No offence taken on my part, I just wasn't sure what the Q was for. Although I prefer "questioning" over "queer". You're right about how people describe themselves, one of my friends has used that word along with "bent" to describe himself, but I have other friends who find the terms derogatory. Each to their own.
I hate the word "questioning" in that usage. None of the people I personally know are questioning. They know they are gay....no question about it.
I get using "bent", in a mocking way. If I am "straight" then what is the opposite? Bent.