I Am Angry Today Because . . .

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morgan

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I am very grateful I have a job as a substitute teacher. (As many days as I can get.)

I am angry/bewildered because the students can curse me out without repercussion. Nary a day goes by when I am not called a b*tch, mother effer, and told I can go eff myself. In front of the entire class.

If I call Discipline (administrators whose job is to take the offending student out of class) they look at me and roll their eyes. "Good lord! You called me JUST because a student ragged you out."

Apparently, I am a bad Sub who has a thin skin and can't/won't take verbal abuse.

I no longer call Discipline when I get called out of my name, my mother and father are part of the verbal abuse and I am told to fornicate myself. And my parents.

*Deep breath*

I will keep subbing because there are always some students who want to learn and appreciate the opportunity when a sub, me, is willing to help them out.

Peace.
It is becoming a norm, Siggy. I was administrator assistant and teacher at a court ordered child center. Had 4-5year old walk in -- with a parent/ guardian each morning and smile and say-- "good morning MF". This was a norm. The world moved on!
Thicken your skin and save those you can.
These stories and daily occurrences are absolutely horrifying!
 

Sigmund

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It is becoming a norm, Siggy. I was administrator assistant and teacher at a court ordered child center. Had 4-5year old walk in -- with a parent/ guardian each morning and smile and say-- "good morning MF". This was a norm. The world moved on!
Thicken your skin and save those you can.

Yes Ma'am.

It just breaks my heart.

These children are the future. OUR future. And my sons future.

Beg pardon...our world...the future ...is going to he11 in a hand basket.

Peace.
 

staropeace

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Yes Ma'am.

It just breaks my heart.

These children are the future. OUR future. And my sons future.

Beg pardon...our world...the future ...is going to he11 in a hand basket.

Peace.
We need to set a higher bar on accceptable behaviour of the school children. After taking child psychology courses along with my other psych courses. I have come to the conclusion that the psych books should be used to slap them on their arses. Bring back the strap or paddle. I never thought I would feel this way but I think our ancestors had the right of it.
 

HollyGolightly

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I am very grateful I have a job as a substitute teacher. (As many days as I can get.)

I am angry/bewildered because the students can curse me out without repercussion. Nary a day goes by when I am not called a b*tch, mother effer, and told I can go eff myself. In front of the entire class.

If I call Discipline (administrators whose job is to take the offending student out of class) they look at me and roll their eyes. "Good lord! You called me JUST because a student ragged you out."

Apparently, I am a bad Sub who has a thin skin and can't/won't take verbal abuse.

I no longer call Discipline when I get called out of my name, my mother and father are part of the verbal abuse and I am told to fornicate myself. And my parents.

*Deep breath*

I will keep subbing because there are always some students who want to learn and appreciate the opportunity when a sub, me, is willing to help them out.

Peace.

I hear ya! My daughter is teaching 9th grade Biology at an "at risk" high school here. She gets it all day long. They can say whatever. She doesn't get administration involved any more for the same reason you cited. She calls one of the football coaches in to remove the really disruptive ones - one kid got in her face and pulled his fist back at her like he was going to hit her. And she wishes one of them would so she wouldn't be judged for quitting. She's miserable. It worries me about the future of the country. This is only 120 kids in one school in one city. It just makes me feel like we're doomed.
 

morgan

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I hear ya! My daughter is teaching 9th grade Biology at an "at risk" high school here. She gets it all day long. They can say whatever. She doesn't get administration involved any more for the same reason you cited. She calls one of the football coaches in to remove the really disruptive ones - one kid got in her face and pulled his fist back at her like he was going to hit her. And she wishes one of them would so she wouldn't be judged for quitting. She's miserable. It worries me about the future of the country. This is only 120 kids in one school in one city. It just makes me feel like we're doomed.
I was a tutor at a local "high risk" high school a few years ago. I would have to agree. :(
 

morgan

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I've been holding back. Didn't want to "say" anything to make it more real-trying to preoccupy myself and laugh instead of cry. At Sadie's vet appointment this morning, I found out that on top of everything else, she now has a heart murmur. What made everything even more painful was what my mom did. I was running late for work because of the recent developments at Sadie's appointment. My mom called my work and talked to my boss because she wanted me to help her with something and she was hoping to catch me before I got to work. I can only speculate as to why my mother had this conversation with my boss-probably because she was upset I couldn't help her like I always do. My boss already knew what I had found out about Sadie's heart because I called her right away to let her know I'd be late. When my mom called me on my cell, she never mentioned she'd already talked to my boss and knew of the latest bad news. My mother actually had a conversation with my boss about how it might be time to put Sadie down. She had no right to have that conversation with my boss. And the worst part is that my mom was actually the one who found Sadie, and since no one else was willing to care for her, I was the one who adopted her when she was a year old. When I told my mom about what happened at Sadie's appointment, my mom already knew because she had spoken to my boss. She acted as if she didn't know-I found out from my boss after I got to work about their conversation. I am already barely functioning because of the grief of Sadie's rapidly declining health. Now I find out my mom betrayed me because she was inconvenienced by my altered availability due to our lengthy vet appointment. I am sad on so many levels. :(
 

Sigmund

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I've been holding back. Didn't want to "say" anything to make it more real-trying to preoccupy myself and laugh instead of cry. At Sadie's vet appointment this morning, I found out that on top of everything else, she now has a heart murmur. What made everything even more painful was what my mom did. I was running late for work because of the recent developments at Sadie's appointment. My mom called my work and talked to my boss because she wanted me to help her with something and she was hoping to catch me before I got to work. I can only speculate as to why my mother had this conversation with my boss-probably because she was upset I couldn't help her like I always do. My boss already knew what I had found out about Sadie's heart because I called her right away to let her know I'd be late. When my mom called me on my cell, she never mentioned she'd already talked to my boss and knew of the latest bad news. My mother actually had a conversation with my boss about how it might be time to put Sadie down. She had no right to have that conversation with my boss. And the worst part is that my mom was actually the one who found Sadie, and since no one else was willing to care for her, I was the one who adopted her when she was a year old. When I told my mom about what happened at Sadie's appointment, my mom already knew because she had spoken to my boss. She acted as if she didn't know-I found out from my boss after I got to work about their conversation. I am already barely functioning because of the grief of Sadie's rapidly declining health. Now I find out my mom betrayed me because she was inconvenienced by my altered availability due to our lengthy vet appointment. I am sad on so many levels. :(


I'm so sorry. That was wrong. Like you said, on so many levels.

I don't have the words. Maybe, just take a deep breath. Understand you cannot do a whole lot to fix things right now. Let your mind and heart take a rest? (I know it's not easy. Of course not.) You have to take care of yourself. Be good and kind to yourself.

>>>hugs<<< Dear Morgan.

Peace.
 

Lina

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I've been holding back. Didn't want to "say" anything to make it more real-trying to preoccupy myself and laugh instead of cry. At Sadie's vet appointment this morning, I found out that on top of everything else, she now has a heart murmur. What made everything even more painful was what my mom did. I was running late for work because of the recent developments at Sadie's appointment. My mom called my work and talked to my boss because she wanted me to help her with something and she was hoping to catch me before I got to work. I can only speculate as to why my mother had this conversation with my boss-probably because she was upset I couldn't help her like I always do. My boss already knew what I had found out about Sadie's heart because I called her right away to let her know I'd be late. When my mom called me on my cell, she never mentioned she'd already talked to my boss and knew of the latest bad news. My mother actually had a conversation with my boss about how it might be time to put Sadie down. She had no right to have that conversation with my boss. And the worst part is that my mom was actually the one who found Sadie, and since no one else was willing to care for her, I was the one who adopted her when she was a year old. When I told my mom about what happened at Sadie's appointment, my mom already knew because she had spoken to my boss. She acted as if she didn't know-I found out from my boss after I got to work about their conversation. I am already barely functioning because of the grief of Sadie's rapidly declining health. Now I find out my mom betrayed me because she was inconvenienced by my altered availability due to our lengthy vet appointment. I am sad on so many levels. :(
So sorry to hear that... Be strong! (((morgan)))
 

skimom2

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I've been holding back. Didn't want to "say" anything to make it more real-trying to preoccupy myself and laugh instead of cry. At Sadie's vet appointment this morning, I found out that on top of everything else, she now has a heart murmur. What made everything even more painful was what my mom did. I was running late for work because of the recent developments at Sadie's appointment. My mom called my work and talked to my boss because she wanted me to help her with something and she was hoping to catch me before I got to work. I can only speculate as to why my mother had this conversation with my boss-probably because she was upset I couldn't help her like I always do. My boss already knew what I had found out about Sadie's heart because I called her right away to let her know I'd be late. When my mom called me on my cell, she never mentioned she'd already talked to my boss and knew of the latest bad news. My mother actually had a conversation with my boss about how it might be time to put Sadie down. She had no right to have that conversation with my boss. And the worst part is that my mom was actually the one who found Sadie, and since no one else was willing to care for her, I was the one who adopted her when she was a year old. When I told my mom about what happened at Sadie's appointment, my mom already knew because she had spoken to my boss. She acted as if she didn't know-I found out from my boss after I got to work about their conversation. I am already barely functioning because of the grief of Sadie's rapidly declining health. Now I find out my mom betrayed me because she was inconvenienced by my altered availability due to our lengthy vet appointment. I am sad on so many levels. :(
Dolly, you need to be sharing my wine. As bad as it hurts, we can't change other people (((Morgan))). Love to you and Sadie, always.
 

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I've been holding back. Didn't want to "say" anything to make it more real-trying to preoccupy myself and laugh instead of cry. At Sadie's vet appointment this morning, I found out that on top of everything else, she now has a heart murmur. What made everything even more painful was what my mom did. I was running late for work because of the recent developments at Sadie's appointment. My mom called my work and talked to my boss because she wanted me to help her with something and she was hoping to catch me before I got to work. I can only speculate as to why my mother had this conversation with my boss-probably because she was upset I couldn't help her like I always do. My boss already knew what I had found out about Sadie's heart because I called her right away to let her know I'd be late. When my mom called me on my cell, she never mentioned she'd already talked to my boss and knew of the latest bad news. My mother actually had a conversation with my boss about how it might be time to put Sadie down. She had no right to have that conversation with my boss. And the worst part is that my mom was actually the one who found Sadie, and since no one else was willing to care for her, I was the one who adopted her when she was a year old. When I told my mom about what happened at Sadie's appointment, my mom already knew because she had spoken to my boss. She acted as if she didn't know-I found out from my boss after I got to work about their conversation. I am already barely functioning because of the grief of Sadie's rapidly declining health. Now I find out my mom betrayed me because she was inconvenienced by my altered availability due to our lengthy vet appointment. I am sad on so many levels. :(
Morgan I am so sorry.Know Iam here . Thinking of you and Sadie and sending much love.
 

Spideyman

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Morgan, I am so sorry you have to deal with this situation on top of all the other happenings. The only one you can control, is yourself. What your mom did was wrong- no ifs ,ands or butts. All I can suggest is to "let it go". Give all your strength and love to Sadie. I will be saying extra prayers for Sadie. May the Power that be hold her and protect her health. I send to you inner peace vibes- vibes of strength and comfort too. Know we are all here for you and Sadie.
 

DiO'Bolic

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I've been holding back. Didn't want to "say" anything to make it more real-trying to preoccupy myself and laugh instead of cry. At Sadie's vet appointment this morning, I found out that on top of everything else, she now has a heart murmur. What made everything even more painful was what my mom did. I was running late for work because of the recent developments at Sadie's appointment. My mom called my work and talked to my boss because she wanted me to help her with something and she was hoping to catch me before I got to work. I can only speculate as to why my mother had this conversation with my boss-probably because she was upset I couldn't help her like I always do. My boss already knew what I had found out about Sadie's heart because I called her right away to let her know I'd be late. When my mom called me on my cell, she never mentioned she'd already talked to my boss and knew of the latest bad news. My mother actually had a conversation with my boss about how it might be time to put Sadie down. She had no right to have that conversation with my boss. And the worst part is that my mom was actually the one who found Sadie, and since no one else was willing to care for her, I was the one who adopted her when she was a year old. When I told my mom about what happened at Sadie's appointment, my mom already knew because she had spoken to my boss. She acted as if she didn't know-I found out from my boss after I got to work about their conversation. I am already barely functioning because of the grief of Sadie's rapidly declining health. Now I find out my mom betrayed me because she was inconvenienced by my altered availability due to our lengthy vet appointment. I am sad on so many levels. :(
Morgan, I devil you on the critter thing, but just know it is all in jest. I will keep you in my thoughts. I wish there were words of comfort to make things feel better when the heart aches, but they always fall short. Stay strong and keep up the good fight.
 

DiO'Bolic

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I need to make a trip to the doctor today. I hate going to the doctor. Coaching softball Monday evening, I stepped on a ball running the bases and turned the ankle bad. Knew something tore inside but played through the pain anyway. The ankle today is still three times the normal size, I can barely walk on it, can’t sleep, and the pain is getting worse instead of better. I was going to put the doctors’ off until next week because my daughter’s final game is Friday night, and a couple coaches can’t make it. I need to coach first base, and I’m afraid the doctor will immobilize it and force me to stay off it... or make me get surgery. I ruined that ankle in my 20’s in a basketball game, and was told if I didn’t get surgery then, another injury would pretty much dictate surgery.

My family says I’m no kid anymore and need to stop with the competitive sports. Maybe someday I’ll listen... but probably not.
 

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I've been holding back. Didn't want to "say" anything to make it more real-trying to preoccupy myself and laugh instead of cry. At Sadie's vet appointment this morning, I found out that on top of everything else, she now has a heart murmur. What made everything even more painful was what my mom did. I was running late for work because of the recent developments at Sadie's appointment. My mom called my work and talked to my boss because she wanted me to help her with something and she was hoping to catch me before I got to work. I can only speculate as to why my mother had this conversation with my boss-probably because she was upset I couldn't help her like I always do. My boss already knew what I had found out about Sadie's heart because I called her right away to let her know I'd be late. When my mom called me on my cell, she never mentioned she'd already talked to my boss and knew of the latest bad news. My mother actually had a conversation with my boss about how it might be time to put Sadie down. She had no right to have that conversation with my boss. And the worst part is that my mom was actually the one who found Sadie, and since no one else was willing to care for her, I was the one who adopted her when she was a year old. When I told my mom about what happened at Sadie's appointment, my mom already knew because she had spoken to my boss. She acted as if she didn't know-I found out from my boss after I got to work about their conversation. I am already barely functioning because of the grief of Sadie's rapidly declining health. Now I find out my mom betrayed me because she was inconvenienced by my altered availability due to our lengthy vet appointment. I am sad on so many levels. :(
(((Morgan and Sadie))) Saying prayers for both of you.
 

Spideyman

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I need to make a trip to the doctor today. I hate going to the doctor. Coaching softball Monday evening, I stepped on a ball running the bases and turned the ankle bad. Knew something tore inside but played through the pain anyway. The ankle today is still three times the normal size, I can barely walk on it, can’t sleep, and the pain is getting worse instead of better. I was going to put the doctors’ off until next week because my daughter’s final game is Friday night, and a couple coaches can’t make it. I need to coach first base, and I’m afraid the doctor will immobilize it and force me to stay off it... or make me get surgery. I ruined that ankle in my 20’s in a basketball game, and was told if I didn’t get surgery then, another injury would pretty much dictate surgery.

My family says I’m no kid anymore and need to stop with the competitive sports. Maybe someday I’ll listen... but probably not.


Holding to healing vibes and no surgery necessary.