ehy hi, mm I lost my brother , he had cancer. mmm I started to get " better " (you´re never better or the same") when I started thinking that every time I laughed or smiled , I would do it so as my brother know I am not suffering. It´s a silly think.
What we knew (me, father,my mom and my little brother) that he may die because of the cancer, he said to us that he was ready for death but not for leaving us, because he would miss us.
I also imagine my brother walking next to me sometimes, I invented conversations and what would he answered... I understood that he is better now, because if he would have survived , he would be physically impared, which is something he would have hated a lot. So, I know he is not suffering. WE sometimes think of ourselves only, and not of the others. We wanted /want him back, but sometimes we have to let go.
Answering to the question, I think I am just surviving,and gathering happy moments with my family.I recently quitted my 30-hour a week job to become a full-time student. I stil did notfall in love so I don´t know what life on its fullest is... so .. I am not happy nor unhappy...