Six Decades of Love

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GNTLGNT

GNTLGNT

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....hey everybody...I haven't started a Thread in a while, just because I hadn't really thought up anything profound or profoundly stupid(at least long-form stupid that is)...but recent events made me want to toss something out there...I have talked about my beloved, my kids and all the turmoil there...my grandparents, but I realized that I've never "introduced" my folks...and more importantly, that after 53 years of being around them-I know MUCH less than I thought I did, about what Steve calls "that secret inner life of a marriage" or words to that effect...my mother, Kathleen is a retired 4th grade teacher and my dad-Richard a retired TV/Radio Sales account executive...they have been married for nearly 60 years...both are in their 80's now...Mom 84 and Dad, 86....as some may know, my Ma has been ailing of late...she is improving steadily as the days go by-but tough times remain....dad has been there for her everyday...that doesn't surprise me, but here's what has...my parents have never been demonstrative of their love for one another or me, in words or action...i.e. hugs & kisses....never saw them hold hands, whisper in one another's ears or any other kinds of simple intimacy that many take for granted-hell, it was just a few years ago that my dad actually voiced the words "I love you" to me...imagine how momentarily taken aback I was when mom's situation was at it's most dire-and my father broke down in tears, and through his sobs says "I don't know what I'd do without her, I just love her so much!" He has been regularly kissing her on the lips and caressing her brow as she lies in her bed...and she fretting over him and expressing her love...this may sound like so much silliness to be heartwarmed over, but I have found a new level of love and respect for them both as their generational stoicism has broken down, and allowed the true light of their love to shine through...again, it may seem mundane to some-but to me, it's been akin to a miracle...even though it took years, I find these words now more true than ever before...

And now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; and the greatest of these is love.

...thanks everyone for letting me share that....
 
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~Ally~

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Aww, reading that actually made me smile. :smile2:

Your situation sounds very similar to my parents, they're in their seventies and are not affectionately demonstrative. We are not a "huggy" family and I'm the youngest of five children but they've never vocally expressed their "love" for any of us. Yet we all know it exists and are extremely close. Different strokes for different folks! :wink2:
 
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blunthead

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GNTLGNT said:
....hey everybody...I haven't started a Thread in a while, just because I hadn't really thought up anything profound or profoundly stupid(at least long-form stupid that is)...but recent events made me want to toss something out there...I have talked about my beloved, my kids and all the turmoil there...my grandparents, but I realized that I've never "introduced" my folks...and more importantly, that after 53 years of being around them-I know MUCH less than I thought I did, about what Steve calls "that secret inner life of a marriage" or words to that effect...my mother, Kathleen is a retired 4th grade teacher and my dad-Richard a retired TV/Radio Sales account executive...they have been married for nearly 60 years...both are in their 80's now...Mom 84 and Dad, 86....as some may know, my Ma has been ailing of late...she is improving steadily as the days go by-but tough times remain....dad has been there for her everyday...that doesn't surprise me, but here's what has...my parents have never been demonstrative of their love for one another or me, in words or action...i.e. hugs & kisses....never saw them hold hands, whisper in one another's ears or any other kinds of simple intimacy that many take for granted-hell, it was just a few years ago that my dad actually voiced the words "I love you" to me...imagine how momentarily taken aback I was when mom's situation was at it's most dire-and my father broke down in tears, and through his sobs says "I don't know what I'd do without her, I just love her so much!" He has been regularly kissing her on the lips and caressing her brow as she lies in her bed...and she fretting over him and expressing her love...this may sound like so much silliness to be heartwarmed over, but I have found a new level of love and respect for them both as their generational stoicism has broken down, and allowed the true light of their love to shine through...again, it may seem mundane to some-but to me, it's been akin to a miracle...even though it took years, I find these words now more true than ever before...

And now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; and the greatest of these is love.

...thanks everyone for letting me share that....
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Scott, let me respond to this a little later, which I intend to after I'm able to read it fully. I can't just now.:smile:
 
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hossenpepper

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An old couple was married for 50 years and had started sleeping in separate beds across from each other. One night, the wife says "I am feeling frisky tonight" to which the husband replies "well then come on over sweetheart!", throwing back the covers to allow her in. she starts across the room and trips on a throw rug between the beds, taking a small spill. The husband jumps up, quickly as he can with true concern in his eyes and voice. "Are you OK my sweet, sweet wife? Are you hurt? Can I do anything?" he says as he helps her up, caressing her arm, filled with worry. "No, no, I am fine" she says and they proceed to his bed and make love.

"Well that was nice sweetheart, I am going back to my bed now" the wife says. the husband, smiling widely and with love in his eyes says "Yes dear, that was quite lovely. Thank you." As she travels back, she again trips and falls over the problematic rug. Lying on the floor she looks to her husband, still gingerly reclined back in his bed, hands clasped behind his head. He looks back at her and says...
What the hell is your problem? Can't you even walk, b!tch? :)
 
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Out of Order

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Thank you for sharing this. Both my parents are still alive and both have passed age 90. Hard for me to talk about them because I know that their time is near. What makes it so difficult is we are separated by distance and circumstance. I only get to see them a few times a year. Phone calls are good, but no replacement. Like I say....it's difficult to talk about. Thanks for listening......
 
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