I love hot food, but as I got older, it doesn't always agree with me, so I've dialed back. But I'm the guy who, when the sushi group is out, has the greenest wasabi/soy mixture, by far. When they bring out the plate of fish and rolls, everyone says, "Grandpa's here! We need more wasabi!" True story.
The other true story. Grandma and I went to a Korean restaurant on a San Francisco trip. One of the dishes was skate. Hm, I thought. I've never had skate. I ordered skate.
The waiter and apparent proprietor said in somewhat halting English, "Uh... hot. That meal hot."
"It's okay. I like hot food."
He looked uncertain. He said, "Hot. Even I think.... hot."
Oh, so now we're in a measuring contest, are we? Just because you think it's spicy means that it's too much for me? I looked at him deliberately and said, "It's okay. I like hot food."
He gave up, and we got our main dishes and about 63 little side dishes, one of which looked like whole minnows crisped golden. Something else looked like an alien plant.
I tried the skate. It had the texture and feel of pebbles tied together with strips of leather, and it was a freakin' blast furnace inside my mouth. I sat and chewed on the leather and crunched the pebbles in near-complete stoicism. I allowed myself a tiny sip of water every few minutes. I also ate the side dishes, and those crunchy whole-body minnows weren't bad at all, the alien vegetables were quite tasty, and they were all pretty good. Apparently, their ingredients did not include skate.
He came back after a bit. "Everything okay?"
Grandma said her food was delicious. I couldn't say the same, because it wasn't, not by a long shot, but I sat there with half my main dish gone, my water glass still nearly full, smiled at him and said, "It's fine."
So if you're in a Korean restaurant, don't order skate, especially if they say it's hot and spicy, because they're just trying to mask a decidedly ugly meal with lots of heat.
Years later, I had an occasion to spend a few weeks in South Korea. I liked darn near everything I put in my mouth, including jellyfish salad and assorted kimchee. But I never saw any skate, and I would've passed if I had.