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skimom2

skimom2

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I think I've told this one before (so feel free to skip if you've already read it--lol):

I'd gone to a local pub to listen to reggae, hang with my friend, & drink longneck Budweisers. Mark was the first person I saw when I walked in the door, and I thought, "Wow! That guy at the bar is cute." I was way to shy to ever try to meet someone, so the friend and I scooted through the door and to a table. Later that night, I ran into a guy that I'd met through another friend and got chatting. At the end of the night, he asked if I'd like to go out with him. "Sure!" Then he asked if my friend would possibly want to go out with his friend and make it a double date. Of course, his friend turned out to be Cute Bar Guy :)

First date went well--they took us to a nice place, vs. the local custom of questionable Mexican food for a first date (found out that night it was because Mark was a chef and no way was he taking someone out for crappy food). We all got along, but it turned out that I liked my friend's date better than mine. He turned out to be from very near where my family is from in WY (my grandma used to shop in his mom's clothing store--lol), so we had a similar upbringing and sensibility. I remember my mom asking the next day how the date went and if I thought I'd go out with John again, and I told her I'd rather go out with Shauna's date :)

It took a while to actually get together--I'm not very trustful of emotions--and I didn't return his calls the first few times. Thank god he kept calling, because here we are, almost 28 years together (25 married, this August) and with 4 kids :)
 
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Autumn Gust

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My husband and I met in a college spanish class in the fall of 1990. He sat behind me and, in the minute or two before and after class, we'd make small talk. I found him intriguing. He was shy, gentlemanly, attractive, well groomed :encouragement: and very smart-- an irresistable combination for me! His demeanor was old-fashioned and just refreshing in general. Our first date was on December 6. We had dinner at an elegant Italian restaurant and then moved on to Denny's-- talk about one extreme to another! :biggrin2: We sat and drank cup after cup of coffee till the wee hours of the morning because we didn't want the night to end. :love_heart:
 
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Out of Order said:
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("The Look" is taught to all women at a very early age.)
 
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Dana Jean

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ghost19 said:
Met my wife at a mutual friend's house during a party in early 1995. Said party consisting of a bunch of early 90's Grunge types(myself included), blaze heads, and other trustees of modern chemistry. I remember her walking by me and mentioning something about Pearl Jam but at the moment the music was too damn loud and I didn't hear her or didn't think she was talking to me. I was wearing my ever-present Pearl Jam hat at this party. The Pearl Jam hat was my staple, worn backwards, for the most part only taken off optionally while showering.

I noticed her several times throughout the night, mainly because she looked much healthier and was much better dressed than any of us locals were at the party. Finally, a couple of hours later as I watched a couple of other guys hit on her, I started getting a little pissed off.....Why you ask? Good question. I couldn't figure that one out either which got me thinking maybe I should try talking to her. We ended up sitting beside one another for a while and I noticed the whole time she wasn't partaking in any of festive smoking or drinking. I got a bit nervous thinking she might be a narc or something, back then that was very real concern of mine:). Anyway, we started talking and she told me she was there with a friend just kind of tagging along for the night. I asked her if she'd like a beer but she politely declined on the grounds she was in nursing school and had an exam coming up. Wow, at this point, I'm thinking, good looking, sober, and has a career path mapped out? At this time in my life I was trying to do my best impression of Jim Morrison, my mentality on most things being "If one is good, eight is probably a lot better." I had a lot of issues and she seemed way out of my league, but I sure as hell enjoyed talking to her that night.

A couple of hours later, I guess about 2 or 3am the party started to break up and I began to hear that same old voice that has always screamed at me not to ask girls out on the basis of back then I didn't deal with rejection very well, not violently or anything, just would get very depressed if I got shot down. I've never been one of those guys who chalks it up to "Oh well, her loss." I ALWAYS saw rejection as something wrong with me. My self-esteem issues are deep rooted and over the years I've come to see they are impossible to get past. So, Gina is starting to get ready to leave with her friend, I'm doing my best impression of a faithful terrier pup following her around, helping her with her jacket, trying, and I mean TRYING HARD to work up the nerve to ask her out. She just finally says, "Well, I've been waiting all night to see if you're going to ask me out, I don't have a boyfriend or anything if that's what you're worried about." It wasn't what I was worried about, but holy crap, what an out she gave me. I just stood there for a few seconds, stunned, and told her I'd really like to go out with her.

That was the start of our twenty years together. She has always been able to read my mind from the very beginning. She has always told me no one she has ever known has ever made her feel as safe as I do. I think through all the relationships I ever went thru, all the drugs, the drinking, and self destructive behavior, all I really needed was someone to tell me that. A few months after we started going out, all the earrings, the hair wraps, the one length long hair, I ditched all of it, because it just wasn't me anymore. I started thinking long term instead of about the next day's high. I have no doubt whatsoever, that had I not met my wife when I did, there would be no ghost19 typing this long winded narrative. There was no way to maintain the type of lifestyle I was living at the time and not eventually suffer the repercussions one way or the other. She's my mojo and always will be.
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Wow. What a wonderful feeling.
 
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Grandpa said:
I saw her sitting in the rain, raindrops falling on her. She didn't seem to care. She sat there and smiled at me.

Oh, wait. That's a different story.

Here's the real story. It's copied-and-pasted from elsewhere in the forum.

It was at a party for high schoolers in Nina's basement when I first saw this enchanting blonde, back to the wall, smiling at her conversation partner. I wondered how a pretty creature like that could have wandered into a place that would have someone like me. With my pathological shyness I didn't talk to her that night, but now I had extra motivation to go to another party.

My friend Curt urged me to that next party, and I had the driver's license and he didn't, so you could say I was the ride, but it was effectively Curt towing me along. The blonde was at that party too. I still didn't talk to her. She was simply out of my league. I sat on the bottom step to the party room, staying quiet, listening to the music, watching the partygoers dance, until finally a gregarious redhead came up and engaged me. She was cute, but terribly annoying because she kept talking, and I was working up my courage to ask her to dance just to scare her off, if nothing else, and the blonde girl kept walking back and forth in front of us.

I was just opening my mouth to say the magic words, assuming I could get them out, which was no sure bet, when the redhead pointed to the blonde and said, "I think she wants you to ask her to dance." I was dumbfounded. Here I was, on the brink of asking Red to dance, and Red was diverting me to the Unattainable. The blonde came back around, and the redhead said to her, "Hey, he wants to ask you to dance," pushed us together, and we danced.

So it was a good night. One night in the following week found Curt and me in his basement, a favored hangout. I told Curt I wanted to ask the blonde out. He had her phone number. I paced, went to pick up the phone, left it alone, paced again, went to the phone, walked away, and paced. Curt talked me through it. He said, "The worst she can say is no," which was kind of like saying, "The worst she can do is completely shatter your psyche with a single word."

But finally at his urging, and just before he got annoyed enough to shove the phone up my - never mind. Anyway, heart in throat, I finally picked it up, dialed the number (and this is when you actually did dial), got her, talked to her, asked her out, and she said yes.

Now, it wasn't easy from that point on. There were peaks and valleys, drama and bliss, separations and dates with others, and all the stuff that goes on with young love, but we got settled in finally, and a few states and a foreign country and a brace of kids and grandkids and four decades or so later, here we are.

So thanks, Curt.

And sure, the redhead played her part. But it was really Curt.

There's a song that I consider our song, or at least a few verses of it. Summer Rain by Johnny Winters.

She stepped out of the rainbow
Golden hair shining like moon glow
Warm lips soft as a soul
Sitting here by me
She's here by me

She wants to live in the Rockies
She says that's where we'll find peace
Settle down, raise up a family
To call our own, yeah.
We'll have a home

The snow drifts by my window
North wind, blowing like thunder
Our love's burning like fire
And she's here by me, yeah
She's here with me
Let tomorrow be
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Such romantic men on this board!
 
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