What does # 6 mean? "6. If the abused was not at fault"
Again, this is just from my knowledge of some folks "in the life." And to be fair, most of the rightest-wing, most evangelical Christians I've ever dealt with believe that this situation is wrong and horrifying! So whomever wrote this bit of pedophilia apologetics is REALLY on the fringes of the fringe...
They mean if the person who was abused was not also culpable in the situation.
You know how from time to time articles pop up where girls have been asked to wear more clothing or less makeup, because their appearance or demeanor may cause the boys around them to be distracted? Imagine that thinking, but times a zillion.
I can not tell you how many times mothers are admonished to provide modest dress for their girls, because exposing their bodies is a "stumbling block" in the path of the brothers in the Christian faith. Not just the kids, all the men. And this isn't just in religious writings, it's in homeschooling articles, parenting books, forums everywhere.
A thread I've seen more than 100 times (I'm not exaggerating) goes something like this: My daughter has been invited to a girls-only pool party at the home of a friend. The parents will be there and involved the whole time, and many of the girls going are her friends from church. We have a modest swimsuit for her, so I know my daughter will be properly attired, but my concern is that the other girls at the party will likely be wearing regular one- and two-piece suits, and there is a teenage boy who lives at the house. I feel it is wrong for my daughter to take part in this, when there will be so many scantily clad girls parading around in front of this poor boy. I don't want the parents to think I condone such indecency, and the Bible says, 'Be ye not unequally yoked with unbelievers.' So my question is this: When I decline the invitation, should I tell the parents all my concerns so that they have a chance to consider the situation they're putting these children in, since their everlasting testimony is at stake? Or should I just politely say, 'No, thank you,' and keep them in my prayers?
Before we go any further, you have to click the "modest swimwear" link in that paragraph. Then you have to understand that I am not stretching the truth on this, I have seen this discussion over, and over, and over. And finally, you have to really try to see that some of the people out there believe that they are helping by doing these things, like "guarding the eyes of the men." I didn't make that term up.
So, to some folks out there, a small subset of a small subset of Christianity, a girl who has dressed immodestly (which to some groups can mean showing wrists, ankles or her hair, or wearing pants), or has acted in ways that are not feminine, is partially to blame for any abuse that followed. It's the same argument you hear in other cultures, "She was asking for it!" with an extra helping of "the poor young man just couldn't help himself." And sometimes there are even rationalizations about how Eve led Man to the Fall, for hers was the first sin. (Still not making this up.)
Reminder: There are not a lot of people who believe this way.