This came across my feed the other day:
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Doesn't matter what you call it, why you celebrate it or how your greet others. What matters is that spirit of GIVING. Even if it's just giving a smile.
So well written. Beautiful!
Christmas is Coming!! Christmas is Coming!!
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So well written. Beautiful!
...well put!....This came across my feed the other day:
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Doesn't matter what you call it, why you celebrate it or how your greet others. What matters is that spirit of GIVING. Even if it's just giving a smile.
Love this!This came across my feed the other day:
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Doesn't matter what you call it, why you celebrate it or how your greet others. What matters is that spirit of GIVING. Even if it's just giving a smile.
Should be a weird Christmas for me - but at least I won't be alone!
My dad died of cancer just over 3 years ago. My older brother had a weird relationship with my dad, while my father and I got along great and spoiled the hell out of me. I guess my dad was really hard on him when he was younger... Anyways, since my dad's been gone, my brother has been treating me like crap, I caught him and his son trying to scratch my brand new Subaru (just after I got it detailed!), he'd say all sorts of insulting comments about me in front of the family, glared at me like I'm satan whenever I'm talking with my nieces/nephews, sibs and other people, was very distant and strange when we'd have a discussion - he loved to make conversations difficult, often turning them into arguments. He's a very negative and bitter person and I couldn't take it anymore.
Over the years, I've done all of the preparation, working my butt off shopping, cooking for my entire family - usually cooking for 12-14 people. Last year I said I don't feel comfortable around my brother anymore and wound up skipping on family Christmas, forcing everybody else to have to deal with cooking for a change. I haven't seen him in over 2 years and have no desire to.
So, this Christmas, I get to spend with just my mom and I. We're going down to Palm Springs - I'm not sure if I'm going to cook us a special dinner or if we're going to find something to do in the area, but it should be nice.
Sorry for dishing out the drama but I needed to get it off my chest. Family stuff SUCKS! I'm bummed my mother hasn't called him out on any of this stuff... Apparently none of my other siblings did last Christmas, either. I hate when there are these issues and nobody does or says anything and things just get worse and more uncomfortable. Makes me wish my dad were still alive - maybe these things wouldn't be happening.
My dad died of cancer just over 3 years ago. My older brother had a weird relationship with my dad, while my father and I got along great and spoiled the hell out of me. I guess my dad was really hard on him when he was younger... Anyways, since my dad's been gone, my brother has been treating me like crap, I caught him and his son trying to scratch my brand new Subaru (just after I got it detailed!), he'd say all sorts of insulting comments about me in front of the family, glared at me like I'm satan whenever I'm talking with my nieces/nephews, sibs and other people, was very distant and strange when we'd have a discussion - he loved to make conversations difficult, often turning them into arguments. He's a very negative and bitter person and I couldn't take it anymore.
Over the years, I've done all of the preparation, working my butt off shopping, cooking for my entire family - usually cooking for 12-14 people. Last year I said I don't feel comfortable around my brother anymore and wound up skipping on family Christmas, forcing everybody else to have to deal with cooking for a change. I haven't seen him in over 2 years and have no desire to.
So, this Christmas, I get to spend with just my mom and I. We're going down to Palm Springs - I'm not sure if I'm going to cook us a special dinner or if we're going to find something to do in the area, but it should be nice.
Sorry for dishing out the drama but I needed to get it off my chest. Family stuff SUCKS! I'm bummed my mother hasn't called him out on any of this stuff... Apparently none of my other siblings did last Christmas, either. I hate when there are these issues and nobody does or says anything and things just get worse and more uncomfortable. Makes me wish my dad were still alive - maybe these things wouldn't be happening.
I am so sorry for your loss. I hope your mom and you have the best time together.
Family dynamics are always interesting. So many personalities, so much history. And it does hurt when no one wants to "get involved" and take a stand for you. I'm sorry about that. Hopefully one of these days, a relative will.
(((mugwomp))) It's always hard but abuse is abuse even when it comes from a family member, and you have every right to sever a dysfunctional relationship. I hope you have a wonderful holiday with your mom.
((Mugwomp)) Wishing you and your mom a lovely holiday. Ridding yourself of negativity is the right thing to do.
Wishing you and your mom a very special Christmas together. Stick with the positive vibes, your mom.
(((Mugwomp))) may you and your mom have the Merriest Christmas.
....yeah Womp.....you've done the right thing and removed yourself from the toxicity...I wish you and Mom a very Merry Christmas....this will be my first without my Mom, so treasure the time-you just never know.....and here at the GNT's Den, drama reared it's ugly head so Tracy layed the smackdown....kids wanted to argue over when everybody was going to get together and when the meal was going to be and Tracy finally had enough......there will be no holiday plan or meal from Mom and Dad, figure it out amongst yourselves.....it's killing her, but she's sticking to her guns....see how it feels when you upset Mamacakes.....
to both y'all!
....on a happier note, here's our local Courthouse with over 55,000 lights in the show......
They should be thankful for a roof over their heads and food for a meal they can fix themselves. There are many who want and need. Maybe they will appreciate mom more next Christmas. Hope you and Tracy have a very Merry Christmas.
I'm so sorry for your loss ((( Mugwomp, )) it's so hard when we lose the ones that have always been there for us. And it's despicable when certain family members wait for those people to be gone and then mount their attack. Just sad and very unfair. (recently an uncle decided it would be a great time to play up during the organising of a funeral, it was exhausting dealing with grief and his bad behaviour at the same time)
This will be the first Christmas without Nana and... ugh, it's just crap. I usually love Christmas, but for some reason lots of family members have slipped off the coil around this time of year during the past 3 years, so it's hard.
Know we are thinking of you. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
Having trouble getting in a Merry Christmas mood;
Feeling sympathetic towards the Grinch's attitude.
Just now finished doing cards but none of them are mailed.
Told myself I wouldn't stress - that ship's already sailed.
Feeling sympathetic towards the Grinch's attitude.
Just now finished doing cards but none of them are mailed.
Told myself I wouldn't stress - that ship's already sailed.