We wasn't meant for each other.....

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Jojo87

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Juho and I walked separate ways two weeks ago. I have had a hard time two weeks now. It was my decision that we aren't a couple anymore. We hadn't anything in
common except music. Juho wanted to lay down on a couch after work and I wanted that we go and do something. Juho liked to spend a lot of time with friends and I
wanted that we spend time with each other also. We argued most of the times and
feels like he became more my friend than a partner. He wasn't ready to get married or having kids yet and we both are 30 already and the clock is ticking for me at least.

Juho tried that I should stay with him but after a long conversation he also realize that this is the best decision for both of us. We are still good friends and hang out together
a lot and that's good because I still care about him even if we aren't a couple anymore.

I moved back to my old apartment where I lived before I met Juho. Maybe in the future I find my Mr Right or maybe not. So I am single again and I try to be positive about it. Even if is not easy now, I lived with Juho 3 years almost and most of the time we had fun together, even if these last months was mostly arguing or we didn't spoke with each other. Time heal the wounds as they use to say. Who knows maybe Juho and I get together someday again and are having kids etc etc.. or I find a nice new man that I get a family with or I live rest of my life single and are happy with that.

We'll see what happen but from now on things are as they are.....

Thankful I still have my two crazy dogs so the life is not get boring. ;;D
 

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Juho and I walked separate ways two weeks ago. I have had a hard time two weeks now. It was my decision that we aren't a couple anymore. We hadn't anything in
common except music. Juho wanted to lay down on a couch after work and I wanted that we go and do something. Juho liked to spend a lot of time with friends and I
wanted that we spend time with each other also. We argued most of the times and
feels like he became more my friend than a partner. He wasn't ready to get married or having kids yet and we both are 30 already and the clock is ticking for me at least.

Juho tried that I should stay with him but after a long conversation he also realize that this is the best decision for both of us. We are still good friends and hang out together
a lot and that's good because I still care about him even if we aren't a couple anymore.

I moved back to my old apartment where I lived before I met Juho. Maybe in the future I find my Mr Right or maybe not. So I am single again and I try to be positive about it. Even if is not easy now, I lived with Juho 3 years almost and most of the time we had fun together, even if these last months was mostly arguing or we didn't spoke with each other. Time heal the wounds as they use to say. Who knows maybe Juho and I get together someday again and are having kids etc etc.. or I find a nice new man that I get a family with or I live rest of my life single and are happy with that.

We'll see what happen but from now on things are as they are.....

Thankful I still have my two crazy dogs so the life is not get boring. ;;D
I'm sorry that it didn't work out for you but it's good that you recognized that things weren't going well and made what had to be a very hard decision to end things. If it's meant to be with him, it will happen and if you're meant to be with someone else, now you're in an emotional place where that can happen. It's good that you were able to end things but still be friends as that doesn't often happen. Sending you lots of positive vibes that you'll find what you're looking for. (((Jojo)))
 

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Jojo87

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Thank you all for the kind words :biglove:if I had posted this two weeks ago and read all your messages I would probably have sit with tears in my eyes and read these posts. It took awhile for me to tell it. And I try not to be too sad about it, in the end it was my decision.
The first week after I had left from Juho's apartment I was laying on the couch and thinking I made the biggest mistake in my life
when I left him. But now when the weeks go by it's get easier and easier to live without him.
 

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Jojo87 - I'm sorry to hear this, but it also sounds like it's a good thing, at least for now. I went through a divorce exactly a year ago, and am still alone (by choice!). And while I would never wish my marriage away because of my beautiful daughter, I think I rushed into my marriage because my biological clock was ticking - even though there were signs that we weren't compatible.

I know you're not asking for advice, but I will offer this bit: enjoy your time alone and use it to think about what YOU really want. Never settle - you are too special for that!
 

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Jojo87 - I'm sorry to hear this, but it also sounds like it's a good thing, at least for now. I went through a divorce exactly a year ago, and am still alone (by choice!). And while I would never wish my marriage away because of my beautiful daughter, I think I rushed into my marriage because my biological clock was ticking - even though there were signs that we weren't compatible.

I know you're not asking for advice, but I will offer this bit: enjoy your time alone and use it to think about what YOU really want. Never settle - you are too special for that!

I really like that sign.
 

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Juho and I walked separate ways two weeks ago. I have had a hard time two weeks now. It was my decision that we aren't a couple anymore. We hadn't anything in
common except music. Juho wanted to lay down on a couch after work and I wanted that we go and do something. Juho liked to spend a lot of time with friends and I
wanted that we spend time with each other also. We argued most of the times and
feels like he became more my friend than a partner. He wasn't ready to get married or having kids yet and we both are 30 already and the clock is ticking for me at least.

Juho tried that I should stay with him but after a long conversation he also realize that this is the best decision for both of us. We are still good friends and hang out together
a lot and that's good because I still care about him even if we aren't a couple anymore.

I moved back to my old apartment where I lived before I met Juho. Maybe in the future I find my Mr Right or maybe not. So I am single again and I try to be positive about it. Even if is not easy now, I lived with Juho 3 years almost and most of the time we had fun together, even if these last months was mostly arguing or we didn't spoke with each other. Time heal the wounds as they use to say. Who knows maybe Juho and I get together someday again and are having kids etc etc.. or I find a nice new man that I get a family with or I live rest of my life single and are happy with that.

We'll see what happen but from now on things are as they are.....

Thankful I still have my two crazy dogs so the life is not get boring. ;;D
It sounds like you made a very tough decision - chalk it up to experience and move on - best of luck in the future Jojo87 :cupcake: