My Big Secret..

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pegasus216

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I'm not sure anyone but a few people will be interested in what has been going on in my life.
Christmas day, my ex, Larry, came over in the afternoon. He had called, and told me he was coming over.
After exchanging gifts, he wanted to talk to me in private.
What he said to me shocked me beyond all belief!
He asked me to re-marry him!!
I couldn't tell him yes or no at that moment.
So I talked with someone from the board that has become a great friend to me.
She suggested that we date, which I am doing now. Mostly to get to know each other again.
I've been throwing some pretty hard questions at him, and I've been liking his answers so far.
So what do you all think? Am I nuts to consider this?
I know we are both a lot happier than we have been since we separated.
I like feeling this way!
So, there you have it in a nutshell.
 

kingricefan

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I'm not sure anyone but a few people will be interested in what has been going on in my life.
Christmas day, my ex, Larry, came over in the afternoon. He had called, and told me he was coming over.
After exchanging gifts, he wanted to talk to me in private.
What he said to me shocked me beyond all belief!
He asked me to re-marry him!!
I couldn't tell him yes or no at that moment.
So I talked with someone from the board that has become a great friend to me.
She suggested that we date, which I am doing now. Mostly to get to know each other again.
I've been throwing some pretty hard questions at him, and I've been liking his answers so far.
So what do you all think? Am I nuts to consider this?
I know we are both a lot happier than we have been since we separated.
I like feeling this way!
So, there you have it in a nutshell.
As long as things are hunky-dory, and it doesn't go back to how things were that caused the two of you to split up in the first place, then I see no problem. I don't know how long you two have been divorced. People can change, so maybe he has realized what he did in the past to make you divorce him and he has grown as a person. Take things slow- but enjoy yourself while you're at it.
 

FlakeNoir

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Well I am very glad to hear that you are happy and I agree with KRF, proceed with caution... I would maybe question why the sudden change? (if it is out of the blue behaviour) But dating is a good idea if it all seems to be above board. (sorry, I am a bit of a 'once bitten, twice shy' kind of girl :blush: )

Enjoy yourself and keep yourself safe too. (((Mary)))
 

pegasus216

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Thanks for the advice, and good wishes.
My dear daughter, Karen, knew about this way before I did. Seems Larry, and her had talked quite a bit about this before he asked me.
He told me that being apart from me put his own life in perspective, and he would never forgive himself for causing the divorce, but hoped that I could forgive him. I'm really working on this.
It is such a change for both of us to be 'dating' again after 2 years of being divorced.
 

pegasus216

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Be careful, go slow, listen to that little voice that every woman has, and if everything seems to be on the up-and-up? Have a blast falling in love again! (((((Pegasus)))))
I never fell out of love with him. He has been the love of my life. I am sure hoping this goes the way I want. I think he wants the same thing as I do. To be happy, and enjoy each other.
 

Patricia A

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I'm not sure anyone but a few people will be interested in what has been going on in my life.
Christmas day, my ex, Larry, came over in the afternoon. He had called, and told me he was coming over.
After exchanging gifts, he wanted to talk to me in private.
What he said to me shocked me beyond all belief!
He asked me to re-marry him!!
I couldn't tell him yes or no at that moment.
So I talked with someone from the board that has become a great friend to me.
She suggested that we date, which I am doing now. Mostly to get to know each other again.
I've been throwing some pretty hard questions at him, and I've been liking his answers so far.
So what do you all think? Am I nuts to consider this?
I know we are both a lot happier than we have been since we separated.
I like feeling this way!
So, there you have it in a nutshell.
I'm so happy for you! Follow your heart and be happy! As long as he hasn't abused you physically or mentally, I'd say go for it. If he has abused you, but you have your heart set on trying again, ask him to go to couple's counseling with you before you commit to anything. Sometimes leopards do change their spots, but some are just real good at covering them up for a time. I'm a once bitten twice shy kinda gal in case you didn't pick that up. :grinning:
Just my two pennies.
 

pegasus216

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I'm so happy for you! Follow your heart and be happy! As long as he hasn't abused you physically or mentally, I'd say go for it. If he has abused you, but you have your heart set on trying again, ask him to go to couple's counseling with you before you commit to anything. Sometimes leopards do change their spots, but some are just real good at covering them up for a time. I'm a once bitten twice shy kinda gal in case you didn't pick that up. :grinning:
Just my two pennies.
Oh my no! He didn't abuse me! If he had, I wouldn't even consider this!
 

danie

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(sorry, I am a bit of a 'once bitten, twice shy' kind of girl :blush: )
I'm with ya, Flake!
Peg, I advise taking it slowly. If he did the same thing that caused my divorce, then I advise VERY slowly!
Stay independent and strong within yourself. Ask him every question that enters your heart--you deserve honesty and faithfulness.
I wish you much love and luck!
 

mjs9153

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Well,there is a reason you married him in the first place,maybe things can be fixed and brought back to where they were at the start..hard to forget one's first,or best love..anyhow,best wishes to you that it works out for you.. :)