I'm bummed today because...

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Klerekast

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For me, this is personal to write about but maybe I will take a chance. This time in September many years ago my father passed away.
On the 29th September everything changed for me, his death chattered my world and I feel this empty space in my chest that never stops hurting, an ache that just doesn't stop. Yes, he was my father but he was my best friend, my mentor, my confidante too. He meant more to me than I can explain, he was such a good listener and always seemed to know the right thing to say and more importantly, when to say nothing -- just listen. He lives on through my daughters. My youngest has his height and his eyes, my oldest has that edge to her personality -- the attribute you respect in one who says little but when she does you listen.
I hope he rests peacefully. He was a great Dad. And I thank him for all he taught me.

I took a chance writing this but you are good people and thought you would understand. For me, it needed to be said and I cannot think of any other place I would rather write it. And you know, it must be the right thing to do because the tears are streaming down my face and the relief of saying it just feels better.
It may be only 7 am but I think I need to go for a walk now.
Thanks for reading, thanks for listening and most of all thanks to each and every one of you for just being you. I am so lucky to have met you, and its a privilege to call you my friends.
Alexandra M

I don't have any wise words to say, but I will definitely think of you tomorrow. :tranquillity:
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It's great that you experience(d) this beautiful relationship in your life, it's really something to cherish. I wish you lots of strength and light tomorrow! :star:
 

Alexandra M

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I don't have any wise words to say, but I will definitely think of you tomorrow. :tranquillity:
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It's great that you experience(d) this beautiful relationship in your life, it's really something to cherish. I wish you lots of strength and light tomorrow! :star:

Thank you, what a lovely thing to say.
My friends seem hell bent on keeping me busy tomorrow. One is taking me to a Christmas Bazaar, another out for dinner and daughters calling tomorrow evening. I didn't talk to anyone about it, just on the MB. I think one of the girls made some phone calls. Not sure if its a good idea, but I will give it a try.
 

DiO'Bolic

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For me, this is personal to write about but maybe I will take a chance. This time in September many years ago my father passed away.
On the 29th September everything changed for me, his death chattered my world and I feel this empty space in my chest that never stops hurting, an ache that just doesn't stop. Yes, he was my father but he was my best friend, my mentor, my confidante too. He meant more to me than I can explain, he was such a good listener and always seemed to know the right thing to say and more importantly, when to say nothing -- just listen. He lives on through my daughters. My youngest has his height and his eyes, my oldest has that edge to her personality -- the attribute you respect in one who says little but when she does you listen.
I hope he rests peacefully. He was a great Dad. And I thank him for all he taught me.

I took a chance writing this but you are good people and thought you would understand. For me, it needed to be said and I cannot think of any other place I would rather write it. And you know, it must be the right thing to do because the tears are streaming down my face and the relief of saying it just feels better.
It may be only 7 am but I think I need to go for a walk now.
Thanks for reading, thanks for listening and most of all thanks to each and every one of you for just being you. I am so lucky to have met you, and its a privilege to call you my friends.
Alexandra M
That is something every father would dream of to have written about him. Sorry for your continuing feeling of loss.
 

Alexandra M

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That is something every father would dream of to have written about him. Sorry for your continuing feeling of loss.

Thanks DiO'Bolic. It was very kind of you. For the first 2 years after he passed I wrote a poem and put it in the In Memoriam column of the local newspaper. But I obsessed over it -- was it written good enough, what would people think, etc. etc. Had to stop, it was making me crazy. Well, worse than normal :wink:
 

kelliblue

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Things that bothered me about the Sopranos:

1. the excessive profanity and gory violence

2. misogyny, objectification and violence against women

3. the way the Christopher treated Adriana in general

4. Adriana's murder, which was actually tamer than the way Christopher treated her

5. the reinforcement of negative stereotypes of Italian-Americans

6. frequent racial slurs and insults directed at other ethnic groups

7. Lorraine Bracco's terrible acting

8. the disappointing, poorly written ending
 
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kelliblue

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What I hated most about Tony Soprano wasn't the fact that he was a murderous mobster involved in criminal activity. I despised him for cheating on Carmela repeatedly. Edie Falco is a beautiful woman. She is actually part Swedish. Tony was no Paul Newman.

Paul Newman once said: "Why go out for a hamburger when you can have steak at home?"
That's exactly what Tony was doing.
 
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DiO'Bolic

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I’ve barely slept since Sunday night. I thought I pulled a muscle in my lower back. Went to the doctor Tuesday since the pain is intense and I’ve been putting so much off recently. Got a powerful muscle relaxer for the back. Got drugs for sciatic problems in the right leg. Had my elbow drained because my bursa sac burst two weeks ago. Got a flu shot. And have to see a surgeon because I have a tumor growing in my cheek almost the size of a golf ball. Doctor wanted to know if I preferred a regular surgeon or a plastic surgeon. I said a regular one because a nice scar on the face would look cool and manly, and I said I’d prefer one in the shape of a cross like the prince of England had in the movie A Knight’s Tale. He didn’t know if I was kidding, and I didn’t tell him I’m wasn’t kidding. The drugs for the back aren’t working and now I have a rash where the pain is localized. Called the doctor back today as I now fear it might be shingles instead of a muscle pull. With the lack of sleep and the constant pain I don’t fell I’m in my right mind (more so than usual for you smart-alecks ;)) and I won’t be posting for awhile because I fear I might say something I’ll regret later. Take care.

GO DODGERS! HOPING FOR A DODGERS/RED SOX WORLD SERIES.
 

Spideyman

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I’ve barely slept since Sunday night. I thought I pulled a muscle in my lower back. Went to the doctor Tuesday since the pain is intense and I’ve been putting so much off recently. Got a powerful muscle relaxer for the back. Got drugs for sciatic problems in the right leg. Had my elbow drained because my bursa sack burst two weeks ago. Got a flu shot. And have to see a surgeon because I have a tumor growing in my cheek almost the size of a golf ball. Doctor wanted to know if I preferred a regular surgeon or a plastic surgeon. I said a regular one because a nice scar on the face would look cool and manly, and I said I’d prefer one in the shape of a cross like the prince of England had in the movie A Knight’s Tale. He didn’t know if I was kidding, and I didn’t tell him I’m wasn’t kidding. The drugs for the back aren’t working and now I have a rash where the pain is localized. Called the doctor back today as I now fear it might be shingles instead of a muscle pull. With the lack of sleep and the constant pain I don’t fell I’m in my right mind (more so than usual for you smart-alecks ;)) and I won’t be posting for awhile because I fear I might say something I’ll regret later. Take care.

GO DODGERS! HOPING FOR A DODGERS/RED SOX WORLD SERIES.
Sending a ton of healing vibes. Sure hope it isn't singles. May all health issues resolves as soon as possible with only good results. Stress is a killer!
 

DiO'Bolic

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Sending a ton of healing vibes. Sure hope it isn't singles. May all health issues resolves as soon as possible with only good results. Stress is a killer!
Thank you. I've been driving the wife crazy this week. She's always asking if she can help in any way. I'm the type to tell people just leave me the hell alone in my misery. A couple more days of this and she will give me the 'singles.' ;):)
 

GNTLGNT

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Had to call the ambulance for the wife last night. She passed out and was unconscious for several minutes. They took her for a blood transfusion and told me to go home and come back tomorrow. Didn't get a lot of sleep last night. Going to see her shortly. All should be well and all manner of things should be well.
....healing thoughts for the Missus old friend.....
 

Spideyman

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Had to call the ambulance for the wife last night. She passed out and was unconscious for several minutes. They took her for a blood transfusion and told me to go home and come back tomorrow. Didn't get a lot of sleep last night. Going to see her shortly. All should be well and all manner of things should be well.
Holding you both in positive thoughts. May all be well with your wife. Extra healing vibes being sent. Please remember to take care of you too!!