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DiO'Bolic

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My heart goes out to you 80sFan. Look at it this way... if he comes back and there is a little improvement, it was worth it. I’ve come to find with my nephew that little things are really big things.

I bought a sofa, recliner and computer chair for my brother-in-law, as their 12 year old autistic son has destroyed all their living room furniture and they couldn't afford to replace it. I took my brother-in-law along to make the choices within a budget and he went more for styles he thought his son wouldn’t find parts in the construction to pick at and tear apart. After two weeks he destroyed the sofa pillows... but so far the furniture remains intact.
 

Religiously_Unkind

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I have 73 notifcations to check so I wanted to just post this before I even read those...things are not great here.
We had to have our son admitted to a facilty as an inpatient a couple weeks ago.
He became (even more) dangerous to himself and us and we had no other choice. He's 14, but has never been away from us more than a very rare overnight with grandparents. He will be home next week (they seem to think he is more stable now) and I miss him so so much (we have visited, but didn't go well) but I know he is where he needs to be right now.
Thank you to those who have asked about/prayed for/sent good thoughts to us. Truly appreciated.

This thread hits close to home, I spent time in children's mental health facilities when I was about that age. Took me a long time to get on a good medicine and become stable. My prayers go out to you and your son.
 

FlakeNoir

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He has been home a couple days now. So far, so good. And he will FINALLY be getting in-home help here that we have been requesting for about a year.
THANK YOU for the continued prayers and kind words.
I am so stoked to hear this! My job is linked to this kind of role, I have a client whose home I go to 5 days a week, it gives relief to the other family members.
My role is vocational, so myself and another worker take our client out for a couple of hours to try and get some integration into the community, with the right medication and lots of patience (and training for us), we're able to do some pretty fun things with our client. It gives the family time alone in their own home too... so that they're better able to cope with the difficult nights. Our clients family also sleep away from the house 2 nights a week in week one and 3 nights a week in week two, which helps enormously because people on the autism spectrum might go several nights in a row with no sleep at all.

I am really very happy to hear that help is coming, I believe this will change your lives immensely. :smile:
 

80sFan

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I am so stoked to hear this! My job is linked to this kind of role, I have a client whose home I go to 5 days a week, it gives relief to the other family members.
My role is vocational, so myself and another worker take our client out for a couple of hours to try and get some integration into the community, with the right medication and lots of patience (and training for us), we're able to do some pretty fun things with our client. It gives the family time alone in their own home too... so that they're better able to cope with the difficult nights. Our clients family also sleep away from the house 2 nights a week in week one and 3 nights a week in week two, which helps enormously because people on the autism spectrum might go several nights in a row with no sleep at all.

I am really very happy to hear that help is coming, I believe this will change your lives immensely. :smile:

Wow, Flake, that's wonderful that you are a part of that. I'd love that type of program!
For the services my son will be getting, a caregiver (my husband or I) has to be observing at all times. The goal is to think of ways to possibly prevent extreme behaviors and new ways to deal with meltdowns when they do occur.
It will mean almost no alone time with our son (since he is in school all day and goes to bed very early, the therapists will likely be here between the time he gets home from school util we are ready for dinner).
Any help is better than nothing, so we're thankful to be getting services at last.
We were offered a type of respite in the past, but I can't bring myself to allow my semi-verbal child to stay overnight at another family's house who I do not know.
I only allowed the hospitalization because that was a true emergency situation and felt it was our only hope.