Who were you going to be?

[Spideyman]

Exactly,Sunny..my Mom is 89..and she suffers with pain from arthritis,but she still finds joy in her kids,grandkids,and her faith..small things,like watching the birds at her bird feeder,and the squirrels trying to launch attacks at it,make her laugh..so hang in there,folks..

I smile as I read the above posts. I am amongst the elders of the Ka-Tet, at 71 and 3/4. I have to disagree with Cori. My childhood was not a happy as Sunny's, but I had grandparents who gave me unconditional love and taught me so much about the world. Immigrants who made a new life in America. They worked hard and enjoyed and appreciated every moment of life- the good and the bad. My parents were very strict and always expect more.

The one thing I had to learn was that self matters. You can not please all the people all the time, and if you try, you give up part of your true self. It took my many years to realize that fact. If one does not like the way things are going- change the way you look at those things, and they will change. You are never too old/ or young to change your thoughts.

If one looks to the positives in life, life becomes better. You attract what you put out. Many look for this word" Happiness" often forgetting that there is no path to happiness: happiness is the path. Nothing is impossible in life. It might seem unreachable, but you can not give up. Just reach further.

And yes, I have more years behind me than in front of me, but I intend to use very possible minute to enjoy life. Yes, there are crap days and things to worry about and never enough funds. It is all in the way I chose the handle these events.
my parents lived a life of "what if", I chose to live a life in the now. Don't die with the musical still in you!

 

[mjs9153]

Beautiful words Spidey..

 

[Blake]

 

[mjs9153]

Okay,I won't look it up,what is the all seeing eye supposed to mean? Were you wanting to be the President,or a king,or the leader of the CIA? Started to watch a show once that was going to explain this,my bad for being lazy enough to never have looked it up..

 

[not_nadine]

I smile as I read the above posts. I am amongst the elders of the Ka-Tet, at 71 and 3/4. I have to disagree with Cori. My childhood was not a happy as Sunny's, but I had grandparents who gave me unconditional love and taught me so much about the world. Immigrants who made a new life in America. They worked hard and enjoyed and appreciated every moment of life- the good and the bad. My parents were very strict and always expect more.

The one thing I had to learn was that self matters. You can not please all the people all the time, and if you try, you give up part of your true self. It took my many years to realize that fact. If one does not like the way things are going- change the way you look at those things, and they will change. You are never too old/ or young to change your thoughts.

If one looks to the positives in life, life becomes better. You attract what you put out. Many look for this word" Happiness" often forgetting that there is no path to happiness: happiness is the path. Nothing is impossible in life. It might seem unreachable, but you can not give up. Just reach further.

And yes, I have more years behind me than in front of me, but I intend to use very possible minute to enjoy life. Yes, there are crap days and things to worry about and never enough funds. It is all in the way I chose the handle these events.
my parents lived a life of "what if", I chose to live a life in the now. Don't die with the musical still in you!

Jesus, Spidey.

That was beautiful.

 

[Srbo]

I always wanted to be a part of the SKMB family.
And here I am, my dream came through...

 

[Tery]

If one looks to the positives in life, life becomes better. You attract what you put out. Many look for this word" Happiness" often forgetting that there is no path to happiness: happiness is the path.

As one of my "life coaches"once wrote: "The point of the journey is not to arrive." The journey IS the point. Make yours as happy as you can.

Something else Spidey (dear One) touched on reminded me of something we Wiccans like to say; you draw to you what you put out, you make your own reality by drawing things to you. Send out positivity and that will come back to you... with occasional slings and arrows from chaos. Send out negativity, in your words, thoughts and actions and that will be what you get back.

Or, as Tom Leher succinctly put it: "Life is like a sewer. What you get out of it depends on what you put into it."

 

[CoriSCapnSkip]

My whole life has been an endless round of disappointment due to others expecting me to be able to accomplish things I could not, (some of which I said I could and some of which I plainly stated I could not), then blaming me for not accomplishing those things. Bothersome as that might be, I could have disregarded all that entirely but for the expectations I put on myself and my complete perplexity at being unable to accomplish them. People seem to think I failed deliberately--probably from ignoring their "good advice"--as if such a thing would bring me some fulfillment. They don't take into account that I tried or how upset a lifetime of failures may be. It seems nothing else matters but the fact of not amounting to anything. My life is now reduced to merely documenting the hideous chain of complications preventing me from achieving anything meaningful whatsoever. Now the powers that be are starting to change things so that I can't even do fairly basic things I used to be able to. I am about ready to give up all hope of any good outcome from this sorry state of existence I jokingly call my life. Even though so many blame me, I am not blaming anyone specific here, for this. Over and out.

 

[GNTLGNT]

My whole life has been an endless round of disappointment due to others expecting me to be able to accomplish things I could not, (some of which I said I could and some of which I plainly stated I could not), then blaming me for not accomplishing those things. Bothersome as that might be, I could have disregarded all that entirely but for the expectations I put on myself and my complete perplexity at being unable to accomplish them. People seem to think I failed deliberately--probably from ignoring their "good advice"--as if such a thing would bring me some fulfillment. They don't take into account that I tried or how upset a lifetime of failures may be. It seems nothing else matters but the fact of not amounting to anything. My life is now reduced to merely documenting the hideous chain of complications preventing me from achieving anything meaningful whatsoever. Now the powers that be are starting to change things so that I can't even do fairly basic things I used to be able to. I am about ready to give up all hope of any good outcome from this sorry state of existence I jokingly call my life. Even though so many blame me, I am not blaming anyone specific here, for this. Over and out.

....sounds as if some professional help might be in order-and I'm NOT talking down to you....I'm speaking as a nurse who is seeing profound depression here....

 

[mjs9153]

yeah..I didn't start this thread to make anyone feel bad,just as a lark,how did you see what you wanted to be when you were young.If you put out something that is rough,naturally these good people will offer good advice..And no one is trying to hurt anyone or pile on,the skmb is full of good folks that try to help,so..

 

[Spideyman]

yeah..I didn't start this thread to make anyone feel bad,just as a lark,how did you see what you wanted to be when you were young.If you put out something that is rough,naturally these good people will offer good advice..And no one is trying to hurt anyone or pile on,the skmb is full of good folks that try to help,so..

mjs9153 -- This is one of those special SKMB threads. Thank you for starting it. Makes one reflect on the innocence of youth and the paths taken and not taken. The Ka Tet is strong and in many ways family. Non judgmental , eager to help all.

 

[Msara]

My whole life has been an endless round of disappointment due to others expecting me to be able to accomplish things I could not, (some of which I said I could and some of which I plainly stated I could not), then blaming me for not accomplishing those things. Bothersome as that might be, I could have disregarded all that entirely but for the expectations I put on myself and my complete perplexity at being unable to accomplish them. People seem to think I failed deliberately--probably from ignoring their "good advice"--as if such a thing would bring me some fulfillment. They don't take into account that I tried or how upset a lifetime of failures may be. It seems nothing else matters but the fact of not amounting to anything. My life is now reduced to merely documenting the hideous chain of complications preventing me from achieving anything meaningful whatsoever. Now the powers that be are starting to change things so that I can't even do fairly basic things I used to be able to. I am about ready to give up all hope of any good outcome from this sorry state of existence I jokingly call my life. Even though so many blame me, I am not blaming anyone specific here, for this. Over and out.

I don´t get what are your "endless round of disappointment due to others expecting me to be able to accomplish things"
I mean ...f**k what people think!! why do you care? (questions that are not meant to be asnwered)
mmm what is failure? what is disappointment? concepts are really important for me because if people think "i am a failure" because I didnt achieve what Others wanted ...
What is important is what we feel, you , me ... I think If you tried to do something...you tried. period. Next!!! try another think....or be determined to go for it successfully next time.......and
I dont know... I am just trying to "hablar desde el corazón" jajaj help... mmm DOnt read this !! smile

 

[Msara]

yeah..I didn't start this thread to make anyone feel bad,just as a lark,how did you see what you wanted to be when you were young.If you put out something that is rough,naturally these good people will offer good advice..And no one is trying to hurt anyone or pile on,the skmb is full of good folks that try to help,so..

I am not gonna say I "feel bad" but ...
replying to the video.... I have no friends... jaja So be it ! I have mmm people I know with whom I (work, university , neighbour,) share specific and pre-selcted moments of my life ....
I dont care! jaj The question is what s important for me ? my nature is to be lonesome ...jajaj just like E. Presley sings...! jajaj a I am trying to be funny ! sorry!

 

[mjs9153]

Thank you dear Spidey..was hoping not to hurt anyone there,just thinking over old times..I will start again with another thread..

 

[not_nadine]

Thank you dear Spidey..was hoping not to hurt anyone there,just thinking over old times..I will start again with another thread..

Keep this thread. I am still not done doing what I want to be.

Don't think I ever will.

 

[Spideyman]

Thank you dear Spidey..was hoping not to hurt anyone there,just thinking over old times..I will start again with another thread..

mjs9153 -- no sorries!!! You did nothing wrong. You did not hurt anyone-- members expressed their own answers / some were funny, some spot on, other serious. It was all in how they individually looked back on their own life. It's the melting pot of the Ka-Tet( SKMB). This was /IS an excellent thread.

 

[HollyGolightly]

Great thread!

Anybody but me.

But then you wouldn't be you. You are loved, friend. You are something special.

What makes me very sad is the prospect of being nobody with nothing.

Cori, I have to agree with others. You are too sad and angry. It's not healthy. I've been there. And I adamantly refused to go to the doctor. And someone who loved me gave me no choice. And I got better. It could be hormones, it could be depression and/or anxiety. Medication helps.

I have a three year old nephew who, when asked what he wants to be when he grows up, will invariably say, "a man with a yellow truck". Oh, the optimism of youth.

Kids are so cool with their dreams. Our oldest daughter wanted to drive the zamboni at the hockey rink when she was little.

Well I'm so much older now and now I want to be a little boy. Go figure. Little boy about ten years old. I can work with that. At ten, wanted to be Gordie Howe...Bobby Orr...Phil Esposito...Mickey Lolich, Denny McClain, Al Kaline...Bart Starr, Donny Anderson...Pistol Pete Maravich or Bond. James Bond. Or the Man from U.N.C.L.E. One of the Fantastic Four...call me a Fifth. The Fantastic Five. Had a Batman costume so I guess I wanted to be Batman...and never the Boy Wonder. Sheesh. Remember ten? Biggest problem of the day was the chain falling off the bike...that or a flat tire. Dreaming of something with a motor, fast and sassy, jacked-up rear-end, something that rumbled when it went by, gleamed in the sun. Now it's all I can do to put my shoes on. Glory days! Will...pass you by!

Me too, Walt!

I smile as I read the above posts. I am amongst the elders of the Ka-Tet, at 71 and 3/4. I have to disagree with Cori. My childhood was not a happy as Sunny's, but I had grandparents who gave me unconditional love and taught me so much about the world. Immigrants who made a new life in America. They worked hard and enjoyed and appreciated every moment of life- the good and the bad. My parents were very strict and always expect more.

The one thing I had to learn was that self matters. You can not please all the people all the time, and if you try, you give up part of your true self. It took my many years to realize that fact. If one does not like the way things are going- change the way you look at those things, and they will change. You are never too old/ or young to change your thoughts.

If one looks to the positives in life, life becomes better. You attract what you put out. Many look for this word" Happiness" often forgetting that there is no path to happiness: happiness is the path. Nothing is impossible in life. It might seem unreachable, but you can not give up. Just reach further.

And yes, I have more years behind me than in front of me, but I intend to use very possible minute to enjoy life. Yes, there are crap days and things to worry about and never enough funds. It is all in the way I chose the handle these events.
my parents lived a life of "what if", I chose to live a life in the now. Don't die with the musical still in you!

That was lovely, spidey. All of it. I need to read this everyday.

As one of my "life coaches"once wrote: "The point of the journey is not to arrive." The journey IS the point. Make yours as happy as you can.

Something else Spidey (dear One) touched on reminded me of something we Wiccans like to say; you draw to you what you put out, you make your own reality by drawing things to you. Send out positivity and that will come back to you... with occasional slings and arrows from chaos. Send out negativity, in your words, thoughts and actions and that will be what you get back.

Or, as Tom Leher succinctly put it: "Life is like a sewer. What you get out of it depends on what you put into it."

"The raft is the shore"

Indeed, we get what we give eventually.

Keep this thread. I am still not done doing what I want to be.

Don't think I ever will.

Hollah, nottie! I can't remember why I quoted you. Maybe: me too!

 

[Blake]

Where's Jordan, my name has gone faint again.

 

[not_nadine]

Where's Jordan, my name has gone faint again.

I don't know what you mean by this. Metaphor?

Looks fine here.

 

[Patricia A]

When I was 10-ish I went through a Rock Star phase. I got together with my best friends, and we formed an all girl band. The band was myself, Becky and Debby (sisters), and Cathy and Cindy (sisters).
We hung out in our bedrooms and basements to practice. When we performed for family and friends, we used the huge picnic table in B&D's backyard as our stage.
None of us could play instruments, so we played air ones. I was usually on air guitar, but often played air sax. I rocked it.
Sometimes we'd bring out the record player and rock out to Three Dog Night or Diana Ross & The Supremes, or who ever.
We were perfectly horrible and we knew it but it was too much fun to stop. We giggled a lot. Sometimes our audience would be laughing even harder than we were. We called that a successful gig.
I just now laughed out loud so hard I scared my cat. I was thinking about Debby's drum solos.
Thanks for the memory mjs! I haven't thought about that in years.