How comfortable are you at giving advice?

[SusanNorton]

A person I used to work with, who recently left to pursue smaller and worse things, made a big show of walking around from person to person and asking their advice about deeply personal issues. ("I just realized that the guy I married two months ago isn't for me. I still have feelings for my ex, the one who's in jail for child porn, but it wasn't his fault. Anyway, I just had a miscarriage, but I want to get pregnant again. But I also want to leave my husband. My ex is about to get out of jail. I really want a baby. So I'm thinking I could maybe get pregnant now, leave my husband, and then by the time my ex is out of jail the baby will be born. My mom tells me I should just try to stick it out in my marriage, and wait a while to get pregnant? What do you think?") Needless to say we all agreed with her mom. Two months later, she's walking around, holding her stomach like she's eight months pregnant, with a sly, supercilious smirk on her face. ASKHOLE.

 

[Kurben]

It depends. on if its a subject you have any knowledge about and the person asking. But if asked i usually give it. Not a frequent occurrence though but it happens. I don't mind advice but it does not mean i follow them everytime. If i ask it is to get different viewpoints of a situation. For example i got the advice to turn down the joboffer if i get it after my interviev on the basis that its just a temporary thing and that i needed a more secure thing where i know what i had even if it was a bit boring. He had good, mostly economical, reasons for it but i wont be following his advice. If i get the joboffer i take it because its something i like to do even if the economics are not as good as they could be.

 

[Grandpa]

There's a couple reasons that people want advice:

1. They want someone to take the burden of decision-making off their shoulders, whether the support comes from their positive or negative expectations.
2. They are getting data points for a good decision. Presumably, your data carries extra weight.

When asked for advice, I generally couch it in principles.

Example: My daughter said, "Dad you're my moral compass." (Which, just that, was both welcome and jarring.) "Is it right to get married just so you can buy a house?"

My answer, "If that's the only reason, no, it's not. But if you love each other, support each other, are happy together, and want to stay that way, the house is just the icing on that cake."

She got married. It's working out fine. He's a great guy.

 

[Wayoftheredpanda]

I begin to give at advice and then I think that I'm probably giving them really bad advice because what do I know?

 

[grin willard]

I give advice at work constantly. It's usually, "Calm down." I bet I say calm down fiddy times a day!

 

[mal]

I usually stay silent unless the compost is about to hit the Cuisinart. When asked, I provide options and end with asking them what they think, not telling them what I'd do. Most of my best advice starts with "Hey you damn kids...!".

 

[Nomik]

Good Tuesday evening.

Are you comfortable giving advice? Giving advice to family, friends or strangers? Is it more comfortable to give advice if you have been asked for advice? Are you okay giving advice to someone/anyone who did not ask, specifically, for your advice?


Thank you for your replies.

Peace.

I am very comfortable giving advice if it’s the sort of topic I know enough about to give advice.

Now where would I go to ask for advice? I’m thinkIng specifically about bug spray.
As you may recall, I’m a preschool teacher in southern New Hampshire. We asked the parents to send in a bug spray for the children with a lower amount of DEET. DEET is the stuff that kills bugs, however, there was some thought and research that related this chemical to health problems. Unfortunately, the low DEET bug spray doesn’t work. Any suggestions? The children and I are getting eaten alive.

 

[Spideyman]

I am very comfortable giving advice if it’s the sort of topic I know enough about to give advice.

Now where would I go to ask for advice? I’m thinkIng specifically about bug spray.
As you may recall, I’m a preschool teacher in southern New Hampshire. We asked the parents to send in a bug spray for the children with a lower amount of DEET. DEET is the stuff that kills bugs, however, there was some thought and research that related this chemical to health problems. Unfortunately, the low DEET bug spray doesn’t work. Any suggestions? The children and I are getting eaten alive.

ck the net for essential oil that repel insects.

I use a variant of this:

Spoiler

Homemade Bug Spray
Total Time: 2 minutes
Serves: 30
INGREDIENTS:

• ½ cup witch hazel
• ½ cup apple cider vinegar
• 40 drops essential oils (eucalyptus, lemongrass, citronella, tea tree or rosemary)
• one 8 ounce glass spray bottle

Directions:

1. Mix witch hazel, apple cider vinegar and essential oils in 8 ounce glass spray bottle.
2. Spray over all portions of the body but avoid repellent in eyes and mouth.

 

[Nomik]

ck the net for essential oil that repel insects.

I use a variant of this:

Spoiler

Homemade Bug Spray
Total Time: 2 minutes
Serves: 30
INGREDIENTS:

• ½ cup witch hazel
• ½ cup apple cider vinegar
• 40 drops essential oils (eucalyptus, lemongrass, citronella, tea tree or rosemary)
• one 8 ounce glass spray bottle

Directions:

1. Mix witch hazel, apple cider vinegar and essential oils in 8 ounce glass spray bottle.
2. Spray over all portions of the body but avoid repellent in eyes and mouth.

Thank you ....this works effectively?

 

[Moderator]

I am very comfortable giving advice if it’s the sort of topic I know enough about to give advice.

Now where would I go to ask for advice? I’m thinkIng specifically about bug spray.
As you may recall, I’m a preschool teacher in southern New Hampshire. We asked the parents to send in a bug spray for the children with a lower amount of DEET. DEET is the stuff that kills bugs, however, there was some thought and research that related this chemical to health problems. Unfortunately, the low DEET bug spray doesn’t work. Any suggestions? The children and I are getting eaten alive.

I haven't personally used it but this one (made in Maine) is natural, DEET-free and supposed to be effective.

 

[Nomik]

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I haven't personally used it but this one (made in Maine) is natural, DEET-free and supposed to be effective.

Thanks ....I’m thinking about ordering a low percentage of DEET, because I did a bit of reading that claimed that it is not, in fact, as dangerous as it was thought to be.
I’ll look into this one too...

 

[swiftdog2.0]

“My advice to you, start drinking heavily.”- Bluto

 

[Baby Blue]

I'm pretty comfortable giving advice on most anything I'm familiar with and sometimes even things I'm not. Which reminds me, I should dig that Ask Baby Blue Anything thread up...