Arista, thank you for saying that ma'am. I very much appreciate it. Have a good weekend.Ghost -I hope nothing but happiness for you and your new relationship.
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Arista, thank you for saying that ma'am. I very much appreciate it. Have a good weekend.Ghost -I hope nothing but happiness for you and your new relationship.
....DUDE!....I found you the bestest engagement ring ever...hell, a whole case of em in lovely gift boxes!!!!!......Arista, thank you for saying that ma'am. I very much appreciate it. Have a good weekend.
Thank you ma'am. I don't think I'm good people, but apparently she does...until she gets to know me better then all bets are off most likely. I think she likes my son more than me....they've become quite chummy...lol she knows how to play the guitar which is fascinating to him although he never told me he was interested in that type of thing so she's taught him a couple of chords....HEY! anyone see me over in the corner here? Anyone want to know how to field strip a rifle? No? Really? Just gonna sit there and talk guitar, huh? Ok, I'll just play with the 2 year old, he likes to run around and wrestle, easily amused much like myself...Oh this just makes me so happy to read. It sounds like you are handling everything just right. I wish nothing but the best for you and your son, your new lady and hers. Take each day as it comes with patience and kindness (I have no doubt that you will) and do not get discouraged if there are bumps along the way.
You are good people, Sir Ghost.
Oh good Gan GNT, I don't even want to think about that right now sir....stop jinxing me...lol....DUDE!....I found you the bestest engagement ring ever...hell, a whole case of em in lovely gift boxes!!!!!......
If there ever is a hoe down, you get a VIP invite sir, complete with passes to the one legged sack races, mud wrestling, and the quick draw pistol competitionSir Scott, I thank you for your wise kind words, they are very much appreciated and I hear you very well. Watch your six sir.
....see, that's what makes it evident that you are good people with a truly loving heart.....those that do, never think they're worth a mouse fart to anyone else...Thank you ma'am. I don't think I'm good people, but apparently she does...until she gets to know me better then all bets are off most likely. I think she likes my son more than me....they've become quite chummy...lol she knows how to play the guitar which is fascinating to him although he never told me he was interested in that type of thing so she's taught him a couple of chords....HEY! anyone see me over in the corner here? Anyone want to know how to field strip a rifle? No? Really? Just gonna sit there and talk guitar, huh? Ok, I'll just play with the 2 year old, he likes to run around and wrestle, easily amused much like myself...
....there will be frothy beverages and general tomfoolery correct?....If there ever is a hoe down, you get a VIP invite sir, complete with passes to the one legged sack races, mud wrestling, and the quick draw pistol competition
That's ALL there will be GNT, Welcome to Arkansas amigo.....there will be frothy beverages and general tomfoolery correct?....
.....all I know is, it involved a potato sack and some bailing twine......I'm happy for you Ghost. Truly am. Also nosy and want to know how you met up again after all this time.
....that's a hella better state them then Oh-Hi-Ho's......"Where the major drug routes meet"......That's ALL there will be GNT, Welcome to Arkansas amigo.
"RC Colas and moon pies. We're not too smart, but we have a real good time."
See, the guitar thing is good, that is something they can bond over without being some overbearing, constantly on their minds type thing, if that makes sense!Thank you ma'am. I don't think I'm good people, but apparently she does...until she gets to know me better then all bets are off most likely. I think she likes my son more than me....they've become quite chummy...lol she knows how to play the guitar which is fascinating to him although he never told me he was interested in that type of thing so she's taught him a couple of chords....HEY! anyone see me over in the corner here? Anyone want to know how to field strip a rifle? No? Really? Just gonna sit there and talk guitar, huh? Ok, I'll just play with the 2 year old, he likes to run around and wrestle, easily amused much like myself...
Wow - that was quite a complicated answer - thanks for sharing that.Thank you Neesy. I hope you had a good break ma'am. So far we're just taking that part slow, she has a 2 year old son, her ex died just a few months after their son was born. My son is 12 but used to be 2 long ago, so although I'm rusty, I've tried very hard to include her son when I'm around. I think I'm just an interesting jungle gym to him for the most part but he'll actually run up to me and let me pick him up now which I think is at least progress. My son is a bit more complicated. He very much seems to like her, but it's strange. I think he's not too keen on watching me roughhouse or sit with her son while we're all talking. I include my son in everything as far as us all conversing but I think it's been he and I for so long that he's just not used to seeing me 1)spending time with a woman, and 2)definitely not used to a rambunctious 2-year old being part of the landscape. I've been very careful to keep him in the loop during the last few weeks, just to try and explain what's happening, but it's very difficult Neesy. We're a team, he and I, it's been us against the world for a long time now with all the sadness with his mom of the last few years. I think I'm kind of his rock, does that make any sense? For the most part I've stayed calm and collected during the last few years trying to protect him and showing him that I'm going to make sure he's #1 and that he's protected and provided for no matter the cost. Now, I think he sees me texting, or talking on the phone and he knows who I'm communicating with. She is doing everything she possibly can to show him attention and that she's not trying to replace his mother and she's doing a great job but since this thing is so new, we have a long road ahead of us. But, slow and steady has been the plan from the get go on both sides, neither of us are used to having another person in the picture but it's easier for us than it is for both boys because we both mutually want someone in the picture. It's complicated, as I knew it would be going into a relationship with someone with her own child. You're a bit torn over how much attention to show that person because you know someone else is watching you interact with that person. I feel like I'm under a microscope when I'm talking to her if my son is around. We've pretty much decided that all we can do is try to include both of them as much as possible to show both of them we're not trying to exclude them. I've bought her son a couple of small toys, she is teaching my son to play the acoustic guitar which I didn't even know he was interested in...go figure. Overall, I'm cautiously hopeful Neesy but still wary. Ok, there I go rambling again...sorry. I like her quite a bit Neesy, she's very nice to me. I'm not used to that, but I'm not complaining at all ma'am. Have a good weekend.
I appreciate that NN, I sincerely do.I'm happy for you Ghost. Truly am. Also nosy and want to know how you met up again after all this time.
See, the guitar thing is good, that is something they can bond over without being some overbearing, constantly on their minds type thing, if that makes sense!
Blending families is hard work. I was a single mom when I met my husband, and in our case there was just one child, not two. We probably rushed things, were married 4 months after meeting and added a baby to the family a month before our first anniversary. It was all very overwhelming for Brandon...I was not thinking of him reacting to the change, when it had always just been the two of us. I was just thinking that he was finally going to have a father.
We definitely had some bumps and growing pains, me included! But it can and does work out! Brandon has always been the best big brother and now, a wonderful father in his own right to RJ.
So I guess what I'm taking so long to say is that it takes work and patience to blend families together but it is very worth it in the end.
Thank you ma'am. Hope you had a good break.ghost19 -- so very happy for you. Only love and green lights for the future.
so we've actually had a few home cooked meals the last few weeks which has been nice.
I de cluttered and organized two sheds, thus realizing they actually had sides and back walls!!Thank you ma'am. Hope you had a good break.