It's That 'Time' Again

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not_nadine

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For some reason, when I first glanced at the thread title, the first thing that popped into my head was menstruation. I'm always late for work by exactly one-hour for both the fall-backwards and spring-forwards time changes. It takes planning...

So does menstruation. It's own plan.

Time change. Drive to work in the almost dark, Drive home in the almost dark. Prime time for deer running out in front of you.
 

80sFan

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I used to love turning the clocks back, when kiddo would fall asleep before 7 pm every night.
Now, he is awake until 10-11 pm (even though I put him to bed by 8) which wouldn't be horrible if he wasn't yelling, cursing, punching walls, stomping the floor, jumping on tables nonstop... :'(
 

not_nadine

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I used to love turning the clocks back, when kiddo would fall asleep before 7 pm every night.
Now, he is awake until 10-11 pm (even though I put him to bed by 8) which wouldn't be horrible if he wasn't yelling, cursing, punching walls, stomping the floor, jumping on tables nonstop... :'(
((((80's Fan)))) I don't know how you do it. Much respect for your patience and love.
 

GNTLGNT

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Thanks ;DD
I'm his mommy, I don't have a choice.
My boy is still in there somewhere underneath all the bad stuff, so I keep trying to find him.
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...cuz dey is da bestest and toughest.....
 

80sFan

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Does he have ASD? (I hope it's okay to ask you this... tell me to bugger off if you wish...)

Of course it's ok. Questions are always fine :)
He is severely autistic (along with a couple other diagnosis, that seem to change as he grows).
He wasn't always this low-functioning, so it's been extremely difficult for our family.

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...cuz dey is da bestest and toughest.....

Love it!
 

FlakeNoir

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Of course it's ok. Questions are always fine :)
He is severely autistic (along with a couple other diagnosis, that seem to change as he grows).
He wasn't always this low-functioning, so it's been extremely difficult for our family.

I work in the mental health industry, my client has severe autism and the current night-time behaviours sound very similar. This is what is so difficult, it is such an evolving thing, you never know what will be coming next. It is exhausting mentally, emotionally and physically to parent children (and care for adults) with ASD. I hope that you have access to respite care?
 

80sFan

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I work in the mental health industry, my client has severe autism and the current night-time behaviours sound very similar. This is what is so difficult, it is such an evolving thing, you never know what will be coming next. It is exhausting mentally, emotionally and physically to parent children (and care for adults) with ASD. I hope that you have access to respite care?

First, thank you for choosing to do what you do. If I'm honest, I don't know if I would be involved in this if I had had a choice, so I appreciate all the people who do their best for individuals with special needs ;DD

Secondly, we are having a rough time getting services now. The help is there (there is a waiting list) but the "professional" who is supposed to be coordinating services is not doing her job. I have notified her supervisors and they are willing to work things out - probably because I threatened to file a formal complaint against this person).
My son is 13 and was diagnosed @ age 3. For the past decade we haven't had a single major issue with anyone involved.
Now it seems we're making up for it.
 

FlakeNoir

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First, thank you for choosing to do what you do. If I'm honest, I don't know if I would be involved in this if I had had a choice, so I appreciate all the people who do their best for individuals with special needs ;DD

Secondly, we are having a rough time getting services now. The help is there (there is a waiting list) but the "professional" who is supposed to be coordinating services is not doing her job. I have notified her supervisors and they are willing to work things out - probably because I threatened to file a formal complaint against this person).
My son is 13 and was diagnosed @ age 3. For the past decade we haven't had a single major issue with anyone involved.
Now it seems we're making up for it.
I am fairly new to the service but also have a son that has some extra needs, he hasn't been diagnosed as he is high functioning, but has some extra support in school. We've been incredibly lucky to have had wonderful teachers for the most part and because I keep very good communication with them, we're normally able to work things out.

My client has been a very steep learning curve, I really do enjoy my work with her though. I am challenged every second I spend at work.

That is fantastic that things have been smooth with your support people up until now... and I'm so glad they're hearing you and responding well... you have enough challenges without the help agencies also being problematic.

My shifts are all day shifts, but I know from liaising with family and the other care workers that the night-times can be just awful. Sometimes people with autism don't sleep... it is common for clients to go 4 or 5 nights in a row without sleep at all. And these people need watching at all times over night.
This is not an easy life... parents like you are amazing, I hope you know this. (((80sFan )))
 

80sFan

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I am fairly new to the service but also have a son that has some extra needs, he hasn't been diagnosed as he is high functioning, but has some extra support in school. We've been incredibly lucky to have had wonderful teachers for the most part and because I keep very good communication with them, we're normally able to work things out.

My client has been a very steep learning curve, I really do enjoy my work with her though. I am challenged every second I spend at work.

That is fantastic that things have been smooth with your support people up until now... and I'm so glad they're hearing you and responding well... you have enough challenges without the help agencies also being problematic.

My shifts are all day shifts, but I know from liaising with family and the other care workers that the night-times can be just awful. Sometimes people with autism don't sleep... it is common for clients to go 4 or 5 nights in a row without sleep at all. And these people need watching at all times over night.
This is not an easy life... parents like you are amazing, I hope you know this. (((80sFan )))

You're sweet!
He used to be the best sleeper, even as a baby. Within the past few months, not so much. It's hard. Most days I'm just thankful to get through without injury or destruction.
Other days...

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It's either laugh or cry..tonight, I'm choosing to laugh
 

Spideyman

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I used to love turning the clocks back, when kiddo would fall asleep before 7 pm every night.
Now, he is awake until 10-11 pm (even though I put him to bed by 8) which wouldn't be horrible if he wasn't yelling, cursing, punching walls, stomping the floor, jumping on tables nonstop... :'(
80sFan -- guidance, cooperation amongst support staff and inner peace. Positive vibes, always.