The Ka-tet Cantina 2

[do1you9love?]

(((Cat)))

Hope it's more peaceful today!

Happy Friday All!

 

[Jojo87]

Hope all have a good weekend!! Take care of you and be well. Stay safe too!!

(((all in need or not)))

 

[kingricefan]

Hi All! Hugs to all who need them. Starting my week-long vacation today and will be flying out tomorrow. So much to do today!! Don't know if I'll be able to check in here or not, so if you don't hear from me in a week don't worry, but if two weeks go by then call the police! Everyone have a great weekend!!!

 

[blunthead]

Hi All! Hugs to all who need them. Starting my week-long vacation today and will be flying out tomorrow. So much to do today!! Don't know if I'll be able to check in here or not, so if you don't hear from me in a week don't worry, but if two weeks go by then call the police! Everyone have a great weekend!!!

Have a blast!

 

[kingricefan]

Have a blast!

No I won't. Thanks for the well wishes! Won't be doing much but visiting family and relaxing. Vacations are easy when you're poor.......

 

[Kurben]

Have just been rearranging my books..... Got a bookshelf and a lot of books from moms apartment. Now, hopefully, everything will have a place. And its good therapy too. Feel much better, not so depressed as i been lately (empying her apartment and all), and i think it has to do with getting things more in order and seeing things that were hers at my place. Feels more like she is with me when i has the books i selected in order at the shelfes. Perhaps it sounds silly but it feels better so i go with it.

 

[Spideyman]

Have just been rearranging my books..... Got a bookshelf and a lot of books from moms apartment. Now, hopefully, everything will have a place. And its good therapy too. Feel much better, not so depressed as i been lately (empying her apartment and all), and i think it has to do with getting things more in order and seeing things that were hers at my place. Feels more like she is with me when i has the books i selected in order at the shelfes. Perhaps it sounds silly but it feels better so i go with it.

your mom is with you, Kurben. Organized rooms, books, items always make a person feel better. I hope you have a wonderful weekend!

 

[Kurben]

your mom is with you, Kurben. Organized rooms, books, items always make a person feel better. I hope you have a wonderful weekend!

Thank you for these kind words!!! Somehow it feels worse now than when my father died 8 years ago. My mother was sick then so i had to take care of all the arrangements then too but then i had someone to talk too about it at least.

 

[Spideyman]

Thank you for these kind words!!! Somehow it feels worse now than when my father died 8 years ago. My mother was sick then so i had to take care of all the arrangements then too but then i had someone to talk too about it at least.

We are here for you, Kurben. I know it's not like someone real sitting with you in a room, but we are your cyber family. Ears/eyes are open, as well as our hearts. You can talk with us.

 

[hossenpepper]

Thank you for these kind words!!! Somehow it feels worse now than when my father died 8 years ago. My mother was sick then so i had to take care of all the arrangements then too but then i had someone to talk too about it at least.

Oh Kurben, so sorry my friend. I can't fully understand losing a parent. I've lost most of my family on both sides, but my parents are still around and pretty viable. My wife lost both her parents before the age of 20 in tragic circumstances and I've gained some insight from talking with her, but all I can truly offer is a shoulder on which to cry and many hugs and warm smiles. She certainly brought forth a gentle, intelligent, kind and warm human to the earth and deserves many praises for that alone!

A quote from the Beatles always gives me comfort when I lose friends or family. Perhaps it could for you too.

"And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make."

From what I know of you, your mother was driving a huge tractor trailer full of love into the clearing at the end of the path. You'll be well met again someday.

((((((KURBEN & FAMILY))))))

 

[do1you9love?]

Oh Kurben, so sorry my friend. I can't fully understand losing a parent. I've lost most of my family on both sides, but my parents are still around and pretty viable. My wife lost both her parents before the age of 20 in tragic circumstances and I've gained some insight from talking with her, but all I can truly offer is a shoulder on which to cry and many hugs and warm smiles. She certainly brought forth a gentle, intelligent, kind and warm human to the earth and deserves many praises for that alone!

A quote from the Beatles always gives me comfort when I lose friends or family. Perhaps it could for you too.

"And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make."

From what I know of you, your mother was driving a huge tractor trailer full of love into the clearing at the end of the path. You'll be well met again someday.

((((((KURBEN & FAMILY))))))

Dang Hoss! That was beautifully said!!

(((Kurben)))

 

[hossenpepper]

It's the cruelest joke of living and loving; death. After a lifetime of memories of a viable and special person, your last memory of them is their end. Perhaps this is why I always choose to focus on celebrating their life and all the energy which they gave and took to and from me. At the end, it's the relationships and little things you share with another that give you comfort and meaning.

Please Kurben, tell us more about your mother's life and her loves, interests, accomplishments, etc. I find speaking of the joy one brings lessens the hurt your deservedly feel at their loss.

 

[Kurben]

We are here for you, Kurben. I know it's not like someone real sitting with you in a room, but we are your cyber family. Ears/eyes are open, as well as our hearts. You can talk with us.

I know and i'm doing it right now! You don't know what you and the others on the board has meant. My family, that is my mothers sisters and brothers are all very wellwilling but they are all lousy at keeping contact and the same goes for their offspring. My fathers sisters and their offspring are much better. They have all written me at least and shown much more empathy than my mothers side of the family. Which is rather strange since my mother was the daughter of a priest and her brother is also a priest but empathy for a relative is not their forte. They may have it but are not so good in showing it. My father was very bad at showing emotions, i think it embarrassed him some way, and never for example said he loved me or something like that. Not that it was necessary for he showed in many other ways. Even though he was very good with words and writing to talk or write of emotions was difficult. But his sisters and their children don't have that problem. His sister, my aunt is one of the kindest people i know and one of the most caring. The other sisters daughter is the cousin i have most in common with. She is intelligent, caring and empathic. She works in one of our courts in Stockholm with judging people but her interests are wide from Dinosaurs to Joseph Conrad. I gave her my mothers emerald ring as a memory.

My mom was working for the union and also in an authority we have to make sure that the system work. If the doctors make big wrongs they can take away their licenses and they also work to secure that children that taken away from their parents get a good upbringing. Sometime it is necessary because of mistreatment. It is always what is best for the child that is important. She also was a great writer and debated womens rights in the society, How the society ought to make it easier for women to make a career instead of chaining her to just house and children. This was of course some years ago, a lot has happened since then but she was one of those people that cried for change. In later years she thought that feminism has gotten astray and lost itself and are slowly forgetting its corevalues. She loved reading, all kinds of books and she loved to redecorate our house with regular intervalls. Then she put me and dad into work and moving the furniture around. We never argued because we know that it would turn out alright in the end. She was good at it. She loved walks in the nature and most of all big forests. She liked to lokk at gardens and were great with flowers and seeds and bushes and things. (i'm not) She was also, and i may be biased, the best cook i ever encountered. When it was a birthday or a holiday and she made an extra effort it was food for gods. In later years she lost, through an infection, her hearing and got some it back through an operation in the skull. But the nuances were gone and she couldn't listen to music any more which she always liked. Then the smoking, she had smoked since she was 14, caught up with her and she got severe KOL (it means Chronic Obstructive Lungdisease) and the last 10 years of her life was not funny for her. It got slowly worse and worse and then one lung collapsed and she died. She only had about 20-25 %, if so much, of normal lungcapacity in the end.

Thanks for listening!!

 

[hossenpepper]

Wow, what a full and wonderful life she lived Kurben!! The planet got a little worse without her here anymore. Thanks for sharing that with us. Though, I must admit it made me a bit sadder to know such a wonderful person left this world.

I will raise my glass to her tonight as I have a fine drink of Svedka and tonic! Again, my condolences.

 

[Spideyman]

Kurben, thank you so much for sharing- your mom was an innovator as well as a loving and caring lady. I think she helped make you who are are today. During her lifetime many were helped, and I think they will remember you mom with good thoughts. Such good she placed to this world. Her spirit lives on in many. I will keep a candle lit in her memory for you. As time goes on, and you feel a need, please share more of your memories.

 

[kingricefan]

I know and i'm doing it right now! You don't know what you and the others on the board has meant. My family, that is my mothers sisters and brothers are all very wellwilling but they are all lousy at keeping contact and the same goes for their offspring. My fathers sisters and their offspring are much better. They have all written me at least and shown much more empathy than my mothers side of the family. Which is rather strange since my mother was the daughter of a priest and her brother is also a priest but empathy for a relative is not their forte. They may have it but are not so good in showing it. My father was very bad at showing emotions, i think it embarrassed him some way, and never for example said he loved me or something like that. Not that it was necessary for he showed in many other ways. Even though he was very good with words and writing to talk or write of emotions was difficult. But his sisters and their children don't have that problem. His sister, my aunt is one of the kindest people i know and one of the most caring. The other sisters daughter is the cousin i have most in common with. She is intelligent, caring and empathic. She works in one of our courts in Stockholm with judging people but her interests are wide from Dinosaurs to Joseph Conrad. I gave her my mothers emerald ring as a memory.

My mom was working for the union and also in an authority we have to make sure that the system work. If the doctors make big wrongs they can take away their licenses and they also work to secure that children that taken away from their parents get a good upbringing. Sometime it is necessary because of mistreatment. It is always what is best for the child that is important. She also was a great writer and debated womens rights in the society, How the society ought to make it easier for women to make a career instead of chaining her to just house and children. This was of course some years ago, a lot has happened since then but she was one of those people that cried for change. In later years she thought that feminism has gotten astray and lost itself and are slowly forgetting its corevalues. She loved reading, all kinds of books and she loved to redecorate our house with regular intervalls. Then she put me and dad into work and moving the furniture around. We never argued because we know that it would turn out alright in the end. She was good at it. She loved walks in the nature and most of all big forests. She liked to lokk at gardens and were great with flowers and seeds and bushes and things. (i'm not) She was also, and i may be biased, the best cook i ever encountered. When it was a birthday or a holiday and she made an extra effort it was food for gods. In later years she lost, through an infection, her hearing and got some it back through an operation in the skull. But the nuances were gone and she couldn't listen to music any more which she always liked. Then the smoking, she had smoked since she was 14, caught up with her and she got severe KOL (it means Chronic Obstructive Lungdisease) and the last 10 years of her life was not funny for her. It got slowly worse and worse and then one lung collapsed and she died. She only had about 20-25 %, if so much, of normal lungcapacity in the end.

Thanks for listening!!

Kurben, you should be very proud of your Mother. Without being able to calculate it, I wonder how many lives of people she was able to touch without even knowing them by her diligent work for women's equal rights and her work in the court system. I wonder how many children she saved and was able to give a better life to? So, so many!! She sounds like she was a wonderful human being. The world is worse off without her.

 

[FlakeNoir]

I know and i'm doing it right now! You don't know what you and the others on the board has meant. My family, that is my mothers sisters and brothers are all very wellwilling but they are all lousy at keeping contact and the same goes for their offspring. My fathers sisters and their offspring are much better. They have all written me at least and shown much more empathy than my mothers side of the family. Which is rather strange since my mother was the daughter of a priest and her brother is also a priest but empathy for a relative is not their forte. They may have it but are not so good in showing it. My father was very bad at showing emotions, i think it embarrassed him some way, and never for example said he loved me or something like that. Not that it was necessary for he showed in many other ways. Even though he was very good with words and writing to talk or write of emotions was difficult. But his sisters and their children don't have that problem. His sister, my aunt is one of the kindest people i know and one of the most caring. The other sisters daughter is the cousin i have most in common with. She is intelligent, caring and empathic. She works in one of our courts in Stockholm with judging people but her interests are wide from Dinosaurs to Joseph Conrad. I gave her my mothers emerald ring as a memory.

My mom was working for the union and also in an authority we have to make sure that the system work. If the doctors make big wrongs they can take away their licenses and they also work to secure that children that taken away from their parents get a good upbringing. Sometime it is necessary because of mistreatment. It is always what is best for the child that is important. She also was a great writer and debated womens rights in the society, How the society ought to make it easier for women to make a career instead of chaining her to just house and children. This was of course some years ago, a lot has happened since then but she was one of those people that cried for change. In later years she thought that feminism has gotten astray and lost itself and are slowly forgetting its corevalues. She loved reading, all kinds of books and she loved to redecorate our house with regular intervalls. Then she put me and dad into work and moving the furniture around. We never argued because we know that it would turn out alright in the end. She was good at it. She loved walks in the nature and most of all big forests. She liked to lokk at gardens and were great with flowers and seeds and bushes and things. (i'm not) She was also, and i may be biased, the best cook i ever encountered. When it was a birthday or a holiday and she made an extra effort it was food for gods. In later years she lost, through an infection, her hearing and got some it back through an operation in the skull. But the nuances were gone and she couldn't listen to music any more which she always liked. Then the smoking, she had smoked since she was 14, caught up with her and she got severe KOL (it means Chronic Obstructive Lungdisease) and the last 10 years of her life was not funny for her. It got slowly worse and worse and then one lung collapsed and she died. She only had about 20-25 %, if so much, of normal lungcapacity in the end.

Thanks for listening!!

Kurben, your mother sounds like a wonderful person, thank you so much for sharing her with us. I am glad that you have her books set up at home now and that it's making you feel her close again.
Please come and talk whenever you have a need, or if you're just feeling a bit lonely--we care about you very much. xox

 

[Kurben]

Wow, what a full and wonderful life she lived Kurben!! The planet got a little worse without her here anymore. Thanks for sharing that with us. Though, I must admit it made me a bit sadder to know such a wonderful person left this world.

I will raise my glass to her tonight as I have a fine drink of Svedka and tonic! Again, my condolences.

Kurben, your mother sounds like a wonderful person, thank you so much for sharing her with us. I am glad that you have her books set up at home now and that it's making you feel her close again.
Please come and talk whenever you have a need, or if you're just feeling a bit lonely--we care about you very much. xox

Kurben, you should be very proud of your Mother. Without being able to calculate it, I wonder how many lives of people she was able to touch without even knowing them by her diligent work for women's equal rights and her work in the court system. I wonder how many children she saved and was able to give a better life to? So, so many!! She sounds like she was a wonderful human being. The world is worse off without her.

Kurben, thank you so much for sharing- your mom was an innovator as well as a loving and caring lady. I think she helped make you who are are today. During her lifetime many were helped, and I think they will remember you mom with good thoughts. Such good she placed to this world. Her spirit lives on in many. I will keep a candle lit in her memory for you. As time goes on, and you feel a need, please share more of your memories.

Thank you all for the kind words. It does help and i feel better for it. Hugs to you!

 

[not_nadine]

You mom sounds lovely, Kurben. I am sure that quite a bit of that kindness and love was passed down to your soul from her.

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and she still has you re-arranging furniture

 

[Dana Jean]

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I know and i'm doing it right now! You don't know what you and the others on the board has meant. My family, that is my mothers sisters and brothers are all very wellwilling but they are all lousy at keeping contact and the same goes for their offspring. My fathers sisters and their offspring are much better. They have all written me at least and shown much more empathy than my mothers side of the family. Which is rather strange since my mother was the daughter of a priest and her brother is also a priest but empathy for a relative is not their forte. They may have it but are not so good in showing it. My father was very bad at showing emotions, i think it embarrassed him some way, and never for example said he loved me or something like that. Not that it was necessary for he showed in many other ways. Even though he was very good with words and writing to talk or write of emotions was difficult. But his sisters and their children don't have that problem. His sister, my aunt is one of the kindest people i know and one of the most caring. The other sisters daughter is the cousin i have most in common with. She is intelligent, caring and empathic. She works in one of our courts in Stockholm with judging people but her interests are wide from Dinosaurs to Joseph Conrad. I gave her my mothers emerald ring as a memory.

My mom was working for the union and also in an authority we have to make sure that the system work. If the doctors make big wrongs they can take away their licenses and they also work to secure that children that taken away from their parents get a good upbringing. Sometime it is necessary because of mistreatment. It is always what is best for the child that is important. She also was a great writer and debated womens rights in the society, How the society ought to make it easier for women to make a career instead of chaining her to just house and children. This was of course some years ago, a lot has happened since then but she was one of those people that cried for change. In later years she thought that feminism has gotten astray and lost itself and are slowly forgetting its corevalues. She loved reading, all kinds of books and she loved to redecorate our house with regular intervalls. Then she put me and dad into work and moving the furniture around. We never argued because we know that it would turn out alright in the end. She was good at it. She loved walks in the nature and most of all big forests. She liked to lokk at gardens and were great with flowers and seeds and bushes and things. (i'm not) She was also, and i may be biased, the best cook i ever encountered. When it was a birthday or a holiday and she made an extra effort it was food for gods. In later years she lost, through an infection, her hearing and got some it back through an operation in the skull. But the nuances were gone and she couldn't listen to music any more which she always liked. Then the smoking, she had smoked since she was 14, caught up with her and she got severe KOL (it means Chronic Obstructive Lungdisease) and the last 10 years of her life was not funny for her. It got slowly worse and worse and then one lung collapsed and she died. She only had about 20-25 %, if so much, of normal lungcapacity in the end.

Thanks for listening!!

Oh my! What an exciting spirit she had. I envy her commitment to a cause. She sounds like an interesting woman and I am so sorry you lost her. I know she was not feeling well though, and wouldn't want her to be hurting. It's just so hard. Thanks for sharing her.