets negative.
I've taken the liberty to re-write your post, keeping it on a positive slant.....I hope you don't mind.
Just thought seeing a more positive side to venting might be helpful.


I am blessed. I'm Free. Yes, I may be living with situations that I haven't gotten control of....yet......but time is on my side....I'm turning 34 this year, and I have so much life ahead of me to enjoy. Right now, I'm living with my parents, and when they are no longer with me, I will look back at the extra time we had together and smile.
I am working in a restaurant at the moment....I feel so lucky to have a job when so many have no work. Something better will come along, and I have hopes to find work pertaining to my hard earned degree in biology/chemistry.
An education is a valuable asset, and no one can ever take that away from me.

I'm not in Africa getting circumcised, and even though times are difficult, life is wonderful!
I am strong, and independent, and have no need to depend on alcohol or chemicals for comfort.
I have no husband or children, so I am flexible re-locate when the right craeer comes along. I have hopes for a bright future with a family of my own.

Sure, I am cute....but more importantly, I am a well educated, smart young woman....I will survive

Perfect. We all need to change the conversations we have with ourselves.

 

[FlakeNoir]

Beautiful Sunny.... xox

 

[Spideyman]

Spot on, Sunny. Positives and changing the way one looks at things.

 

[MadamMack]

Can I vent? Okay good.

I am miserable. Free, but miserable. I'm turning 34 this year. I'm living with my parents, working in a restaurant, making $7.00 an hour. I'm lucky if I get 30 hours a week. My minimum student loan payment is...I won't go there. WTF. I'm thinking about giving MUW my degree back. Seriously. WTH am I going to do with a B.S in biology/chemistry. Unless Phil Bryant says "We forgive you Garriga." Then my degree is worthless. I want to give it back.

No, I'm not in Africa getting circumcised. But life still life sucks. I find comfort in alcohol. So, I drink. I am husbandless, childless ,with no career. Life is hopeless...

But at least I'm cute.

I understand where you're coming from but you are better off than most. I am not a hand holder and you are capable of making the needed changes so do just that. Get up and do something. Keep on Keeping on . . .

Change the way you think and you can change your life.

. . .here's wishing you the best . . .

Get up!

 

[GNTLGNT]

Can I vent? Okay good.

I am miserable. Free, but miserable. I'm turning 34 this year. I'm living with my parents, working in a restaurant, making $7.00 an hour. I'm lucky if I get 30 hours a week. My minimum student loan payment is...I won't go there. WTF. I'm thinking about giving MUW my degree back. Seriously. WTH am I going to do with a B.S in biology/chemistry. Unless Phil Bryant says "We forgive you Garriga." Then my degree is worthless. I want to give it back.

No, I'm not in Africa getting circumcised. But life still life sucks. I find comfort in alcohol. So, I drink. I am husbandless, childless ,with no career. Life is hopeless...

But at least I'm cute.

...you vented-now it's my turn!...shut-up with the pity party "oh woe is me" crap young lady!!!...the Ashley I know is not a defeatist!!! you have a job, income-a place to live and NONE of it's behind razor wire. You are in the prime of your life and with your degree, should be eminently employable in the burgeoning oil & gas market-where your being single and without kids is a plus. There is time for that. You are making your life miserable by looking for dreams in a bottle, you have just traded one addiction for another young lady, and if you don't quit-I'm gonna swat your azz this Summer at the Kon!!!! Life is never hopeless, it may suck the old hairy root more than you'd like-but it's not hopeless, suck it up cupcake-you are a wonderful young woman, with countless friends here-and I for one will not stand aside and see you retreat to a mindset that will head you back down the path to concrete walls, state pay and horrible food....I love you girl, remember that-and I want what's best for you, as do we all-but you have to take the reins...you didn't get here overnight, and it ain't gonna get better overnight...but the things you have listed are pluses when you look at them from the other side, and this is coming from a lifelong cynical pessimist...I believe in Ashley Garriga, nuff said...

 

[MadamMack]

...you vented-now it's my turn!...shut-up with the pity party "oh woe is me" crap young lady!!!...the Ashley I know is not a defeatist!!! you have a job, income-a place to live and NONE of it's behind razor wire. You are in the prime of your life and with your degree, should be eminently employable in the burgeoning oil & gas market-where your being single and without kids is a plus. There is time for that. You are making your life miserable by looking for dreams in a bottle, you have just traded one addiction for another young lady, and if you don't quit-I'm gonna swat your azz this Summer at the Kon!!!! Life is never hopeless, it may suck the old hairy root more than you'd like-but it's not hopeless, suck it up cupcake-you are a wonderful young woman, with countless friends here-and I for one will not stand aside and see you retreat to a mindset that will head you back down the path to concrete walls, state pay and horrible food....I love you girl, remember that-and I want what's best for you, as do we all-but you have to take the reins...you didn't get here overnight, and it ain't gonna get better overnight...but the things you have listed are pluses when you look at them from the other side, and this is coming from a lifelong cynical pessimist...I believe in Ashley Garriga, nuff said...

Damn Skippy . . .Our big brother GNTLGNT has spoken.

 

[Agincourt Concierge]

Can I vent? Okay good.

I am miserable. Free, but miserable. I'm turning 34 this year. I'm living with my parents, working in a restaurant, making $7.00 an hour. I'm lucky if I get 30 hours a week. My minimum student loan payment is...I won't go there. WTF. I'm thinking about giving MUW my degree back. Seriously. WTH am I going to do with a B.S in biology/chemistry. Unless Phil Bryant says "We forgive you Garriga." Then my degree is worthless. I want to give it back.

No, I'm not in Africa getting circumcised. But life still life sucks. I find comfort in alcohol. So, I drink. I am husbandless, childless ,with no career. Life is hopeless...

But at least I'm cute.

Okay......
Live with parents ... hey at least they love you enough to let you stay ....
BS in biology/chemistry ... dude ... have you put your resume out online ??? if not you need to do so ... Have you thought about getting a job with a drug company ? mayhaps work as a pharmacy tech/assistant at cvs ? walgreens? meet drug reps this way ? Have you researched jobs online with your education ?

Life is not hopeless ... you just need to look in the right places for what you need ... My 19 yr old son works at McD and is making more than $7/hr .... and he's in a rural area .... there are better paying jobs out there.... I worked two jobs supporting myself when I left my ex.... I was a whole lot older than you ... it can be done !!!

I am glad you are not circumcised .... that's a plus ...

Husband ... well... took me almost 50 years to find the love of my life ... so ... there's always hope !!!

and you are cute .... so that's going for you .... have you thought about online dating ??? I found Teddy right here ... my best friend found her love online as well ... heck ... if you don't like them ... there's always the delete button .....

You are young, smart and healthy .... and cute .... don't give up .... keep looking ... something will happen when you least expect it to ...

Drinking is not any answer .... it's a problem you don't need ....

hugs

 

[blunthead]

Don't give up, Garriga.

(((((Garriga)))))

 

[Agincourt Concierge]

No kidding what gntl said .... in Alaska right now and Montana .... with a chemistry degree working for oil/gas companies ... big money and men ... not saying move to Alaska/Montana.... just that there are opportunities in this world .... don't let them pass you by .... you have to go out and find them ....

and what Spidey said ... volunteer in a hospital... might find job opportunities there ... who knows? Plus it might make you feel better too !

Here's and example of someone who didn't give up ....she was born into poverty .... learned to read by her grandmother that whacked her with a stick when she was misbehaving ... mom was unmarried ... she was raped at age 9 ..... pregnant at 14/baby son died ... she wore dresses made of potatosacks.... suffered lots of hardships .... half brother died of AIDS .... you know her as Oprah .... these hardships only made her stronger ....

 

[Agincourt Concierge]

They say that misery loves company.....but I don't co-commiserate, and I don't do the "oh, poor pitiful you" thing.... We all have our problems and difficulties, and mine aren't any bigger or smaller or more important than anyone else's.
My personal belief is that if you put positive energy and thoughts into the universe, those positive qualities are returned to you....
likewise, negative begets negative.
I've taken the liberty to re-write your post, keeping it on a positive slant.....I hope you don't mind.
Just thought seeing a more positive side to venting might be helpful.


I am blessed. I'm Free. Yes, I may be living with situations that I haven't gotten control of....yet......but time is on my side....I'm turning 34 this year, and I have so much life ahead of me to enjoy. Right now, I'm living with my parents, and when they are no longer with me, I will look back at the extra time we had together and smile.
I am working in a restaurant at the moment....I feel so lucky to have a job when so many have no work. Something better will come along, and I have hopes to find work pertaining to my hard earned degree in biology/chemistry.
An education is a valuable asset, and no one can ever take that away from me.

I'm not in Africa getting circumcised, and even though times are difficult, life is wonderful!
I am strong, and independent, and have no need to depend on alcohol or chemicals for comfort.
I have no husband or children, so I am flexible re-locate when the right craeer comes along. I have hopes for a bright future with a family of my own.

Sure, I am cute....but more importantly, I am a well educated, smart young woman....I will survive

well spoken my friend ....

 

[king family fan]

(((Garriga)))

 

[Stanley Ruiz]

From your 28th follower -( your tag line is up for a change now... i count 38)

Cheer up G, you could be bald, fat, and stretching out of your pants. Go find a partner to have that drink with, sit back and watch a game. Drop me a note if you want a chat. My social life just hit as low as im going to let it go.so last week i looked up a group, and am off to meet them tommorow. Big breath G , get out there.

 

[Liselle]

Sometimes you have to change the way you look at things, instead of looking at what you don't have, look at what you do have. You have a degree which will come in useful, you just have to look further than your nose for a job. If you don't have commitments at home the world is your oyster and somewhere out there a company will be crying out for someone with your qualifications. I have two Masters but can't get a job because I don't have the experience so I am now volunteering in a couple of local schools to increase my skills. Having a partner is not the bee all and end all, you have the freedom to travel where and when you want, you don't have to consider anyone else when you are considering a job change.

Basically sometimes we have to go and search for things, they will not always come and slap you in the face.

 

[skimom2]

Don't know where you live,but I believe many states have loan forgiveness programs if you agree to teach or act as a teacher's assistant in certain schools..doesn't hurt to check with your student loan company to find if they have such a program,not sure what your degree is but you are probably close to getting enough credits to at least assist a teacher.Good luck and hang in there!They never said life would be easy,but ya gotta keep on keepin on..

This is what I was going to suggest. There are federal programs that will pay you to get a teaching degree, if you have any sort of aptitude for that. Check into teach.org, and contact local schools. There is a shortage of science teachers, and that could help you. I'm not unsympathetic, lovey, but I've found that things only begin to get better if you keep moving. And don't compare your life to anyone else's--you are an individual, not a 'type'.

 

[Agincourt Concierge]

Hope you are having a better day today Garriga ...

 

[SusanNorton]

Garriga - I was in a situation identical to yours, but I was 27 at the time. College degree, living with parents, low-paying job, public transportation, and (unlike you) overweight, to boot. I moped and sulked for about 6 months, then realized the only person who could change my life was me. I know that sounds so lame, but it's true, and things will get better for you only when you take action.

Go to a public park and walk - the scenery and fresh air and exercise will do wonders for you. If you can't stop drinking, at least cut back. Go to free public events, and meet people. You know, sometimes people are willing to take a chance and hire someone who doesn't have a lot of experience in a certain field if they sense the person is confident and willing to work hard and try.

I look back at my "old" self, and my life now bears no resemblance to how I was back then - I'm proud that I was able to get through the hard times. Life is never easy, at least not for long, but it will only get better if you make changes.

 

[SusanNorton]

I'd like to give you some more specific ideas. Are you near a college? One of the things I did was get a job as a secretary at a university, and signed up to take a night class, which was free to full-time employees. Since I was enrolled in a class, I was able to defer payment on my student loan. There are a million little tricky things you can do to make things better, but you've got to find out about them and then DO them.

 

[danie]

I've been thinking about Garriga a great deal since I read this thread, and I wonder how she is.
She hasn't responded to these posts, so I hope she's okay.
Garriga, are you out there? Do you feel better?