Before Viagra.

Discussion in 'Everything Else' started by Sigmund, Apr 26, 2014.

  1. Autumn Gust
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    Autumn Gust Well-Known Member

    Now don't get me wrong-- I enjoy sex as much as the next person- but I really think too much emphasis is put on the "act". There are so many ways to be sensuous. And to me, the sexiest organ in the body is the brain. :smile2:
  2. kingricefan
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    kingricefan All-being, keeper of Space, Time & Dimension.

    Before Viagra there was liquor.....:lol:
  3. HollyGolightly
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    HollyGolightly Well-Known Member

    Yes, this - absolutely. I have trouble finding the right words.
  4. kingricefan
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    kingricefan All-being, keeper of Space, Time & Dimension.

    Hey, Scott, just you posting this makes you a 'man' in my eyes! It's like alot of posters in this thread have said- it's not really the actual 'act' that makes the man. You are so full of love for your wife- she is so lucky to have you!! But, that said, as a man myself I understand what you are saying about being embarrassed, etc. We're right about the same age so I 'get' what this all means to you. You have NOTHING to be ashamed about. Our bodies do things that we have no control over. Hell, none of us guys are able to have the same response we had back when we were 16. Hey, look at the bright side- we now get to watch the female versions of those Viagra commercials!!
  5. Sigmund
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    Sigmund Well-Known Member

    Good evening.

    Thank you all for sharing. Thank you very, very much for sharing.

    In keeping with the sharing and honesty found in this thread...I will also share.

    Late last year, my doctor told me he was uncomfortable being my doctor because I don't have health insurance and the tests he would like to have me undergo...I was not able to afford. Mainly, blood tests, mammograms and pelvic exams. I was putting him in a position where if the crud hit the fan and I upped and died he might have some 'splaining to do and possibly have lawsuits.(Malpractice.) He gave me a list of clinics that provide health care on a sliding scale basis.

    I applied and qualified. Yay! Not so much. My *psychiatrist* was not an MD. (As many of you know, I suffer from GAD and have been on a med and stable for over a decade.) He was an RN with 20 hours of additional training. That's cool. I have had many PA's and nurse pratictioners and they were excellent. This man was not. He fricked with my meds and I have not been well since December 2013.

    I called and left many messages but I never got a call back.

    Last week, I called The United Way, a major contributor to this clinic and gave them a heads up. They took a report (I had to give my name and permission to use it.) and they got in touch with the clinic.

    Last Thursday I had my last appointment with MR.X. He was not pleased. I'm being weened from that awful med and will be back on my initial med. He gave me a three month scrip. He also informed me I would be receiving a formal/legal letter letting me know he was removing himself as my mental health practitioner and would no longer be liable. I informed him my many, many unanswered messages and my numerous requests to have a different provider were/was MY Formal and legal answer.

    BTW- Mr. X informed me the clinic would no longer be providing psych services.

    Ms. Haunted,

    I'm doing well as possible. Thank you for asking.

    Hugs.

    Peace.

    (BTW- I in no way believe I was THE one to have the clinic cut off psychiatric services. Just one of many.)

    (Be cool with me, please.)
    Last edited: Apr 27, 2014
  6. Grandpa
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    Grandpa Well-Known Member

    Give the credit to Scott. His has the difficult subject to talk about. Me, the mechanics are fine. It's just that I'm not bothering to start the car. Scott has bravery to talk about it, and I just have a startling lack of discretion.
  7. Sigmund
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    Sigmund Well-Known Member

    Whoops! I messed up.

    In answering Ms. Haunted questions I posted in her quote that you cannot read unless you click on her quote.

    Peace.
  8. Haunted
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    Haunted My favorite place

    ((((Mz. Siggie)))) Prayers your way.
  9. Neesy
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    Neesy #1 fan (Annie Wilkes cousin) 1st cousin Mom's side

    Oh you, too eh? Our doctor has suggested various options just like Scott's doc has. I do not want to embarrass my spouse here as I am basically the only one who comes here. I am not keeping anything secret from him, he is just too busy being a chef to spend lots of time on a computer (plus he types a lot slower than I do!)

    Anyway to cut to the chase, maybe having a heart to heart this summer will make him come away feeling better.

    He has had mechanical problems ever since his 12 hour surgery back in 2007. I guess he is just lucky to be alive! (and he is someone who doesn't even like to take a pill for a headache - he wants everything 'natural'). Sometimes, though, maybe Mother Nature could use a helping hand :joyous:
  10. Neesy
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    Neesy #1 fan (Annie Wilkes cousin) 1st cousin Mom's side

    Best of luck with finding a good medical practitioner Sigmund! - your health is SO important - keep an eye on it - [​IMG]
  11. kingricefan
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    kingricefan All-being, keeper of Space, Time & Dimension.

    OK, all of you get this: ((((((((((((((((((((YOU))))))))))))))))))!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  12. HollyGolightly
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    You're all so great for sharing. We all struggle with something. Siggy - I hope someone gets your meds straightened out - that must be miserable. My husband has been struggling with back pain for almost 3 months now - not good for his mood, my mood, his libido, my libido. Marriage can be hard. Intimacy is where we go to straighten it out. When that's difficult, life is hard. We're all going to be Ok though, right?
  13. FlakeNoir
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    FlakeNoir Beta/Moderator Moderator

    (((You))) will be okay... try to find 'pockets' of peace when things get tough. You will be okay. xox
  14. Bryan James
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    Bryan James Well-Known Member

    Neesy: The natural (or synthetic) amino acid L-Arginine is a potent vasodilator. Stay away from the mass-marketed dickpowerpills.
  15. kingricefan
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    kingricefan All-being, keeper of Space, Time & Dimension.

    Everyone needs to remember that 'This, too, shall pass.' That's what I try to remember in the 'bad-gunky' times. It seems to help.
  16. doowopgirl
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    doowopgirl very avid fan

    Fair play to you for being so open.
  17. Haunted
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    Haunted My favorite place

    'N Dude, Dude....youse gotta a scary job in a scary place!!!
  18. GNTLGNT
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    GNTLGNT Idiot in Situ and Unholy Devourer of Cookies

    ...oh my friend, I know of the dichotomy...I had every test run, and was told the same thing..."it's all in your head-nothing physically wrong"....BULL!...the desire has never left, but the fear of failing acted in a similar manner on my libido...gah!...it is a cursed thing, but I hope to persevere...I do so appreciate the words of encouragement...
  19. GNTLGNT
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    GNTLGNT Idiot in Situ and Unholy Devourer of Cookies

    ...Honey, we love you wholeheartedly...cool is not an issue...
  20. Siegrid
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    Sometimes this happens to us women (I was going to say girls, but I am 59) also. I have a very poor libido, am prone to urinary track infections afterward and also suffer from back pain. I DO have an incredibly marvelous and understanding hubby who gives me the time I need. But I too feel guilty for not being a better wife.

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