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No wedding pics for me. Never been married. Don't really intend to be, either*.
Whoever it was that said "Marriage is a fine institution. I'm just not ready to be institutionalized"...yeah, that.
Nice pics though, marrieds.
* A confession: There was and is a woman I'd marry in a heartbeat - but it's not the woman I'm with (despite the fact that I love her dearly and am happy enough to spend the rest of my time with).
Odd? Nasty? Again, point to avatar time.
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The real reasons are, current gf's parents and I don't really get on too well - her dad's OK but her mom...she's bad even by the 'dragon-in-law' standard. Also, while gf is on a pedestal several stories higher than everyone else, there is one still higher than her. She's not dead, but she is forever out of reach...and I'd only muck things up anyway. So...
But not to hijack the thread! (Sorry HollyG.)
Nice pics, marrieds.
Whoever it was that said "Marriage is a fine institution. I'm just not ready to be institutionalized"...yeah, that.
Nice pics though, marrieds.
* A confession: There was and is a woman I'd marry in a heartbeat - but it's not the woman I'm with (despite the fact that I love her dearly and am happy enough to spend the rest of my time with).
Odd? Nasty? Again, point to avatar time.
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The real reasons are, current gf's parents and I don't really get on too well - her dad's OK but her mom...she's bad even by the 'dragon-in-law' standard. Also, while gf is on a pedestal several stories higher than everyone else, there is one still higher than her. She's not dead, but she is forever out of reach...and I'd only muck things up anyway. So...
But not to hijack the thread! (Sorry HollyG.)
Nice pics, marrieds.
No wedding pics for me. Never been married. Don't really intend to be, either*.
Whoever it was that said "Marriage is a fine institution. I'm just not ready to be institutionalized"...yeah, that.
Nice pics though, marrieds.
* A confession: There was and is a woman I'd marry in a heartbeat - but it's not the woman I'm with (despite the fact that I love her dearly and am happy enough to spend the rest of my time with).
Odd? Nasty? Again, point to avatar time.
<---
The real reasons are, current gf's parents and I don't really get on too well - her dad's OK but her mom...she's bad even by the 'dragon-in-law' standard. Also, while gf is on a pedestal several stories higher than everyone else, there is one still higher than her. She's not dead, but she is forever out of reach...and I'd only muck things up anyway. So...
But not to hijack the thread! (Sorry HollyG.)
Nice pics, marrieds.
Interesting share!
So, who is she? You don't have to be specific, someone you know now, or in the past? If you don't want to say that's cool - but, thought I would ask anyway!
Like many of you on here that aren't married or jaded, I would NEVER marry again! I didn't even get married until I was 39. I think marriage is great (for other people) but I get bored too easily, so, I'm afraid it's not for me. I'm one and done!
Childhood sweetheart. And yeah, I know, people always say it wasn't really love. Well nuts to that.
I've been in touch with her on and off for the last 15 years or so. She's had experiences that I'd never have put her through, but c'est la vie. She's still utterly...it.
I do feel bad about it, if I'm honest. Not in a cheating way but in a 'it's not right' way (never have cheated, never will - though some might say it's all a matter of semantics).
As I say, though, it's a case of Never To Be. The lady in question hasn't told me as much, but I know...even though mutual friends have, on occasion, mentioned that she's pretty much always been in the same place as I am, though I'm not sure I believe that. Nothing would happen even if we both happened to be single again anyway. I don't know how I know that with such certainty, but I do. I think we might both want it, but back off because it's too big and old and scary by now.
Hm...apparently I'm in a rambling mood. Makes a change, right?
But...not married until when? You mean you were 39 in that pic up top? I'd have said mid-late 20s!
That place is gorgeous!
First 'real' wedding in many years in my family, so it was wild. I locked myself out of my apartment when I went to get my hair done, so I had to race across town to my mom's house, get my spare, & race home to get my dress. I was late to my own wedding--lol. My little cousin flower girl freaked out when she saw all the people & ran to her mom, so my friend's little boy who was ring bearer also ran up the aisle, slammed the ring pillow into a bridesmaid's hands, & raced to his mom. My cousin showed up dressed as a hooker and forgot the signing book, so I have no signatures. Cake had the wrong flowers--I paid for fire and ice roses and it had limp orchids. The DJ didn't discover until it was time for the dance that he'd forgotten the tape with our song (U2's All I Want is You), and so we had Sinead O'Connor's Nothing Compares 2U (pretty, but not exactly a wedding song--lol). My friend Marty got a little tanked and kept trying to pick up my mom (or Hooker Cousin--he wasn't choosy). My SIL insulted my mom (and she's still insulted nearly 25 years later). My huge hilbillyish family was there, which was fun, but I hear my aunt had to be carried out of the bathroom when the reception was over, and someone threw up in my brother's long, blond, rockstar hair sometime later that night (he was sleeping on the floor). We got no food at the reception, because I refused to do a line and with tons of uncles, friends (most of my friends have always been guys), cousins, etc., I was dancing the whole time. On the way to the hotel we went through a fast food drive through in our wedding clothes & they gave us free food.
All in all, an excellent day
View attachment 9523 View attachment 9524 Look at those babies--lol.
LOL - And still you look incredibly gorgeous and calm - it's like you're saying "go ahead, bring on the chaos this married life will bring". You look beautiful. And BH is very handsome!
You are gorgeous!
No wedding pics for me. Never been married. Don't really intend to be, either*.
Whoever it was that said "Marriage is a fine institution. I'm just not ready to be institutionalized"...yeah, that.
Nice pics though, marrieds.
* A confession: There was and is a woman I'd marry in a heartbeat - but it's not the woman I'm with (despite the fact that I love her dearly and am happy enough to spend the rest of my time with).
Odd? Nasty? Again, point to avatar time.
<---
The real reasons are, current gf's parents and I don't really get on too well - her dad's OK but her mom...she's bad even by the 'dragon-in-law' standard. Also, while gf is on a pedestal several stories higher than everyone else, there is one still higher than her. She's not dead, but she is forever out of reach...and I'd only muck things up anyway. So...
But not to hijack the thread! (Sorry HollyG.)
Nice pics, marrieds.
Well, never say never. But....my advice (even though you don't ask) is DO NOT settle. I married my first husband after someone else broke my heart - I spent the entire 18 months of the marriage wishing I'd married someone else. It ruined everything. By the time I married the Ogre, I was over the broken heart and thinking a little more clearly.
thanks for sharing, guys. I'm going to try and scan and post a wedding picture from work.
Childhood sweetheart. And yeah, I know, people always say it wasn't really love. Well nuts to that.
I've been in touch with her on and off for the last 15 years or so. She's had experiences that I'd never have put her through, but c'est la vie. She's still utterly...it.
I do feel bad about it, if I'm honest. Not in a cheating way but in a 'it's not right' way (never have cheated, never will - though some might say it's all a matter of semantics).
As I say, though, it's a case of Never To Be. The lady in question hasn't told me as much, but I know...even though mutual friends have, on occasion, mentioned that she's pretty much always been in the same place as I am, though I'm not sure I believe that. Nothing would happen even if we both happened to be single again anyway. I don't know how I know that with such certainty, but I do. I think we might both want it, but back off because it's too big and old and scary by now.
Hm...apparently I'm in a rambling mood. Makes a change, right?
But...not married until when? You mean you were 39 in that pic up top? I'd have said mid-late 20s!
I hear you. I think it's awesome (well, not that you can't be with her, that part sucks) but that there is a stand out "love of your life" - I have never had one, and, at currently 51 I'm no liking my odds! I think it IS real love (like I would know, I haven't ever been in love like that!) - but anyway....
You can't help what your heart feels - some things we just don't have choices in the matter... but I can understand and am sure you wish you felt differently....
Never say never. Just leave it up to the fates. I'm a hopeful romantic, even for other people
... and thanks for the compliment on the "youthful looking" comment. It was horrible when I was younger! When I was in my late 20's people always thought I was 14 or 15......
That's good advice, Holly. It's also why I've said I'll never marry, because while things as they are don't feel like settling, I think marriage would.
At the same time, it's not the same as holding out hope that, maybe, things could be different.
I suppose it's just one of those things in life. We're taught that everything should be nice and neat and boxed...but things so very rarely are.
Is it still a compliment if it's the truth?
I always looked younger than my true age, though it wasn't as bad as your experience. I'd have probably clocked someone if they'd seen me or treated me like a mid-teen when I was in my late 20s!
I did have few people think I was about 19 when I was actually 25, then had people assume I was about 27 when I was 35. But I always said I'd be one of those people who looked young for my age until I hit 40, then it'd be more the other way.
It's not really happened yet, but no one's going around assuming I'm in my mid- or even late-30s.
We got married on this spot right next to Lake Tahoe on a beautiful summer day. Twelve people in all were there, including me and my beau.
Did you go fishing after?
No, no need… having just landed the big one at the ceremony.Did you go fishing after?
No, no need… having just landed the big one at the ceremony.
Well, I have about a million puns I could make, but I'll just say that that is a truly wonderful place to get married. Just gorgeous.
We didn't really have a wedding. We got hitched by a judge in the courthouse. We got married 4 months after meeting and everyone thought we were being stupid and irresponsible. Which we probably were, but it has all worked out so far. 14 years and counting.
I wore a navy dress, he wore shirt and tie. I worked at a department store at the time and the woman in the dress dept was so lovely to me, she picked out several dresses she thought I would like, I felt like I had a personal shopper. She was right, too. Knew my tastes perfectly. The woman who did alterations wasn't so nice though. She said I looked frumpy.
My sister stood up for me, his brother for him. My parents and both sets of grandparents and a couple girls from work were my guests and his dad, stepmom and siblings were his guests. I had no bouquet, but did have a corsage. One of my girlfriends from work made us a heart shaped cheesecake, that was our cake. (She also set up my bridal shower.) We ate at Pizza Hut afterwards and then headed to South Dakota for our honeymoon.
I would have liked to have the fru-fru dress and big party, but we couldn't afford it. I guess all that pomp and circumstance doesn't really matter in the big picture, though. We have had our ups and downs, but have been pretty happy together, so I don't think I would change a thing about the no frills beginning.
I wore a navy dress, he wore shirt and tie. I worked at a department store at the time and the woman in the dress dept was so lovely to me, she picked out several dresses she thought I would like, I felt like I had a personal shopper. She was right, too. Knew my tastes perfectly. The woman who did alterations wasn't so nice though. She said I looked frumpy.
My sister stood up for me, his brother for him. My parents and both sets of grandparents and a couple girls from work were my guests and his dad, stepmom and siblings were his guests. I had no bouquet, but did have a corsage. One of my girlfriends from work made us a heart shaped cheesecake, that was our cake. (She also set up my bridal shower.) We ate at Pizza Hut afterwards and then headed to South Dakota for our honeymoon.
I would have liked to have the fru-fru dress and big party, but we couldn't afford it. I guess all that pomp and circumstance doesn't really matter in the big picture, though. We have had our ups and downs, but have been pretty happy together, so I don't think I would change a thing about the no frills beginning.
You guys look great - like the prom king and queen.
I first read that as "porn King and Queen"!!!
Neither would I. Part of it is that to marry again would mean that my husband had died and I'm not a fan of having kids in essence lose both parents when they've already lost one, but there's another element. It's not that I regret marrying The Man or that I don't love my kids (I don't and I do), but I'm essentially a loner. There are times that I'd give my left leg to have my own apartment and be responsible to and for no one but myself. I never thought I'd get married (and certainly never have kids), so The Man is pretty special to have changed my mind
I just can't see going through the marriage process again. I'm done.
Which one is the bride?
Amen to that. Your words made me think of A Room of One's Own by Virginia Woolf.Neither would I. Part of it is that to marry again would mean that my husband had died and I'm not a fan of having kids in essence lose both parents when they've already lost one, but there's another element. It's not that I regret marrying The Man or that I don't love my kids (I don't and I do), but I'm essentially a loner. There are times that I'd give my left leg to have my own apartment and be responsible to and for no one but myself. I never thought I'd get married (and certainly never have kids), so The Man is pretty special to have changed my mind
You know, I don't think I've actually read anything by Woolf? I've read a lot about her, but I'm not sure I've read her. Have to remedy that right away