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Im so envious of you all. I guess all i can say is i don't know. I met my future wife on a trip to India, fell in love (i didn't believe in love on first sightthe but if it wasn't first it was very close. She said she loved me which i hardly could believe. I came back to sweden and fought a long battle with the migration board so could get permission to come to sewden. It took three years of lettters, discussions and interwievs with them to get that permission. She came here, we married and after just a year she died. We had really just started to get to know each other but i think we could have hit it off. Really miss her, haven't seen anyone since then.
I'm so sorry for your loss (((Kurben))).
 

Shasta

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Im so envious of you all. I guess all i can say is i don't know. I met my future wife on a trip to India, fell in love (i didn't believe in love on first sightthe but if it wasn't first it was very close. She said she loved me which i hardly could believe. I came back to sweden and fought a long battle with the migration board so could get permission to come to sewden. It took three years of lettters, discussions and interwievs with them to get that permission. She came here, we married and after just a year she died. We had really just started to get to know each other but i think we could have hit it off. Really miss her, haven't seen anyone since then.
That's awful. I'm so sorry. But I'm glad you got to know and love her for any length of time.

I'm so, so sorry.
 

HollyGolightly

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Im so envious of you all. I guess all i can say is i don't know. I met my future wife on a trip to India, fell in love (i didn't believe in love on first sightthe but if it wasn't first it was very close. She said she loved me which i hardly could believe. I came back to sweden and fought a long battle with the migration board so could get permission to come to sewden. It took three years of lettters, discussions and interwievs with them to get that permission. She came here, we married and after just a year she died. We had really just started to get to know each other but i think we could have hit it off. Really miss her, haven't seen anyone since then.
((((Kurben)))) what a huge loss for you!
 

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Im so envious of you all. I guess all i can say is i don't know. I met my future wife on a trip to India, fell in love (i didn't believe in love on first sightthe but if it wasn't first it was very close. She said she loved me which i hardly could believe. I came back to sweden and fought a long battle with the migration board so could get permission to come to sewden. It took three years of lettters, discussions and interwievs with them to get that permission. She came here, we married and after just a year she died. We had really just started to get to know each other but i think we could have hit it off. Really miss her, haven't seen anyone since then.
My heart hurts for you as well. I'm so sorry that that happened. Keep strong and may God bless you forever.
 

HollyGolightly

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The Ogre and I were great, fantastic friends first - and then suddenly one day - we were more than friends - and there was a baby on the way (oops!). What a whirlwind all that was:

"Hey mom, remember my friend, Shrek? Yeah - the tall, cranky one. We're getting married next month and for Christmas, we're giving you a grandchild - surprise!"

23 years later, we're still great, fantastic friends. I still think he's hot. I clearly have him wrapped around my finger. We're good about giving each other lots of personal space - very important to both of us. It may look a little crazy from the outside, but it works for us.
 

skimom2

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I don't know about soul mates but my husband and I are incredibly in love and we've made a choice to stay that way. We went through some rough times and we decided to do everything we could to stick it out and we've been even more in love since then. He's my best friend.

23 years later, we're still great, fantastic friends. I still think he's hot. I clearly have him wrapped around my finger. We're good about giving each other lots of personal space - very important to both of us. It may look a little crazy from the outside, but it works for us.

This is exactly what I meant! Grown up love is so much better than fantasy.
 

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I dated my now husband when my children were very young. We had broken up and I married someone else who was hit and killed by a truck. A few years after being alone with my last child yet living at home. My husband now shows up out of the blue and asks me to marry him. LOL that took me by surprise. So my child call it a fairy tale romance. we have been married 10 years and adopted a son together.
 

skimom2

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I don't know about soul mates but my husband and I are incredibly in love and we've made a choice to stay that way. We went through some rough times and we decided to do everything we could to stick it out and we've been even more in love since then. He's my best friend.

Every decent marriage that I can think of has those rough patches (roughly at 7 yrs, 15 yrs, 25 yrs for a lot of people I know), when you're reminded that 'love' is an action verb. It's a choice to act 'love' sometimes, until you feel it again.

Love at first sight...nah. My thought is that to love someone you have to trust them, and to trust them you have to know them. That takes time.
 

Jojo87

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I met my boyfriend three months ago. We have not known each other long time. But it already feels like I have found my soul mate. That
first night when we met I wasn't even looking for a man that I'll spend rest of my life with, I was OK with that to be single. I just went out and party
with my best friend and was ready to go home around 2 am, but my friend wanted to stay longer ( I still thank her this day that she wanted to
stay longer) Around 3 am I started to talk with another friend I've known few years back. My boyfriend stood right behind this friend and when
the last song started to play my boyfriend saw me and asked if I want to dance with him. I said yes not knowing that I'll have found my maybe
future husband. I walked in the bar single and out of the bar with a man in my arms. We changed phone numbers but I was sure he never call me
again and I was ready to continue my life as a single. Yes I had already give up the hope to ever find the right one. He called very late next evening and
said that he had been tired after our bar trip last night. He still wanted to see me and we decided to go on a cup of coffee day after that. Three
months and here we are in a happy relationship. That night changed my life forever, boyfriend said that same to me when we was on the trip
Saturday. Now the future looks bright for us. I also told him that I wouldn't sit here in this car with him if I had go earlier home that night at the
same time when I said that they played the same song in the radio we danced to on our very first night we met.
 

Shasta

On his shell he holds the earth.
I dated my now husband when my children were very young. We had broken up and I married someone else who was hit and killed by a truck. A few years after being alone with my last child yet living at home. My husband now shows up out of the blue and asks me to marry him. LOL that took me by surprise. So my child call it a fairy tale romance. we have been married 10 years and adopted a son together.
This is a sad and wonderful story!
 

HollyGolightly

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Every decent marriage that I can think of has those rough patches (roughly at 7 yrs, 15 yrs, 25 yrs for a lot of people I know), when you're reminded that 'love' is an action verb. It's a choice to act 'love' sometimes, until you feel it again.

Love at first sight...nah. My thought is that to love someone you have to trust them, and to trust them you have to know them. That takes time.
Ha - yes, I spent the first 7 years thinking I'd definitely done something wrong - I was such a wild thing then. I'm surprised he put up with me.
 

HollyGolightly

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I dated my now husband when my children were very young. We had broken up and I married someone else who was hit and killed by a truck. A few years after being alone with my last child yet living at home. My husband now shows up out of the blue and asks me to marry him. LOL that took me by surprise. So my child call it a fairy tale romance. we have been married 10 years and adopted a son together.
So sad about your first husband, so romantic about your husband. This would make some good chic lit - a tear jerker with a happy ending.
 

Shasta

On his shell he holds the earth.
Every decent marriage that I can think of has those rough patches (roughly at 7 yrs, 15 yrs, 25 yrs for a lot of people I know), when you're reminded that 'love' is an action verb. It's a choice to act 'love' sometimes, until you feel it again.

Love at first sight...nah. My thought is that to love someone you have to trust them, and to trust them you have to know them. That takes time.
I'm inclined to agree with most of this, except the love at first sight. I saw my husband from behind for the first time and immediately knew I was going to marry him. It was strange.