Pay It Forward Grinch?

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Spideyman

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He was asked if he "would like to pay for the next customer", not told he had to do it.
He intentionally drove to that Starbucks:
Peter Schorsch, a blogger, drove to the Starbucks drive-thru in St. Petersburg, Florida, on Thursday after hearing about the pay it forward phenomenon there that ended with customer No. 458, a woman, the day before.

This part of the article says a lot: "Schorsch isn't a stranger to controversy. Those active in politics had made allegations that Schorsch asked for money from interviewees in exchange for good stories. Schorsch denied the "quid pro quo" allegations and no charges were filed."
 
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Lily Sawyer

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Grinch? F*ckhead is more like it. Not only does he miss the entire point of the spirit of the thing, he also keeps score, really p-e-t-t-y score with his "I'm drinking a $6 Frappucino and the next guy might want just a $2 plain ole cuppa Joe, so it's unfair to me to pay $6".

He's trying to dictate to others how they spend their money and categorizing the Pay It Forward mentality into the charitable giving slot. The two are very different. One is random and a karma/faith-based action, and the other is a donation to a specific charitable effort.
 
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I agree with Spidey, he knew in advance what was happening there and had already decided to put an end to it before he arrived. (Hell, he'd probably already pre-written his blog entry. Ass.)

A few days ago, I was standing in line at the grocery shop when the lady in front of me didn't have enough money to pay for her items, she was going to put some things back, so I just asked the check-out lady to add her purchases to mine--the woman left her cash and we combined the sale.
She was so grateful and I do feel like somebody else that day or sometime soon, will get the benefit of her appreciation. (& I reminded her that we have all at some stage, been in the situation where we just didn't have enough right then.)

The douche in the above article, is denying people that good feeling you get when you help somebody else, he prevented himself from feeling it too, silly man.
 
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Okay-a completely different scenario, but...I have "paid it forward" at Starbucks out-of-the-blue numerous times when I had a few extra bucks on me. I have actually had someone pay for mine on two occasions, both times I was so blessed and speechless, I tipped the barista and drove off without even thinking until minutes later, oh my-I shoulda paid for the person behind me! I sure hope I didn't break a streak of kindness out of sheer gratefulness that resulted in an inability to think straight!!! :down:
 
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I have had people buy my drinks through the drive thru, and i have paid for a few too. But sometimes, I really don't have the 6 dollars when all I was going to get was a 2 dollar cup of coffee. I'm not being greedy, I just sometimes don't have those extra dollars.
 
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Dana Jean said:
And I like the surprise of a random act of kindness. I don't really think I would like to be asked if I want to. Okay, I guess I sort of agree with the guy. Were people buying out of generosity, or feeling like they had to? I guess I' m a pencil d*ck bug f**ker.:near_tears:
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NO WAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Playing the devil's advocate shows a certain wisdom...IMHO! :smile:
 
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Dana Jean said:
And I like the surprise of a random act of kindness. I don't really think I would like to be asked if I want to. Okay, I guess I sort of agree with the guy. Were people buying out of generosity, or feeling like they had to? I guess I' m a pencil d*ck bug f**ker.:near_tears:
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No, you're not. *He* is. He's malicious; you're not. He's unappreciative; you're not. Get it?
It's just a question being asked, and he doesn't have to agree to it. AND - he doesn't have to get all p*ssy about it, either, and blog with a mean spirit. But he does anyway.

Clearly he hasn't grasped the concept of karma, either.
 
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Dana Jean said:
And I like the surprise of a random act of kindness. I don't really think I would like to be asked if I want to. Okay, I guess I sort of agree with the guy. Were people buying out of generosity, or feeling like they had to? I guess I' m a pencil d*ck bug f**ker.:near_tears:
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...Never ever!!!...an ornery ovary kitty diddler maybe...:love:
 
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He's a douche because: as stated, he deliberately drove to that Starbucks to "break the chain." Who does that? He can think what he likes about it being a Starbucks marketing ploy, but to actually get in your car to put a stop to something is crappy.

He's not a douche because: there is an aggression behind some of these "pay it forward" things, certainly not all of them, but there's nothing that kills my generosity of spirit more than an expectation that I'll be generous. I want to feel like it's my idea.

And while I'm playing devil's advocate, let me sound more like a douche/tightwad/**ithead by saying this: I'm at the store buying things for my daughter's new school year, and the cashier says, "Would you like to round up your total as a donation?" Usually, I say "sure." But I was feeling prickly, for some reason, so I (politely) asked, "A donation for....?" She said, "I don't know. They told us to ask, but I don't know what it's for." So I said, "No, thank you."

I don't know. I guess I'm in a bad mood.
 
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SusanNorton said:
He's a douche because: as stated, he deliberately drove to that Starbucks to "break the chain." Who does that? He can think what he likes about it being a Starbucks marketing ploy, but to actually get in your car to put a stop to something is crappy.

He's not a douche because: there is an aggression behind some of these "pay it forward" things, certainly not all of them, but there's nothing that kills my generosity of spirit more than an expectation that I'll be generous. I want to feel like it's my idea.

And while I'm playing devil's advocate, let me sound more like a douche/tightwad/**ithead by saying this: I'm at the store buying things for my daughter's new school year, and the cashier says, "Would you like to round up your total as a donation?" Usually, I say "sure." But I was feeling prickly, for some reason, so I (politely) asked, "A donation for....?" She said, "I don't know. They told us to ask, but I don't know what it's for." So I said, "No, thank you."

I don't know. I guess I'm in a bad mood.
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Now there is an employee who just does not give a sh*t - does this sound like something a reasonable person says? Did they really tell her to ask? If she did not know what the donation was for, perhaps she could have asked her manager?
 
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SusanNorton said:
He's a douche because: as stated, he deliberately drove to that Starbucks to "break the chain." Who does that? He can think what he likes about it being a Starbucks marketing ploy, but to actually get in your car to put a stop to something is crappy.

He's not a douche because: there is an aggression behind some of these "pay it forward" things, certainly not all of them, but there's nothing that kills my generosity of spirit more than an expectation that I'll be generous. I want to feel like it's my idea.

And while I'm playing devil's advocate, let me sound more like a douche/tightwad/**ithead by saying this: I'm at the store buying things for my daughter's new school year, and the cashier says, "Would you like to round up your total as a donation?" Usually, I say "sure." But I was feeling prickly, for some reason, so I (politely) asked, "A donation for....?" She said, "I don't know. They told us to ask, but I don't know what it's for." So I said, "No, thank you."

I don't know. I guess I'm in a bad mood.
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