You remind me of someone and I can't place the face. Some English actor.
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César Hernández-Meraz
Wants to be Nick, ends up as Larry
I'm so glad you asked. I was just having this conversation with his father. Short answer: it's frustrating as hell. I was raised in suburban New Hampshire as an only child: conversely, my husband (amicably separated for the majority of Danny's life), the youngest of nine, grew up in Chicago. We share custody.
Maybe part of this is my background teaching high school, but I think he is still a kid! Just last night, he asks me
"mom, can I have a ride to the park?"
"Sure! Who's going?
"Friends"
Having past experience with this, I replied
"Friends from . . .?
"Friends."
"like, friends from school, or like that scruffy twenty-year-old who I drove you to meet once?"
"from school"
"how will you be getting home?"
"A friend . . .. . ' S mom?"
"fine honey, call your friend, Id like to talk to his mom and make sure that's OK with her!"
"Actually, I'm not going to go."
His dad's answer to me was "I was running all over the streets of Chicago by age 11, what's the big deal?"
That's my child! We live in the middle of Phoenix and he's 15 1/2!
I probably should ease up, he'd like me more. I can't seem to allow him freedoms that he has not earned.
Actually I (not being a father, but always thinking even kids can have responsibilities according to their age) think you are fine in only allowing him whatever freedom he has learned.
You may talk to him about it, though, so the rules are perfectly clear for him.
He should know you are not simply trying to keep him caged (as tempting as that may be).
My parents allowed me to do a lot of things, but I always had to keep them informed of my whereabouts and my returning time, calling if I would be delayed. It is a very fair price, I believe.
I loved this part!
Thank you for taking the time to reply so thoughtfully! Once I let go of my preconceptions about parenting, I learned to adapt and listen. When something I've tried repeatedly is t working, it's time for a beer. ( I was going to say "different approach"- autocorrected
)You will be a great father, I hope you get the chance.
Bella's last day as an 11 year old, last weekend, . I'm dreading the whole 'going to stop at a girlfriend's house' lies. She's already confided in Julie, my girlfriend, that she's had a boyfriend.
Awww she's a cutie. Champ, it's all part of growing up. Just lay a good foundation and she will come full circle.
...just invite the young lad to drop over to the flat and be cleaning your musket when he arrives...
Muskets were popular when GNT was growing up Champ, both for hunting and fending off the British.....
...and I'm drawing a bead in the whites of yer eyes right now you Yankee pig dog!...might I have a flash for my pan???...Muskets were popular when GNT was growing up Champ, both for hunting and fending off the British.....
Best euphemism I've heard all week buddy. I'm sure the poor lad would be scarred for life.....Just like the last one. He was last seen running down the street screaming 'my eyes, my eyes'
my last post was a reply to this btw
César Hernández-Meraz
Wants to be Nick, ends up as Larry
Thank you for taking the time to reply so thoughtfully! Once I let go of my preconceptions about parenting, I learned to adapt and listen. When something I've tried repeatedly is t working, it's time for a beer. ( I was going to say "different approach"- autocorrected
You will be a great father, I hope you get the chance.
I dunno how good I'd be. I'd be probably put in jail for forcing my kids to like Marvel Comics, or else.
I just remembered you mentioned his older friend in the other post.
If he gives you a vibe or if he looks suspicious, you may want to check more on him and their activities.
But I would say there is nothing inherently wrong with a 15 year old and a 20 year old hanging together. Just make sure that their common interests are safe for your boy. In my theater group, we have people over 50 and we had a 12 year old girl last year. Our current youngest is a 14 year old boy. Our common interest allows for very nice interactions, and it actually keeps the youngsters away from alcohol and drugs (I guess some theater people do drugs, but that does not seem to be the case in this one, thank God).
César Hernández-Meraz
Wants to be Nick, ends up as Larry
I know it may be sexist to keep boys away from our young girls when we do not behave the same way with our young boys, and that we may try to paint our girls as "victims" of the evil boys who want to take advantage of them...
But even so, I would do the same thing if I had a girl that age. Even older. No boyfriends until she is 25, hahahahaha.
Perhaps men tend to protect their girls more (do we project our own intentions from when we were that age into their would-be-boyfriends?) and women may protect their boys more, finding horrible defects in all their would-be-girlfriends, no matter the age.
But even so, I would do the same thing if I had a girl that age. Even older. No boyfriends until she is 25, hahahahaha.
Perhaps men tend to protect their girls more (do we project our own intentions from when we were that age into their would-be-boyfriends?) and women may protect their boys more, finding horrible defects in all their would-be-girlfriends, no matter the age.
She is a beautiful young lady, Champ.
Wrong, person!
But she is beautiful!You both look great! She looks wise beyond her years
. This is the "going out" stage. Girls get really into it, boys downplay it for a few more years. I love seeing these pics, keep sharing!
What I suffer from in age-related weakness, I make up in a near-complete lack of speed and aggression.
You really look alot like Matt Damon, Grandpa. No relation? You sure about that? Lol.
Matt Damon's mom was on faculty at Lesllie Ellis college in Cambridge.
Yea, me too. I would be the first to die in an apocalypse. Crying shame too - I would be an invaluable source of trivial information.
