Discussion: Abraham's Boys by Joe Hill

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HollyGolightly

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Y'all are the best! Spideyman . Dana Jean do1you9love?

I am just unplugging for the weekend. I don't think I could be gone from here ever. Not until we close the doors for good. I'll see ya back on Tuesday. Maybe at the weekend board if I can get there. I've been so busy for the past several weekends, the Ogre needs his wife back.

I'm trying to learn balance. I went to my boss and co-workers with a load of complaints about my hours, the weekend and evening phone calls, etc - and what I came away from it with is that I bring it on myself by saying yes. And this is true. So I have vowed that this is my year of NO. Unless it's good for me and my family, my answer will be NO. My job is hard at times because the lines between what is work and what is my responsibility as an active member of my parish are blurred. I find myself saying YES because I think it's my job or because I know if I don't do it, it won't get done. So maybe that needs to happen a few times. But having been a yes girl for so long, saying NO is soooo hard for me.

fljoe0 - I agree 100% about that moment - I was like "OMG HE'S THE MONSTER", and now Max has to spend his life sorting out who is monster and who is not.

Tery I am looking forward to that story! I've never heard of it, but Vincent Price!!!!
 

Spideyman

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Y'all are the best! Spideyman . Dana Jean do1you9love?

I am just unplugging for the weekend. I don't think I could be gone from here ever. Not until we close the doors for good. I'll see ya back on Tuesday. Maybe at the weekend board if I can get there. I've been so busy for the past several weekends, the Ogre needs his wife back.

I'm trying to learn balance. I went to my boss and co-workers with a load of complaints about my hours, the weekend and evening phone calls, etc - and what I came away from it with is that I bring it on myself by saying yes. And this is true. So I have vowed that this is my year of NO. Unless it's good for me and my family, my answer will be NO. My job is hard at times because the lines between what is work and what is my responsibility as an active member of my parish are blurred. I find myself saying YES because I think it's my job or because I know if I don't do it, it won't get done. So maybe that needs to happen a few times. But having been a yes girl for so long, saying NO is soooo hard for me.

fljoe0 - I agree 100% about that moment - I was like "OMG HE'S THE MONSTER", and now Max has to spend his life sorting out who is monster and who is not.

Tery I am looking forward to that story! I've never heard of it, but Vincent Price!!!!
HollyGolightly -- No is not a bad word. Sometimes work needs to shared. As you say maybe a few times of no will make realizations happen. Do you think delegating work would help? Make some of the responsibilities of work fall on others. And if these co workers are also member, does not the responsibilities of an active member also fall upon them? Self matters, do not discover that too late in your life!
 

Dana Jean

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Y'all are the best! Spideyman . Dana Jean do1you9love?

I am just unplugging for the weekend. I don't think I could be gone from here ever. Not until we close the doors for good. I'll see ya back on Tuesday. Maybe at the weekend board if I can get there. I've been so busy for the past several weekends, the Ogre needs his wife back.

I'm trying to learn balance. I went to my boss and co-workers with a load of complaints about my hours, the weekend and evening phone calls, etc - and what I came away from it with is that I bring it on myself by saying yes. And this is true. So I have vowed that this is my year of NO. Unless it's good for me and my family, my answer will be NO. My job is hard at times because the lines between what is work and what is my responsibility as an active member of my parish are blurred. I find myself saying YES because I think it's my job or because I know if I don't do it, it won't get done. So maybe that needs to happen a few times. But having been a yes girl for so long, saying NO is soooo hard for me.

fljoe0 - I agree 100% about that moment - I was like "OMG HE'S THE MONSTER", and now Max has to spend his life sorting out who is monster and who is not.

Tery I am looking forward to that story! I've never heard of it, but Vincent Price!!!!
And remember, No means No. People will try to coax you, guilt you, flatter you "because you are so good at this or that, you do the best job, etc..."-- Thank them for their vote of confidence and say No. I can't do it.

And if you have to make up some damn lie to get you through those first few No's until you are used to it, do it. It's a training process. Sometimes we need a little help from our friends, and a lie can be a very good friend until you get used to the fact the world doesn't stop turning if you say no.

Once you get used to saying no, you won't need to give anyone a damn excuse, lie or not.

You can do it and it's okay.
 

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I'm sorry I couldn't be here last night. I did have the story read on time! And caught up on the ones I fell behind on. :p But was still feeling a bit icky and went to bed early. Hubby came home sick today, so I guess we're passing it around.

I agree that Abraham was the true monster in the story. Very enjoyable story that moves quickly. My ewww moment was when Abraham was telling the boys the neighbor lady had died and her insides fell out. Gross, plus who says that to two little boys?? A sociopath, that's who.