You read my mind, danie, I was just hoping someone had heard from her.
A sad world, a sad day, and a sad existence
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You read my mind, danie, I was just hoping someone had heard from her.
I went to her profile page, and it says she was last here Wednesday, about a week after she posted this thread.
I just hope she's feeling better.
Thanks, Danie. I am worried as well.
Come Back, Sister Garriga
Come Back, Sister Garriga
Well said Dana Jean.
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...if I know my Garriga...she has probably read everything and is processing...she is a strong soul, but with much self-doubt, especially after a stupid mistake...give her time & space, and she will return to visit...I know SHE knows she's loved, and that's all that should matter....
They say that misery loves company.....but I don't co-commiserate, and I don't do the "oh, poor pitiful you" thing.... We all have our problems and difficulties, and mine aren't any bigger or smaller or more important than anyone else's.
My personal belief is that if you put positive energy and thoughts into the universe, those positive qualities are returned to you....
likewise, negative begets negative.
I've taken the liberty to re-write your post, keeping it on a positive slant.....I hope you don't mind.
Just thought seeing a more positive side to venting might be helpful.
I am blessed. I'm Free. Yes, I may be living with situations that I haven't gotten control of....yet......but time is on my side....I'm turning 34 this year, and I have so much life ahead of me to enjoy. Right now, I'm living with my parents, and when they are no longer with me, I will look back at the extra time we had together and smile.
I am working in a restaurant at the moment....I feel so lucky to have a job when so many have no work. Something better will come along, and I have hopes to find work pertaining to my hard earned degree in biology/chemistry.
An education is a valuable asset, and no one can ever take that away from me.
I'm not in Africa getting circumcised, and even though times are difficult, life is wonderful!
I am strong, and independent, and have no need to depend on alcohol or chemicals for comfort.
I have no husband or children, so I am flexible re-locate when the right craeer comes along. I have hopes for a bright future with a family of my own.
Sure, I am cute....but more importantly, I am a well educated, smart young woman....I will survive
I agree and most of the time I stay positive. But there are moments when I become angry.I blame myself for getting high. I made a choice and understand I am paying the consequences. I do not feel sorry for myself but the last decade has drained my pride and I'm tired.
I am working on putting my past behind me. But sometimes I need to remember my mistakes. They make me who I am today. I usually remember them over a bottle of wine.
Good to see you back posting,Garriga. I hope you are feeling better today.
Hi, Garriga. Of the caring posts from your friends and extended family here I've chosen danie's underlined above because her true sentiment has been an important one for me. A paradigm shift happens when one used to having negative feelings considers how others feel about him or her. What one feels and thinks about him/herself is untrue, or at least falls short of an accurate report. You possess qualities no one else in the Universe does, and which are invaluable to certain others (including us). I doubt that you will remain husbandless for the rest of your life, if being married is your heart's desire. Trust me, I've always feared never being blessed with a partner like other people are, but the good things about reality and in life have gradually convinced me I'm not all that unique.
I may have missed specific mention about "a choice" and "mistakes" to which you refer, but don't need to know what they are. If you mean the choice of drinking, then I agree it can become a whole new problem. But I also believe that for most people it can be helpful. I do hesitate to encourage its use, especially if/when it substitutes for needful action.
I think you have moral integrity, Garriga; that you demand that your own behavior is good - responsible, sober, positive. So, I think you judge yourself and your life, your successes and so-called failures strictly. I agree that the situation you're in is less than ideal, and that it's to be expected to cause lots of stress, moral discomfort. Financial pressures, low income, having to live with parents - who wouldn't drink? It doesn't help much to remind yourself it's temporary; instead, it just feels indefinite.
I encourage you to seek higher pay. You're very young as far as the work world is concerned. Check online, check newspapers, find out where you stand with what's out there. You need socialization. It's very good to meet with us here and please continue to do so, but it's not enough. Everything's going to be okay. For now try not to fear the unknown, as your life is changing and your future is new. Like change, new is a good thing.
So glad to see you back! I was worried. I've been to the bottom of that pit more times than I can count, and each struggling upward is a victory. Savor it, lovey. Mistakes don't need any help to slap you upside the head, so put down the bottle.
Thank you all for your comments. My friends on this board mean a lot to me and I'm looking forward to meeting some of you in July.