A very good deal!

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Jojo87

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This Saturday I, my boyfriend, my boyfriend's dad and couple of his friends was at our
campground. My boyfriend's dad and his friends had been and played beach volleyball and
after that they all sat down to drink couple of beers. I and my boyfriend was there too. We
talked, laughed and had fun. My boyfriend he smoking so of course he took his cigarette and
started to smoke. His dad said immediately to him that I don't like when you smoking. My boyfriend have been searching for a car to drive winter time with, he can't drive with his rally car during the winter because it's not protected against corrosion. So he need another car to drive with through the winter. So his dad gave him a good deal. He said if you quit smoking I buy that car for you. My boyfriend have already found a good car he want, but it's expensive. My boyfriend said to his dad, that was good deal I promise to quit smoking and I get the car right, his dad said yes, but if I see or hear that you have start to smoke again you pay me the whole car back. My boyfriend promised and swore that he never ever smoking again. I was happy too because I don't like when he smoking and I have meant many times to tell him that I would appreciate if he stop smoking. They shook hands and now my boyfriend quit to smoke and his dad buy the car for him. He can be pretty cranky this week when he's not get the cigarettes, but I guess I can handle him anyway. ;;D I also told him when we came to his house, that now we can live a happy life together until we are 90 years old and he is not gonna die earlier in lung cancer or any other disease what you get when you smoking.
I hope he can stay away from smoking and I also hope his dad keep the promise and will buy
the car for him.
This deal probably changed my life and my boyfriend's life. I am much happier now when I
know that he won't smoke anymore. =D

Have you ever made any good deal?? a deal that maybe changed your or your loved ones
life.
 

AnnaMarie

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Jojo, I hope he is able to completely stay off cigarettes. And the crankiness should fade. :)

When I quit, I bribed myself with quilting supplies. It's an expensive craft to start and I could never justify spending that much money. So I decided for every month off cigarettes I would get $20 towards quilting.
 

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I also meant to say that I love my boyfriend very much and I don't want see when he kill himself by smoking. Yes Maryann
that's right smoking harms other too. I talked to him today and he said that he smoked his last cigarettes last night and haven't smoke anything
today and he also told me that he not have been tempted to get smoking today. Sounds wonderful to my ears.
 

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Major Like. And good for your dad. He's that much further removed from serious addiction, decreased quality of life, and a shortened life.

He may have a change of heart regarding the attractions of smoking in the future. Some of the most virulent anti-tobacco types I've ever known have been former smokers.
 
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My hubby was the crankiest person alive for a few years after he quit smoking. He was ultra difficult to live with. I had to keep reminding myself it was for the best and I still loved him. He got over his crankiness but I still smoke and Grandpa is right, born-again non-smokers are much more critical than people who have never smoked, so I'm still having to remind myself I still love the dude lol.
 

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Sounds like a great incentive and I hope he sticks with it and gets his car.
It also seems a great opportunity to introduce him to Stephen King by getting him to read "Quitters Inc."
What do you reckon?

I still haven't introduced him to Stephen King and he is not a reader, so I don't think he ever read that story.
I just can hope he stay away from smoking. He said that he wanted to stop many times, but not have been able to when his co workers smoke.
 

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My hubby was the crankiest person alive for a few years after he quit smoking. He was ultra difficult to live with. I had to keep reminding myself it was for the best and I still loved him. He got over his crankiness but I still smoke and Grandpa is right, born-again non-smokers are much more critical than people who have never smoked, so I'm still having to remind myself I still love the dude lol.

Well, I'll say that I've never smoked, but I'm as anti-tobacco (which is different than being anti-smoker) as they get. But it's because of the evil involved in producing them and the fact that loved ones of mine have been sickened and have died from them. So again, Jojo, I said good for your dad and boyfriend.
 

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Well, I'll say that I've never smoked, but I'm as anti-tobacco (which is different than being anti-smoker) as they get. But it's because of the evil involved in producing them and the fact that loved ones of mine have been sickened and have died from them. So again, Jojo, I said good for your dad and boyfriend.

Thanks Grandpa, but it was my boyfriend's dad who made this deal with him. Not my dad.
 

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It's a hard habit to break. I've never smoked, but I've seen family members go through trying again and again to quit. Some have been able to, some haven't (it took my mother going into a two-week coma related to an asthma attack before she was finally able to quit) . Good that he's trying, though, and maybe the incentive of a car will help him resist when co-workers light up. Happy times for you, Jojo :)
 

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I grew up with two parents smoking like chimneys for a long time. They started in their early teens when it was cool to smoke and, they say, everybody did it. (this should be somewhere late 40-ties) . Then my mother got KOL (that is the swedish shortform anyway, don't know if it is an english) Means Chronical lungdisease. Her lungcapacity has shrunken quite alarmingly so the long walks she used to love is today an imposssibility. She has oxygen at home and has to use it all the time and i mean every minute of the day, and night. With two such an examples at home i never smoked cigarett in my life. It was great to move away from home. Now my mother ofcourse had to quit, did it cold turkey and my father did the same after awhile in sympathy, not cold turkey though. Even if you escape cancer it does horrifying things to your lungs. So it was a really good deal you and everyone got. Congrats.
 

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I grew up with two parents smoking like chimneys for a long time. They started in their early teens when it was cool to smoke and, they say, everybody did it. (this should be somewhere late 40-ties) . Then my mother got KOL (that is the swedish shortform anyway, don't know if it is an english) Means Chronical lungdisease. Her lungcapacity has shrunken quite alarmingly so the long walks she used to love is today an imposssibility. She has oxygen at home and has to use it all the time and i mean every minute of the day, and night. With two such an examples at home i never smoked cigarett in my life. It was great to move away from home. Now my mother ofcourse had to quit, did it cold turkey and my father did the same after awhile in sympathy, not cold turkey though. Even if you escape cancer it does horrifying things to your lungs. So it was a really good deal you and everyone got. Congrats.
I think this is called COPD over here (chronic obstructive pulmonary disease). I am glad your parents finally quit - it is a very strong addiction and hard to quit.
 

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Hope it works for him. They say smoking is the hardest habit for somebody to break. Something like a %6 success rate for people who can keep to their word and not start again. I know folks that have kicked Prescription pill habits that still go off the deep end if they can't have a smoke.

I've been throwing the idea of quitting around for a while. I'd like to lie and pretend it's for some high moralistic reason or health concern, but honestly it's the money. A pack of my brand, Newport's or, as a last resort, Kool's, is going for about $7 a pack now and is supposed to go up again early next year. At a pack a day that adds up to over $2,500 a year. I could think of alot of better ways to spend that money. I tried switching to one of the generic brands and couldn't do it.

Somebody last year suggested I switch to the E-Cigs, but the fluid for those things cost even more. Kind of defeats the purpose, in addition to the fact that I've tried them before when friends of mine have switched to them and they don't work. I could puff on one of those things for an hour straight and walk away wanting a smoke. If I quit I'm gonna have do it cold turkey.