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...Mary, I know you have made up your mind, but if I could at least put one more wish out there for you to do dialysis?...yes, it's extremely time consuming and life altering, but you still have your life....and with as much as you love your kids and hubby, family etc. I really plead for you to not give up....
That is very sad, I'm so sorry (((Mary))). Thoughts and prayers for you and your family.
I don't see having dialysis twice a week for hours on end, for the rest of my life as 'living', it is just putting off the end result any way. Then eventually needing a kidney transplant, that I may or may not get a match for. No, just let me go in peace. My family will get through all this, and come out the other side in one piece.
We have discussed in length how everything is going to be.
We have discussed in length how everything is going to be.
...I only tried because I care, but I'm glad you're at peace with this.....
Yes, Mary. It's not going to make it any easier for your family. Try.
Just take the help. Perhaps you are thinking this way because you do not have the correct medicine. Let anyone help you.
Sorry, went off on a GNT reply. But still Mary, get in the hospital. You might just change your mind when you have the right meds and IV's and nutrition and can think straight. It's not over. You have a long life to live, if you could just take this time to let the doctors help you.
Please get yourself to a hospital.
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My mistake. My reply was contained in GNT's quote. Sorry.
Hey Mary, can you skip the dialysis and go straight to the kidney transplant? Many more of those transplants work than don't, there really is still hope ....don't let depression about it wear you down.... love, prayer, and hopes no matter what....
My dear, please do what the doctor has suggested. I know how it feels to be sick and tired of it all. I felt that way during chemo. It is easy to want to just curl up in a fetal position and let it all go. Being sick makes us vulnerable. It is easy, during these bad times, to want to just give it up for a lost cause. Please do not feel so sad that you make unwise decisions. Reach out to others for succor and help in your time of need. Dialysis is not a bad thing considering the alternative. Please do it for your loved ones if not for yourself. The world will not be a better place without you in it, my dear. Your life has value. There are people who have benefited from knowing and loving you...many are on this very site. We love you and still need you to make our lives a little richer. We are ka-tet, lovey.
Ok, everyone, I appreciate your concerns, and thoughts, but I have made my decision, and that is that.
When my doctor called the day before Thanksgiving with this news, I told her straight off 'no'. I am not depressed, or sad or anything to jump to that decision. It is MY choice.
Please respect that.
Karen said that she would have done the same thing.
She is being very strong, and finding out things she needs to do to make this go smoothly.
I have told her I don't want to be resuscitated, and she is going to get that order from my doctor. I also do not want life support, that is a total waste of time, and effort.
My husband will move back to the town he lived in before.
We have it all taken care of, and I am at peace with their decisions. A lot of it is my final wishes.
When my doctor called the day before Thanksgiving with this news, I told her straight off 'no'. I am not depressed, or sad or anything to jump to that decision. It is MY choice.
Please respect that.
Karen said that she would have done the same thing.
She is being very strong, and finding out things she needs to do to make this go smoothly.
I have told her I don't want to be resuscitated, and she is going to get that order from my doctor. I also do not want life support, that is a total waste of time, and effort.
My husband will move back to the town he lived in before.
We have it all taken care of, and I am at peace with their decisions. A lot of it is my final wishes.
I understand. I have similar orders from my parents for whenever their times come. We are all just shocked and sad by your news. You are constantly in my thoughts. I admire your strength.
I just don't understand why you are not helping yourself. Please go get treatment.
There ain't no pretty afterlife. Gone's gone.
~edit. Sorry, did not mean to sound rude, was upset. Go to doctor.
My mom had a DNR, and it was horrifying for all of us in the family when the time came.
There ain't no pretty afterlife. Gone's gone.
~edit. Sorry, did not mean to sound rude, was upset. Go to doctor.
My mom had a DNR, and it was horrifying for all of us in the family when the time came.
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Prayers for your son - I hope it all goes well.
Good to see you - I think of your family often - wish I could do something to help. Peace be with you all.
MaryPeg, I hate to hear this but totally respect it. If you've seen dialysis in action and know how it goes and are convinced it's not for you, that's your decision to make. I loved someone who died after a long time of dialysis, but we were happy to have him as long as we did - I wish it had been a little longer. Be informed and know what you want. I can't imagine what you're all going through and I'll just keep on praying for a miracle for you.
Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
Don't want to be intrusive, but how are you and the girls, other family and friends doing?
