Completely confused, psychologically, mentally and emotionally

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jcadams

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I'm so sorry you are going through this. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I lost my mom on Mother's Day and this is my first post since then. I can tell you two things from my experience, you will eventually get to sleep through the night, but you need to talk about how YOU feel. Keeping it to yourself and being strong for everyone else is not the answer. The second thing I can tell you is that little things are going to come at you out of nowhere and make it seem like you can't go on. Then you will feel the insomnia again and panic. This is when you need to let it out, scream, yell, cry, throw things, whatever helps. But most importantly, log on here and talk to us. This place is home, we are family and people really do take them time to talk and love each other. I can guarantee you that there are members checking this thread to make sure you are okay.
 

Liselle

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I'm so sorry to hear of your loss in such a tragic and sudden way. Please do not go to the ceremony alone, have someone with you to lean on. Talking is a very good therapy as bottling things up can make you very ill indeed as it can act as a poison on your system. Do not be ashamed to cry and express how you are feeling everyone will understand and help you through this very trying time. Thinking of you and your family at this most stressful of times.
 

MIB4u

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Just to let you know:
I am better. Not good, but better, at least.
Friday was by far the hardest part, his funeral. Logically.
I cried a lot, and no one there to blame me for it. That felt good, somehow, as I'm sure anyone who lost someone dear to them will understand.

Tata for now, maybe later I'll post more ...

PS: I almost forgot : Thank you all for the good thoughts ...!
 

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Just to let you know:
I am better. Not good, but better, at least.
Friday was by far the hardest part, his funeral. Logically.
I cried a lot, and no one there to blame me for it. That felt good, somehow, as I'm sure anyone who lost someone dear to them will understand.

Tata for now, maybe later I'll post more ...

PS: I almost forgot : Thank you all for the good thoughts ...!
Tears are some of the best medicine for grief and a natural part of the process. Holding onto the grief and trying to stuff it down only delays the healing--if you keep it stored up inside there's no room for joy to come back in.
 

VultureLvr45

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A. So sorry for your loss MIB4u

B. An occasional dose of benedryl helps me when insomnia strikes. ( Be sure your Doc knows so if you are on other meds no reactions)

C. Writing down as many of your fondest memories and a few of the crappiest ones you have with your Dad will be helpful.

D. Losing someone you love sucks. We are here for you.