Grudges

[Srbo]

A grudge uses up so much of your time and energy. Will Smith once said, "Hate in your heart will consume you too."

I agree.

 

[Srbo]

I usually can forgive but still have trouble trusting that person again. Iam always wondering if they are doing something behind my back.

Yes, same here.

 

[DiO'Bolic]

I have Irish Alzheimer's. It’s when you forget everything except the grudges.

 

[Autumnlyn]

Yeah, I carry a grudge. I may act fine in public but secretly Im plotting revenge.

 

[fushingfeef]

Grudges require too much energy for me, they don't come naturally to me. I crave harmony very highly. I tend to let things slide. I'm getting better at standing up for myself as I age but I still don't find carrying negativity around to be beneficial. There are exceptions of course, when it comes to crossing my kids all bets are off!

 

[recitador]

little things are forgivable. if someone does something just really wtf and won't back down from it, i wouldn't say i hold a grudge, but i'm also not afraid to drop em like a hot potato.

cutting someone off isn't really the same as actively holding a grudge if you become indifferent to them, based on their crappy behavior. of course, forgiveness is always on the table, but most of the people that have done me dirty enough to get dropped aren't the type to ask, so it works out. also hasn't happened with anyone i'd say i was especially close to, so there's that.

 

[Neesy]

Yeah, I carry a grudge. I may act fine in public but secretly Im plotting revenge.

Are you a Scorpio? ooops - sorry - make that "Are you a Leo"?

 

[muskrat]

Closest I get is simply avoiding people I don't much care for. I try not to hold grudges. Try to walk that eightfold path, cats. Most noblest of the four truths: all life is suffering. I try not to suffer too much.

Alcohol helps. What were we talking about?

 

[Srbo]

...I have "degrees of grudges"....meaning I will get cheesed at some folks, and eventually things will sort themselves out-others are forever, and I have sworn to piss on their graves......

Well sometimes that is all that`s left.

 

[Srbo]

Are you a Scorpio? ooops - sorry - make that "Are you a Leo"?

Scorpio I am.
True this is not.

 

[Srbo]

Closest I get is simply avoiding people I don't much care for. I try not to hold grudges. Try to walk that eightfold path, cats. Most noblest of the four truths: all life is suffering. I try not to suffer too much.

Alcohol helps. What were we talking about?

Hahahaha...
What are the other three truths?

 

[Spideyman]

 

[muskrat]

Hahahaha...
What are the other three truths?

Well, Srb, ol buddy, we got our Dukkha. Then, we got:

Samudaya
Nirodha
And, last but not least,
Magga.

Learn these truths, grasshopper, and yer on yer way to the eightfold path. Or on yer way to Google. Whichever comes first.

 

[Srbo]

Well, Srb, ol buddy, we got our Dukkha. Then, we got:

Samudaya
Nirodha
And, last but not least,
Magga.

Learn these truths, grasshopper, and yer on yer way to the eightfold path. Or on yer way to Google. Whichever comes first.

Google it shall be, no idea what this is.

 

[Srbo]

I have Irish Alzheimer's. It’s when you forget everything except the grudges.

So I learn something new every day...

 

[Srbo]

Yeah, I carry a grudge. I may act fine in public but secretly Im plotting revenge.

Where is your cane?

 

[Srbo]

Grudges require too much energy for me, they don't come naturally to me. I crave harmony very highly. I tend to let things slide. I'm getting better at standing up for myself as I age but I still don't find carrying negativity around to be beneficial. There are exceptions of course, when it comes to crossing my kids all bets are off!

Good post. Nice to see you again, bud...

 

[Srbo]

little things are forgivable. if someone does something just really wtf and won't back down from it, i wouldn't say i hold a grudge, but i'm also not afraid to drop em like a hot potato.

cutting someone off isn't really the same as actively holding a grudge if you become indifferent to them, based on their crappy behavior. of course, forgiveness is always on the table, but most of the people that have done me dirty enough to get dropped aren't the type to ask, so it works out. also hasn't happened with anyone i'd say i was especially close to, so there's that.

Thanks for sharing.

 

[muskrat]

Well, Srb, ol buddy, we got our Dukkha. Then, we got:

Samudaya
Nirodha
And, last but not least,
Magga.

Learn these truths, grasshopper, and yer on yer way to the eightfold path. Or on yer way to Google. Whichever comes first.

Just talkin Buddhism, Srb. But don't listen to me--what I know of it comes from National Geographic and old Beatnik books. Derf.

 

[Neesy]

Just talkin Buddhism, Srb. But don't listen to me--what I know of it comes from National Geographic and old Beatnik books. Derf.

and that little segment about Buddhism from Tina Turner's autobiographical move called "What's Love Got to Do with It"?