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Kurben

The Fool on the Hill
Apr 12, 2014
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I'm single. Was married for a little more than a year when she died unexpectantly. We were just in the get to know you and adjusting phase. Now i'm a fully developed booknerd who reads a lot and enjoys, mostly, his singularity. Always been a little awkward on dates, always found it easier when i was one of ten males and females talking and joking and just being friends. That was easy. You could be yourself. For some reason it was much more difficult to be yourself on a date when your so much more aware that she is a woman and i am a man. Idiotic but there it is.
 

GNTLGNT

The idiot is IN
Jun 15, 2007
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I'm single. Was married for a little more than a year when she died unexpectantly. We were just in the get to know you and adjusting phase. Now i'm a fully developed booknerd who reads a lot and enjoys, mostly, his singularity. Always been a little awkward on dates, always found it easier when i was one of ten males and females talking and joking and just being friends. That was easy. You could be yourself. For some reason it was much more difficult to be yourself on a date when your so much more aware that she is a woman and i am a man. Idiotic but there it is.
....makes perfect sense my friend.....
 

misery chastain loves co.

MORE Count Chocula please.....
Jul 31, 2011
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I'm single. Was married for a little more than a year when she died unexpectantly. We were just in the get to know you and adjusting phase. Now i'm a fully developed booknerd who reads a lot and enjoys, mostly, his singularity. Always been a little awkward on dates, always found it easier when i was one of ten males and females talking and joking and just being friends. That was easy. You could be yourself. For some reason it was much more difficult to be yourself on a date when your so much more aware that she is a woman and i am a man. Idiotic but there it is.
So sorry Kurben. I didn't know that.
I completely understand what you're saying. I much prefer hanging out in a group as well.
 

ghost19

"Have I run too far to get home?"
Sep 25, 2011
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I'm single. Was married for a little more than a year when she died unexpectantly. We were just in the get to know you and adjusting phase. Now i'm a fully developed booknerd who reads a lot and enjoys, mostly, his singularity. Always been a little awkward on dates, always found it easier when i was one of ten males and females talking and joking and just being friends. That was easy. You could be yourself. For some reason it was much more difficult to be yourself on a date when your so much more aware that she is a woman and i am a man. Idiotic but there it is.
Not idiotic at all sir, spot on actually. I'm very sorry about your wife Kurben.
 

grin willard

"Keep the change, you filthy animal!"
Feb 21, 2017
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I'm single. Was married for a little more than a year when she died unexpectantly. We were just in the get to know you and adjusting phase. Now i'm a fully developed booknerd who reads a lot and enjoys, mostly, his singularity. Always been a little awkward on dates, always found it easier when i was one of ten males and females talking and joking and just being friends. That was easy. You could be yourself. For some reason it was much more difficult to be yourself on a date when your so much more aware that she is a woman and i am a man. Idiotic but there it is.

That's terrible. You're very strong to have survived something like that.
 

rockerchick

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Aug 21, 2009
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I also thought most people on here were married. I have been in and out of more relationships than I can count. I have dumped people and I have been dumped. I ghosted certain people when the relationships became too intense and were starting to affect my performance at work. People always say God has a plan. I guess you have to believe that even if you're not religious. Everything happens for a reason. Treat people how you would like to be treated because everything you do comes back to you. The universe is like a giant boomerang. Some folks call that karma.

These days a lot of people don't want to get married. They are content with just living together. Well I'm not. I don't want a roommate with benefits. I want a husband.

So glad I found this thread.
 

grin willard

"Keep the change, you filthy animal!"
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I also thought most people on here were married. I have been in and out of more relationships than I can count. I have dumped people and I have been dumped. I ghosted certain people when the relationships became too intense and were starting to affect my performance at work. People always say God has a plan. I guess you have to believe that even if you're not religious. Everything happens for a reason. Treat people how you would like to be treated because everything you do comes back to you. The universe is like a giant boomerang. Some folks call that karma.

I can't really subscribe to the idea of G-d having a plan, karma, or any of that anymore. I think the Hubble telescope and probes & things have proven the universe has no rhyme or reason -- it's a hot mess! Chaos on top of chaos. That's why we have to vacuum so much. I do believe there are real & tangible benefits connected to kind & moral behavior. I'm definitely no crystal worshipping new ager, but I believe in positive & negative energy. But I think it has more to do with us than the universe. Someone very recently messaged me on facebook saying, words to the effect, "Karma has really paid me back for the sh!t I've done." I told them, "No, making one stupid life decision after another is what did it to you! Take some responsibility, quit looking for an easy out!" Not those words exactly, but I was pretty damn mean. Relationships though? Who knows. It's so easy to overlook a lot of stuff. If they're cute. :) If only, like Batman, we had a Boy Wonder following us around. That raspy Jiminy Cricket voice in our ear.

Holy Margo Kidder, Grin! No more problematic women!

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Blake

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Feb 18, 2013
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Scientists have proved that the alignment of the planets, stars, solar flares, comets, etc, has an effect on the child in the womb, because there's been studies done that show say scientists are born during a certain time, creative artists(writers, painters, musicians) are born at the certaing time like when Jupiter is closer or Saturn. I do believe that you might get rewared by doing good work but if your'e too nice you get taken advantage of. It is better to share your life with someone as long as that person isn't a negative person (passive aggressive as well), I know guys who are married that I went to school with or later on who thought they married the right woman and ended up sad or divorced because women usually control the marriage.
 

Tery

Say hello to my fishy buddy
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Apr 12, 2006
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Scientists have proved that the alignment of the planets, stars, solar flares, comets, etc, has an effect on the child in the womb, because there's been studies done that show say scientists are born during a certain time, creative artists(writers, painters, musicians) are born at the certaing time like when Jupiter is closer or Saturn.

Welllllll....not exactly. French mathematician Michel Gauquelin studied astrology and did come up with some interesting correlations. But -- and I say this as a Witch with experience in casting natal charts -- he didn't exactly prove it. Read about it here:

The Gauquelin work 1 (Abstract+Article)
 

Srbo

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Mar 23, 2008
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Lots of replies here, can`t read them all.
Not single, but I didn`t mind it when I was.
I wanted to stay that way, being in a relationship with me is not easy, not easy at all. Or at least it wasn`t easy.
But my now-wife fought for me something unbelievable and she changed me.
And when the kid came...that was it, I became a new man.
Even though, deep down, I know I`m a loner.
My soul sometimes is a vast desert and sometimes there are still times when I don`t let anyone in.
For their benefit, not mine.
 

grin willard

"Keep the change, you filthy animal!"
Feb 21, 2017
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Lots of replies here, can`t read them all.
Not single, but I didn`t mind it when I was.
I wanted to stay that way, being in a relationship with me is not easy, not easy at all. Or at least it wasn`t easy.
But my now-wife fought for me something unbelievable and she changed me.
And when the kid came...that was it, I became a new man.
Even though, deep down, I know I`m a loner.
My soul sometimes is a vast desert and sometimes there are still times when I don`t let anyone in.
For their benefit, not mine.

Once I got a buy one get one free half gallon of Reese's Peanut-Butter Cup ice cream. So, flush with victory at my skilled bargain hunting, I began tossing back some ice-cream. My G-d, it was good! If you've ever had it you know what I'm saying. Before I knew it, I'd eaten an entire half-gallon! Then, I tried a bit of the other half-gallon. Then ate it all. With a gallon of goo inside me, I felt -- not great -- but okay. Strangely I was/am not fat. But, that day, deep down, I knew I'd eaten too much ice-cream. And I realized for ice-cream, being in a freezer around me is not easy. Not easy at all. Were you quoting the Eagles song Desperado before? :sorrow: My mistake. Anyway ...

 

Srbo

Uber Member
Mar 23, 2008
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Once I got a buy one get one free half gallon of Reese's Peanut-Butter Cup ice cream. So, flush with victory at my skilled bargain hunting, I began tossing back some ice-cream. My G-d, it was good! If you've ever had it you know what I'm saying. Before I knew it, I'd eaten an entire half-gallon! Then, I tried a bit of the other half-gallon. Then ate it all. With a gallon of goo inside me, I felt -- not great -- but okay. Strangely I was/am not fat. But, that day, deep down, I knew I'd eaten too much ice-cream. And I realized for ice-cream, being in a freezer around me is not easy. Not easy at all. Were you quoting the Eagles song Desperado before? :sorrow: My mistake. Anyway ...


:lol:
No, i have the same stance like The Big Lebowski on The Eagles.
 

mal

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Jun 23, 2007
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No man is an island. When you exclude society you get a little crazy I guess, but I prefer lack of people to people in general. My wife and I have been together for over 30 years without getting married, 15 of those years were truly happy. =D I guess one day we'll get married or die. The only friends I have are from when I was a youth. I have a lot of acquaintances and am very friendly and caring towards them, and strangers as well, but if I get any free time I don't want to go out and do something with someone, I'd rather go alone. That being said, I love my honey and would be terribly lonely if she were to go away. I'd probably sell off everything and go somewhere to be incognito and wait for the end.
 

Neesy

#1 fan (Annie Wilkes cousin) 1st cousin Mom's side
May 24, 2012
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No man is an island. When you exclude society you get a little crazy I guess, but I prefer lack of people to people in general. My wife and I have been together for over 30 years without getting married, 15 of those years were truly happy. =D I guess one day we'll get married or die. The only friends I have are from when I was a youth. I have a lot of acquaintances and am very friendly and caring towards them, and strangers as well, but if I get any free time I don't want to go out and do something with someone, I'd rather go alone. That being said, I love my honey and would be terribly lonely if she were to go away. I'd probably sell off everything and go somewhere to be incognito and wait for the end.

Living with a significant other is like having a constant critic beside you. Rave reviews at first...pretty soon yer a box-office bomb. Nertz to that action, Jack. Who needs it?

Although technically I am married, since he spends most of his time way up North I do feel single at times. More like a single parent, since my son is special needs and still lives at home.

To be honest I prefer to be alone a lot of the time - I am no hermit, but at the same time large groups get to me after awhile.

That's probably why I prefer the evening shift - less folks running around the halls at the hospital.