This is my same problem......except that the BF is also an SK fan. Similarly, our plans include flying into Boston, checking out a few sites there, renting a car, and driving through New England and seeing the sites awash in full autumn blaze.......
We've planned a fall visit twice, and twice life has changed our plans. This time, life has decided to move him to the NC coast.....5 hours away. His cash flow and our together time have just become very limited for the foreseeable future. We've postponed our fall visit until next year and in reality, we can't afford to travel that far twice.
Another unknown for me is I have no clue what my daughter will be doing next summer. Gatherings like this aren't her bag, and while she could stay with her dad, it has never sat right with me to change up the visitation schedule like that. On the two occasions that has happened, I felt like I was pawning her off for my own enjoyment.
While I'm not one to ever say never, and I'd truly love to meet everyone..... if it comes down to making a choice, my kid and the BF are gonna win every time, all the time.