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Hey, ma'am. I understand but there are some members that say things several times in different ways and people notice. Not just the intended victims but others as well. I don't do passive aggressive as it is pathological (and it's funny and pitiful) but I notice it as do others.

Peg is a nice person and I dislike it when her feelings are hurt. And I think that's what it is. I would like her to come back is all.
She had the opportunity to discuss this with moderators, and Dana Jean specifically asked her what the problem was IIRC and yet we heard nothing from her. Did she try to discuss privately with those whom she thought had been "mean" to her what the issue was so that if it was even true, they could work it out?
 

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Sorry if this was me, I know she got upset when I'd neglect to include her in one of my many stupid posts listing some of the members on here for various reasons or infractions :)applause:). Was never my intention to not include her, more of an error on my part to be honest, but just thought I should put it out there..........again apologies if this was in any way a factor.
You did nothing wrong and as soon as she brought it up, you responded to her.
 

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I never notice you do that, I'm sorry. I always feel like you include me anytime you post. :love:

I have a bad habit of tagging people but I don't leave out anyone on purpose. I have a pretty good idea what some members like in movies, TV shows and food so I'll tag them if I can include some info they may like to know.

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That's exactly what I'm trying to say. There are those who DO take it on and feel slighted when that was never the intent. As a psychologist, how would you counsel someone who has a victim mentality? Would you continue to enable that thinking or would you attempt to have the person see that if they change the way they see things, they might have a very different perspective that would be empowering them?
 

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There are far too many posts to quote in order to properly reply to the discussion today concerning Pegasus' decision to leave and whether she had been treated poorly or not, so please assume that I am addressing everyone involved in the recent discussion.

Pegasus did appear upset at something other than her health issue and had left a few cryptic posts alluding to the idea that she had been having problems with a member/s. More than one moderator attempted to help her solve some issues, both in the threads and also by PM. Pegasus chose not to respond which was unfortunate because we always encourage members to contact us if something is happening and they're not able to solve it by themselves.

If the issue with Pegasus is ongoing, we would like to hear about that directly. If nothing new has come to light, then we would ask that members do not bring such a discussion to the threads because it is counter-productive to be accusing members of passive aggressive behaviour as was posted earlier today.
Moderators are here to solve these kinds of issues and it is not appropriate to do so in the threads as it often creates side-taking which can snowball and turn a good message board into a dysfunctional one.

Once again, please approach the moderators or admin directly if you need help with an issue.

Thanks, Flakes. I'd been reading and responding to posts in order so didn't see your response until I'd posted mine. This pretty much says what needed to be said about the situation. Thank you, as always, for your fair-minded advice in responding to issues that can escalate for the very reasons you mention.
 

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Thank you, dear. I've been running crazy at work this year. All federal programs face d a 20% cut this year, so we lost 3 staff. At the same time, we did so well last year and got scores so high that we now have responsibility for helping in math and English in 4/5 grades (formerly, we only worked with K-3), and in running special study skills classes for special needs middle school kids. It does make the day go fast, but I'm entirely pooped by the time I get home, make dinner, etc. etc. Plus, I'm getting all of my ducks in a row to go back to school myself in January. I must be insane.

I felt the same way about going back to school this fall, but my first class is fun so that takes off the pressure a bit!
 

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Howdy guys and gals, just quickly popping by while the little fella has a nap. Sorry haven't been by since June when I asked you all to give me positive vibes for my dream home, which worked, thankya kindly. Have been so busy with decorating/moving and taking care of my little baba, he goes to soooo many playgroups that he has a better social life than me! :biggrin2: Heck, I still haven't had time to read even one page of Sleeping Beauties, gone are the days when I used to read a new King book the day of release, ha.

Hope everyone is doing well and had a great Halloween...good vibes to everyone from me and my little pumpkin. :love:
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Howdy guys and gals, just quickly popping by while the little fella has a nap. Sorry haven't been by since June when I asked you all to give me positive vibes for my dream home, which worked, thankya kindly. Have been so busy with decorating/moving and taking care of my little baba, he goes to soooo many playgroups that he has a better social life than me! :biggrin2: Heck, I still haven't had time to read even one page of Sleeping Beauties, gone are the days when I used to read a new King book the day of release, ha.

Hope everyone is doing well and had a great Halloween...good vibes to everyone from me and my little pumpkin. :love:
what a cutie!
 

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Howdy guys and gals, just quickly popping by while the little fella has a nap. Sorry haven't been by since June when I asked you all to give me positive vibes for my dream home, which worked, thankya kindly. Have been so busy with decorating/moving and taking care of my little baba, he goes to soooo many playgroups that he has a better social life than me! :biggrin2: Heck, I still haven't had time to read even one page of Sleeping Beauties, gone are the days when I used to read a new King book the day of release, ha.

Hope everyone is doing well and had a great Halloween...good vibes to everyone from me and my little pumpkin. :love:
My favourite is the last one (in the pumpkin costume) - love the expression on his face! :):cheerful:
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Howdy guys and gals, just quickly popping by while the little fella has a nap. Sorry haven't been by since June when I asked you all to give me positive vibes for my dream home, which worked, thankya kindly. Have been so busy with decorating/moving and taking care of my little baba, he goes to soooo many playgroups that he has a better social life than me! :biggrin2: Heck, I still haven't had time to read even one page of Sleeping Beauties, gone are the days when I used to read a new King book the day of release, ha.

Hope everyone is doing well and had a great Halloween...good vibes to everyone from me and my little pumpkin. :love:
Oh look how he is growing!! He is just the cutest!! Glad everything is going well, Ally!
 

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Howdy guys and gals, just quickly popping by while the little fella has a nap. Sorry haven't been by since June when I asked you all to give me positive vibes for my dream home, which worked, thankya kindly. Have been so busy with decorating/moving and taking care of my little baba, he goes to soooo many playgroups that he has a better social life than me! :biggrin2: Heck, I still haven't had time to read even one page of Sleeping Beauties, gone are the days when I used to read a new King book the day of release, ha.

Hope everyone is doing well and had a great Halloween...good vibes to everyone from me and my little pumpkin. :love:
So Cute!
 
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