My Own Annie Wilkes Experience......

[FlakeNoir]

I just feel so bad for you Cody, because you already have something very big and difficult happening in your life... and trying to keep your stress levels low will aid in healing.

 

[CrimsonKingAH]

Stalking is very serious and can get out of control before you know it. I have a stalking story.. just not ready to tell it. But I will say that the stalker lost his life, but it could have very easily have been the other way around.
Glad you are ok. Keep records of when and where you hear from him or see him. Go to the police often if it continues.. do not let the police put you off. Block his number and fb account.

 

[Debbie913]

((((Cody))))
I'm so sorry this happened to you. I am also extremely glad that you got home safely. Please be careful out there...people are unpredictable. I hope you don't feel like this was your fault, no matter what you post on FB, no one has the right to violate you that way. What a creep! There is some good advice in this thread, although you are an extremely smart man and likely know all of it already.
I hope the police took you seriously and that nothing else happens. Keep taking care of you. Hope you feel better soon.

 

[BeverleyMarsh]

It must have been really scary, I hope you're a bit better now. A big hug from me too

 

[pegasus216]

Wow, Cody. Listen to what everyone has told you, and next time, if the guy tries it again, you'll be ready for him. Hopefully the police can do something about the guy.

 

[Spideyman]

(((Cody))) I am so sorry this had to happen to you. All the posters above have given you excellent advice. Be watchful- all the time. Sending some calming vibes and a few extra guardian angels your way.

 

[cat in a bag]

Cody, please be careful. I am glad you are safe. Everyone has great advice, I am glad you have alerted police.

Big hugs to you.

 

[DiO'Bolic]

One of the most poignant movie scenes ever.

 

[Moderator]

(((Cody))) Everyone above has given all the advice I could have offered. Very glad you're okay and hope this person will not bother you again.

 

[do1you9love?]

((Cody)) Echoing everyone's sentiments that you made it home safely. Continued prayers and good vibes for your healing, and extra ones that this event will not hinder your progress.

 

[Dana Jean]

First of all, BIG HUGS!!!!!!!!!

Secondly, I know you feel you should have, could have done something differently....but the truth is that even people who spend oodles of time prepping for stuff like this still end up being overpowered.

None of this is your fault, and you aren't responsible for what this weirdo did. You were smart and paid attention during the event, and used what you gathered to your advantage, that's the best thing anyone could have done.

People are tossing advice in to the thread, and they mean it for general knowledge not like "You should have known this beforehand!" Just in case you were reading it that way.

Are you okay right now? Do you have someone to call if you're afraid, or you just want to talk? Thankfully, you're okay. But your body is going to take a while to spin down after that panic and adrenaline, and this episode will probably repeat on you when you least expect it.

Big hugs, again. And a thousand times more!

I am tossing advice so he will run this through his head before it happens again. I am not blaming him. Anyone can be overpowered. The Gift of Fear gives every piece of advice I just said. I am so glad he is safe and made it out of that situation. I just don't want him to get it that situation again.

 

[hipmamajen]

I am tossing advice so he will run this through his head before it happens again. I am not blaming him. Anyone can be overpowered. The Gift of Fear gives every piece of advice I just said. I am so glad he is safe and made it out of that situation. I just don't want him to get it that situation again.

I knew that you weren't blaming him, Dana Jean. You have one of the sharpest minds and sweetest hearts on the SKMB, and I know you were giving him (and everyone else!) good advice to chew on.

AchtungBaby, how are you today?

 

[Dana Jean]

I knew that you weren't blaming him, Dana Jean. You have one of the sharpest minds and sweetest hearts on the SKMB, and I know you were giving him (and everyone else!) good advice to chew on.

AchtungBaby, how are you today?

we're cool. I was just frightened for him.

 

[hipmamajen]

we're cool. I was just frightened for him.

I know you were, I could hear your Mama Bear heart beating from here!

((((((((((SKMB Group Hug))))))))))

 

[Dana Jean]

I know you were, I could hear your Mama Bear heart beating from here!

((((((((((SKMB Group Hug))))))))))

I did a little bit of scolding and you gave him the comfort he needed. We covered the bases.

 

[not_nadine]

Has he checked back in?

 

[GNTLGNT]

...Dude, I am grateful you escaped physically unscathed...many kind and intelligent words have been posted here, and please heed them...mentally, it will take a long time to push this experience into a drawer of it's own...never forget, simply learn from it and know you're loved...as a postscript, this is my idea to help keep you safe...

 

[AchtungBaby]

Thanks for the responses, I am fine today. I didn't work today though, so I wasn't on campus as late. Will be tomorrow though.

 

[Neesy]

A guy added me on Facebook. 20 or 21 years old. I thought he looked familiar and he messaged me and started talking. I knew him because he works at the local CFA and went to a church I visited a few times with friends. We started texting and he would ask me over and over when we were gonna hang out. I always had stuff going on. Every day he'd ask like 6 times. He was like "you're so cute! Let's hang" etc. I got bad vibes from him. Super pushy. He texted me at 5:30 this evening and said "I'm here at your work in the parking lot." And I said "what? Why? How did you even know where I work?" And he said "I wanna see you." So I said "Leave. Right now. I don't wanna see you." And I went out to the parking lot and he was there in his car. Tried getting in my car and he grabbed me and was like "let's go to the park!!! " and I said "let go of me," and he pulled me into his car. (I have meds I'm supposed to take at 6 to help me with feeling so exhausted, but they were in my car and I had no way of getting them). I tried texting my mom but he grabbed my phone. We went to the park and some of his friends were there and I tried making the best of it. I didn't know what would happen if I didn't. So.... I was there for like an hour and they were doing a bible study, of all things. I eventually said if he ever wants to meet me again he was to take me to my car right then. He did, and now here I am at home. This is 100% true. Nothing made up. I can barely believe it myself........ But it happened.

He told me he just wanted to meet me because he liked what I posted on FB, and he'd been reading my blog and also followed my Instagram. He said he was a "fan" of me and was so desperate to meet me.

Let this be a word of warning-- be wary of what you post on social media. Always. Be wary of who follows you.

Sorry if this isn't very coherent or well-written, just very shaken up.

Sorry to hear you had to go through such a crummy experience. If he bothers you again, contact the police - watch out for loonies like this guy - stay safe!

 

[Neesy]

Thanks for the responses, I am fine today. I didn't work today though, so I wasn't on campus as late. Will be tomorrow though.

Hi - sorry I blasted off a quick response before reading all the other posts. Take some time for yourself.

A bible study? He took you to a frickin' Bible Study!??

(that is so weird)

Glad to hear you are safe today.