I do not lie to hurt anyone. Sometimes, it is kinder to lie.
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Well said, staro! Very true and exactly how I feel as well.I do not lie to hurt anyone. Sometimes, it is kinder to lie.
Yes - my previous spouse - he had this habit of intentionally leaving out a little bit of information or leading you to believe something then saying no, he did not lie - it was awful!Have you told them?
To get out of work? A sick day? And feel terrible about it all day anyway, and get sick with guilt.
Have you ever been lied to? It's a horrible thing.
I work for myself, so I don't have to lie to take a day off work. I simply mark off the appointment book for that day.
Won't tell a lie, either.....it doesn't sit well with me and besides, it isn't necessary.
If you are holding someone's hand, injured and dying - and saying "it's going to be alright" When you know it isn't.
Necessary? I think.
I don't think that's a lie......
If person you knew painted a really horrible painting and asked your opinion. Would you tell him or her that you think the painting is crap? Ot would tell that person a a half-truth or an outright lie to spare their feelings?
I've lied to get out of work...
and I'm self employed.
I don't lie well as an adult (I was a lying fool as a kid--lol) because my face shows everything, but I've learned the art of being polite. In this situation, I focus on a positive: "Wow, your use of color is interesting!" "I like that curve there." "You're really dedicated--I'm glad painting makes you happy." This works, and is not a lie! I do it with babies all the time. If you're being honest, newborns aren't pretty. My MIL was shocked when I said that my first born looked exactly like a little turtle (lol), but he DID. They get pretty later (2-3 months), but being pushed out of the Play-Doh fun factory of life is hell, and babies look it. BUT! they are all precious (not a lie), and I have yet to meet one that doesn't have SOMETHING positive to comment on (size, hair, hands, whatever).If person you knew painted a really horrible painting and asked your opinion. Would you tell him or her that you think the painting is crap? Ot would tell that person a a half-truth or an outright lie to spare their feelings?
Depends on your definition of 'all right', I think. I wouldn't lie and say, "You're going to live" if they clearly weren't, but 'all right' is nebulous. Will life go on when they die? Yep. Will their loved ones okay? Likely. Can they stop hanging on (if that's the case) and rest? Yes. What happens after that is up for debate, and I'm not interested in doing that here, but most things will be 'all right', ultimately.If you are holding someone's hand, injured and dying - and saying "it's going to be alright" When you know it isn't.
Necessary? I think.
Play-Doh fun factory. I am so stealing this and using it. Absolutely brilliant and true.I don't lie well as an adult (I was a lying fool as a kid--lol) because my face shows everything, but I've learned the art of being polite. In this situation, I focus on a positive: "Wow, your use of color is interesting!" "I like that curve there." "You're really dedicated--I'm glad painting makes you happy." This works, and is not a lie! I do it with babies all the time. If you're being honest, newborns aren't pretty. My MIL was shocked when I said that my first born looked exactly like a little turtle (lol), but he DID. They get pretty later (2-3 months), but being pushed out of the Play-Doh fun factory of life is hell, and babies look it. BUT! they are all precious (not a lie), and I have yet to meet one that doesn't have SOMETHING positive to comment on (size, hair, hands, whatever).
I stole it from somewhere myself--maybe Robin Williams? I know I heard it years ago and it made me laugh Babies get cute, after a few weeks, newborns...not so much.Play-Doh fun factory. I am so stealing this and using it. Absolutely brilliant and true.
My youngest son looked like grandpa munster. Ugly baby.
My oldest looked Chinese. Seriously Chinese. In fact, so Chinese, my husband accused me of having an affair with the Schwan man -- who, by the way, was not Chinese. He was a pretty baby.
It is hard not to laugh. And people are just appalled, go figure. One of my friends had a baby that looked like Peter Lorre. Creepy looking baby.I stole it from somewhere myself--maybe Robin Williams? I know I heard it years ago and it made me laugh Babies get cute, after a few weeks, newborns...not so much.
I got in trouble with my mother once, at the grocery store. I took one look at the baby in the cart in front of us and blurted out, "He looks exactly like Rodney Dangerfield!" ( he did!) then about fell over laughing. The mother was not amused. My mother was not amused. I still couldn't stop laughing.
It is hard not to laugh. And people are just appalled, go figure. One of my friends had a baby that looked like Peter Lorre. Creepy looking baby.