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MadamMack

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No MRI results. Report is waiting for radiologist to sign. I know they're busy but meanwhile my whole family is in agony listening to our poor mom be out of her head with weeping and screaming. She is in such mental agony it is horrible. Whatever is wrong with her, cancer, dementia, it's a demon torturing her. She still has a lot of lucid times which sometimes we think makes it worse for her as she knows she's in trouble and it makes it that much harder. Horrible to say but we almost wish it would just take over completely and at least she wouldn't have the sorrow of knowing she's losing her mind. It makes us sick to think that but how much more can she take. And the guilt feelings we have for thinking it. What a nightmare.

I know everyone here has had terrible sorrow in their lives at one time or another. We can't escape it, it's part of life. I don't want to be moaning and groaning here all the time but it does help to have a place to vent my frustration and sorrow. I want to thank you all for giving me a place to feel ok to do just that.

We are here for you . . .I dropped in to day for updates from you.

Keep us posted.
 

HollyGolightly

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I still lurk here and there, but don't always have the time/ambition to contribute much these days... Hopefully that'll change eventually. :cool2:



Not so much of that, although I did brew last weekend, and hope to this weekend, and the next. ;)



You just called me funny looking didn't ya? :rolleyes: ;;D



I thought about waiting, but decided I have a coupla minutes to spare... :m_cruise::m_cool:

You're a handsome fellow, if you lived closer I'd be offering you a dowry to take care of my daughter. :heart:
 

gniknehpets

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Hi all, Mom's MRI came back clean. Good news there is no cancer but it's hard to be thankful for that as her condition has gone down hill mentally anyway. We finally got her to a behavior/memory care assessment center. She did so poorly on their testing that they gave us no hope of her coming home. She'll have to go to nursing home when discharged from there. We knew that though. She isn't capable of anything hardly so it wasn't a shock to us. Their goal at the center is to get her behavior under control with meds so she is functioning at the most she can and not be in mental agony and sorrow but still be her. On the right track finally.

I am sorry for bashing the medical field so bad but it's shameful how angry I had to get to get anything done in a timely fashion. I know it's not the nurses fault or the labs. Mom's dr refused to see what was happening and believe the family that lived with her 24 hours a day. He prolonged mom's agony and ours and I am furious with him at the moment.

Thanks again for all the kind words and prayers. I knew you were all here and it helped.
 

Spideyman

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Prayers will continue that the right meds are found to make you mom comfortable.Now is a time for you to take care of you- surgery approaches. You need to be in a calm place.
you have every right to be upset with her doctor-they need to learn to listen to those who see first hand. No excuses.
Holding you and family in deepest prayers.
 

Dana Jean

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Hi all, Mom's MRI came back clean. Good news there is no cancer but it's hard to be thankful for that as her condition has gone down hill mentally anyway. We finally got her to a behavior/memory care assessment center. She did so poorly on their testing that they gave us no hope of her coming home. She'll have to go to nursing home when discharged from there. We knew that though. She isn't capable of anything hardly so it wasn't a shock to us. Their goal at the center is to get her behavior under control with meds so she is functioning at the most she can and not be in mental agony and sorrow but still be her. On the right track finally.

I am sorry for bashing the medical field so bad but it's shameful how angry I had to get to get anything done in a timely fashion. I know it's not the nurses fault or the labs. Mom's dr refused to see what was happening and believe the family that lived with her 24 hours a day. He prolonged mom's agony and ours and I am furious with him at the moment.

Thanks again for all the kind words and prayers. I knew you were all here and it helped.
I don't blame you one bit. I'm glad you can move forward with her care and treatment. Breathe and know you did what you had to do, unfortunately forced into it, but you prevailed.
 

MadamMack

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Apr 11, 2006
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UnParked, UnParked U.S.A.
Hi all, Mom's MRI came back clean. Good news there is no cancer but it's hard to be thankful for that as her condition has gone down hill mentally anyway. We finally got her to a behavior/memory care assessment center. She did so poorly on their testing that they gave us no hope of her coming home. She'll have to go to nursing home when discharged from there. We knew that though. She isn't capable of anything hardly so it wasn't a shock to us. Their goal at the center is to get her behavior under control with meds so she is functioning at the most she can and not be in mental agony and sorrow but still be her. On the right track finally.

I am sorry for bashing the medical field so bad but it's shameful how angry I had to get to get anything done in a timely fashion. I know it's not the nurses fault or the labs. Mom's dr refused to see what was happening and believe the family that lived with her 24 hours a day. He prolonged mom's agony and ours and I am furious with him at the moment.

Thanks again for all the kind words and prayers. I knew you were all here and it helped.

Good and bad news and again, I'm sorry. I wish her peace and please keep us posted.
 
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blunthead

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Aug 2, 2006
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Hi all, Mom's MRI came back clean. Good news there is no cancer but it's hard to be thankful for that as her condition has gone down hill mentally anyway. We finally got her to a behavior/memory care assessment center. She did so poorly on their testing that they gave us no hope of her coming home. She'll have to go to nursing home when discharged from there. We knew that though. She isn't capable of anything hardly so it wasn't a shock to us. Their goal at the center is to get her behavior under control with meds so she is functioning at the most she can and not be in mental agony and sorrow but still be her. On the right track finally.

I am sorry for bashing the medical field so bad but it's shameful how angry I had to get to get anything done in a timely fashion. I know it's not the nurses fault or the labs. Mom's dr refused to see what was happening and believe the family that lived with her 24 hours a day. He prolonged mom's agony and ours and I am furious with him at the moment.

Thanks again for all the kind words and prayers. I knew you were all here and it helped.
(((((Mom, Backwards Sisters and families)))))

In my personal, professional experience, the doctor or nurse or aide or therapist or whomever who won't listen to the family is a fool, lucky not to be in jail.
 
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