...dudes got a huge heart and a sharp intellect...he just hides it well under all that hilarity...This seems like very sound advice.
Are you feeling okay, champ?
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...dudes got a huge heart and a sharp intellect...he just hides it well under all that hilarity...This seems like very sound advice.
Are you feeling okay, champ?
And facial hair....dudes got a huge heart and a sharp intellect...he just hides it well under all that hilarity...
...dudes got a huge heart and a sharp intellect...he just hides it well under all that hilarity...
Just found this thread and haven't read through it, but wanted to reply and say I know exactly how you feel. I haven't spoken to my sister for 6 years now. Same thing. She brought a scumbag into our lives who abused her, threw her out on the street. She called me balling and needing help. The guy even stole her paycheck and left her and her kid with nothing... and she was pregnant with the bastard's baby at the time. So a good friend who, umm, well does favors, took another large friend with him and they paid the guy a visit and got her money and stuff back. Fortunately it didn't take violence. The sight of them was enough. So what does my sister do to repay this good will and help? Moves back in with him a month later. I was done. This is not including the way she treated her first husband who was a a good guy and a friend I went to HS with. Ironically, that guy (the good one) is now married to my wife's sister. I told him if it doesn't work out I have no more sisters to offer.Today is my sister's birthday, but unfortunately I will not be seeing her. I still love her dearly but she has a history of poor decisions, and is married to an A-1 scumbag. This guy is a criminal, a sex offender, not someone I want around my kids or in my house. Unfortunately my sister kept this fact from anyone in the family just long enough to marry the guy, and then someone outside the family tipped us off to this guy's past.
I was very hurt because I also found out that my sister knew about this guy's past and had not told us about it. She had brought him into my house and I feel so betrayed. After this all blew up I stopped talking to my sister. Like I said, she had a history of bad decisions, and this was the final straw.
But today is her birthday and I really do miss my sister. I still have fond memories of her. It has been over 5 years now. But I just can't accept her choice of mate. She had made it clear she's going to "stand by her man" but I refuse to put my kids at risk around this guy. I am leery about starting up a relationship with my sister because I still feel betrayed about how she handled this.
Any advice?
I feel for ya, Hoss. Thanks for sharing, it helps knowing that people can relate to this, although I'm sorry anyone has to go through this kind of stuff. That's families for you, though.Just found this thread and haven't read through it, but wanted to reply and say I know exactly how you feel. I haven't spoken to my sister for 6 years now. Same thing. She brought a scumbag into our lives who abused her, threw her out on the street. She called me balling and needing help. The guy even stole her paycheck and left her and her kid with nothing... and she was pregnant with the bastard's baby at the time. So a good friend who, umm, well does favors, took another large friend with him and they paid the guy a visit and got her money and stuff back. Fortunately it didn't take violence. The sight of them was enough. So what does my sister do to repay this good will and help? Moves back in with him a month later. I was done. This is not including the way she treated her first husband who was a a good guy and a friend I went to HS with. Ironically, that guy (the good one) is now married to my wife's sister. I told him if it doesn't work out I have no more sisters to offer.
This is alos not counting the drama she caused in my marriage a couple years before that and the strife she manufactured between my wife and my mom. She has also been addicted to painkillers and Xanax off an on. It's just too much drama for me. We live far away now, so I don't mind her maintaining a long distance relationship with her nieces and nephew, but I don't need her BS in my life. I love her and miss who she used to be, but she isn't that person any more. And as long as she is with that scumbag, she won't be. I think FF, the same may be true for you. Even with family, you just have to have some lines you don't cross.
If she leaves him and stops being dumb I am there for her. Things will never be the same between us though.
(((Cat)))Family problems are tough. We are dealing with a mindboggling situation with some extended family ourselves, right now. So hurtful and stressful. We have chosen (an incredibly difficult choice) to cut off all contact for now. The situation has caused tears, sleepless nights, you name it. But for our peace of mind and for the safety of our kids, it is the best avenue for us to take.
I wish you luck, Fush. Will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.
Thinking of you Cat and hope it all gets better.Family problems are tough. We are dealing with a mindboggling situation with some extended family ourselves, right now. So hurtful and stressful. We have chosen (an incredibly difficult choice) to cut off all contact for now. The situation has caused tears, sleepless nights, you name it. But for our peace of mind and for the safety of our kids, it is the best avenue for us to take.
I wish you luck, Fush. Will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.
I hope things turn around for you.Family problems are tough. We are dealing with a mindboggling situation with some extended family ourselves, right now. So hurtful and stressful. We have chosen (an incredibly difficult choice) to cut off all contact for now. The situation has caused tears, sleepless nights, you name it. But for our peace of mind and for the safety of our kids, it is the best avenue for us to take.
I wish you luck, Fush. Will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.
(((((FF)))))Family problems are tough. We are dealing with a mindboggling situation with some extended family ourselves, right now. So hurtful and stressful. We have chosen (an incredibly difficult choice) to cut off all contact for now. The situation has caused tears, sleepless nights, you name it. But for our peace of mind and for the safety of our kids, it is the best avenue for us to take.
I wish you luck, Fush. Will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.