How Did You Show Your Kindness Today?

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blunthead said:
I realize that what I post here might fit only in one sense, but I post it because I think it's an important sense, and because it's what's been going on with me lately. The kindness I'm showing is to myself. I'm not ignoring others or trying to be mean to anyone, but I've realized that the time has come for me to finally start learning how to take care of myself, by which I'm not referring to personal hygiene or eating enough (or at least not only those things). I'm having to ask myself some questions about what I want out of life, then, with the answer-burdens in tow, having to learn how to find or accomplish those things. As I will find them the burdens will fall away, obviously. I'm being kind to myself by altering my behavior to allow for my need to face my personal challenges, demons, pain and whatever, and make decisions about them. In the past I thought incorrectly that having to face them was cruel. It is not, but kind, because those are the bad things, the diseases, the torments, which when faced and dealt with and decided-what-to-do-about, finally go away. Not facing them not only allows them to stay - if you ignore a problem it will not go away, not really - it feeds them, and gives birth to more of them.

So, while trying not to ignore others or be mean to them or not care (I'll always care), I'm focusing on my own needs. I hate to admit it at this late date, but it feels like a new experience to me, like I'm entering new territory. I guess the territory's always been there; I've just had my back turned to it.
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I hope everything works out for you, Frank!
 
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I was a little taken aback,just for a moment until I realized what the situation was,by going into a sub shop,(hoagie,grinder,what have you for those in other areas) and a little girl was taken by my appearance..she was clearly autistic,or a related condition,and she was just giggling and exclaiming loudly,in a kind of nonsensical manner..her mom just cooly removed her from the room,and settled her down..not sure why I set her off(Okay no insults from the peanut gallery)but it was no problem,for the mom who handled it easily or any of the other customers,really no need for anyone to comment.When I think I have difficulties,I think it is good to remember those who really have to struggle in life..:grinning:
Edit..not to mean I was kind to the little one,or her mom other than smiling at them,but sometimes,I think that understanding,and not having to comment,helps a little with folks dealing with autistic kids..they must hear the gamut,so was thinking,maybe less,is more..
 
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blunthead said:
I realize that what I post here might fit only in one sense, but I post it because I think it's an important sense, and because it's what's been going on with me lately. The kindness I'm showing is to myself. I'm not ignoring others or trying to be mean to anyone, but I've realized that the time has come for me to finally start learning how to take care of myself, by which I'm not referring to personal hygiene or eating enough (or at least not only those things). I'm having to ask myself some questions about what I want out of life, then, with the answer-burdens in tow, having to learn how to find or accomplish those things. As I will find them the burdens will fall away, obviously. I'm being kind to myself by altering my behavior to allow for my need to face my personal challenges, demons, pain and whatever, and make decisions about them. In the past I thought incorrectly that having to face them was cruel. It is not, but kind, because those are the bad things, the diseases, the torments, which when faced and dealt with and decided-what-to-do-about, finally go away. Not facing them not only allows them to stay - if you ignore a problem it will not go away, not really - it feeds them, and gives birth to more of them.

So, while trying not to ignore others or be mean to them or not care (I'll always care), I'm focusing on my own needs. I hate to admit it at this late date, but it feels like a new experience to me, like I'm entering new territory. I guess the territory's always been there; I've just had my back turned to it.
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You are a good man,Charlie Brown..take care of yourself by all means,cause we need a happy good blunthead around this joint! So hang in there..:grinning:
 
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