Aaaack!!!!....My Boss is Evil

[blunthead]

Well, I am the boss, and I've found out that being cool and easygoing can lead to entitlement and dysfunction. It's been a tough lesson for me that people need authority, whether they realize it or not, believe it or not. I'm not the authoritarian type, so that's been tough for me to try to accomplish.

Probably why I'd rather be a writer. Unfortunately, it appears that people have to be willing to pay you in order to do that for a living.

And, don't get me wrong, but people demand authority, just as little children demand to be shown where certain lines are drawn because they understand intrinsically that they won't learn societal boundaries otherwise and respect them later as adults. Humans choose a leader, then expect to be lead.

 

[HollyGolightly]

I teach sixth grade, so the 3 sixth-grade teachers and I eat lunch together, along with one or two others from different grade levels. One woman teaches writing to all three grades (6,7,8) and eats lunch with us every day. The problem is she simply dominates the whole conversation. She'll start telling a story about her young son's baseball game, or how her aunt's best friend's cousin bought a house in Kansas City that looks like this-n-such, or Here are the things I bought on my last shopping trip. One time, she told us she and her husband had started watching Breaking Bad, and guess what? I'll never get to watch one episode even if I wanted to, because she spent 15 minutes telling every detail of every show and spoiling all the plot points. I have started not eating with them because it's so annoying. Plus, I always assume no one wants to hear more than a sentence or two about my life; why can't they see we're just not that interested in theirs? I swear, one time it took her ten minutes to answer the question, "Where did you find those cookies in Wal Mart?" She practically started at the birth of Christ and 10 minutes later, we knew exactly which aisle, shelf and behind which other box to find them. As Jerry Clower would say, "Just shoot up here amongst us; one of us has got to have some relief!"

LOL Danie!

 

[Grandpa]

I hate Air Supply....almost as much as I hate seafood.

Conversely, I love seafood even more than I love Air.... wait, no, I don't like Air Supply.

Never mind.

 

[Jojo87]

I am unlucky to have a evil boss. She sometimes say things that really hurt and make me and some of my co-workers to feel sad.
So many of my co-workers have left the job because of our boss. Sometimes I wonder how such a mean person can be in charge.
I and all of my co-workers get along well with each other. But then our kitchen manager (who happens to be our boss's daughter) she is also
a difficult person to work with. She hardly speaks anything if we work together in kitchen and if she speak it has to do with the work. I never start
any conversation with her cause I know she won't give me any good answer or don't start to speak back. Is to stressful to work with these two
people and that make me and my co-workers even more stressed.

 

[HollyGolightly]

I am unlucky to have a evil boss. She sometimes say things that really hurt and make me and some of my co-workers to feel sad.
So many of my co-workers have left the job because of our boss. Sometimes I wonder how such a mean person can be in charge.
I and all of my co-workers get along well with each other. But then our kitchen manager (who happens to be our boss's daughter) she is also
a difficult person to work with. She hardly speaks anything if we work together in kitchen and if she speak it has to do with the work. I never start
any conversation with her cause I know she won't give me any good answer or don't start to speak back. Is to stressful to work with these two
people and that make me and my co-workers even more stressed.

That sounds horrible Jojo! What a negative environment. How do you manage to stay so positive? you're always so kind and uplifting.

 

[blunthead]

I am unlucky to have a evil boss. She sometimes say things that really hurt and make me and some of my co-workers to feel sad.
So many of my co-workers have left the job because of our boss. Sometimes I wonder how such a mean person can be in charge.
I and all of my co-workers get along well with each other. But then our kitchen manager (who happens to be our boss's daughter) she is also
a difficult person to work with. She hardly speaks anything if we work together in kitchen and if she speak it has to do with the work. I never start
any conversation with her cause I know she won't give me any good answer or don't start to speak back. Is to stressful to work with these two
people and that make me and my co-workers even more stressed.

Hi, Jojo. If you can tolerate the job itself or hopefully even enjoy it despite the evil presence, hang in there. Sometimes it's darkest just before dawn. Some one posted above that they used to have a bad boss, but that that person is no longer boss and a nice boss is now instead.

 

[Jojo87]

That sounds horrible Jojo! What a negative environment. How do you manage to stay so positive? you're always so kind and uplifting.

Because of my co- workers. They are always kind and easy to talk with. I and co-workers can speak of our private life too and we always listen to
each other. In the free time I have many wonderful friends and a supportive family who I can talk to, so that's why I stay positive and are happy most of the time. Today when our boss did her own job most of the day and the kitchen manager had a extra day off. I and my co-worker had a blast in the kitchen. We talked, we laughed and it worked so well. Even the food was super good. So many came and thanked for a good food that I and my co worker had did. Was a good workday.

 

[Jojo87]

Hi, Jojo. If you can tolerate the job itself or hopefully even enjoy it despite the evil presence, hang in there. Sometimes it's darkest just before dawn. Some one posted above that they used to have a bad boss, but that that person is no longer boss and a nice boss is now instead.

I like the work. If you could kick those two away there would be nothing wrong with the workplace. But I am afraid that we don't get any new boss. She
stays until they close the place or until she retires. But at least after our boss retires we get a new one. She's almost 60 I think.

 

[jacobtlong]

I had a real nice boss not too long ago, but she was a complete idiot. The other two bosses I've had knew their stuff, but they were the definition of tyranny. Given the choice between the two I'd take tyrannical but knowledgeable over nice but stupid.

Thanks to my promotion all my coworkers are now no longer coworkers exactly. It's a different dynamic now and it is difficult for me to adjust. More and more I find myself being Mr. Evil Boss Guy.

And I hate it, but I'll do it for now so I can have some resume fodder.

 

[Jojo87]

OK maybe I was too hasty to write all bad about my boss. She can be a nice person too. And I and boss have sometimes pretty good conversations and
I and co-workers and our boss can laugh together. So no she isn't always evil. I guess it depends on the day.

 

[Spideyman]

Had a boss once who had a Jekyll and Hyde personality. She'd walk in the door all smiles, remember she wanted to say something and bam- total change and mean as the devil.

 

[blunthead]

OK maybe I was too hasty to write all bad about my boss. She can be a nice person too. And I and boss have sometimes pretty good conversations and
I and co-workers and our boss can laugh together. So no she isn't always evil. I guess it depends on the day.

I think you're a patient person Jojo, which you can use to your advantage. I imagine your boss is not used to people being very patient with her. Someone who is is a rare find for her, and despite her temperament, she likes people who are patient with her. She'll probably as long as she lives never tell a person who's patient with her that she appreciates it, but she does. Your relationship will be a valuable one to her.

 

[arista]

I have a boss that I kindly refer to as spin the mood wheel of fortune.
You are never quite sure what mood she will be in and that is totally random.

 

[danie]

Some people are addicted to alcohol, some to spending money, and some to talking. Without a doubt people have brought her problem up with this lady in her past, so if you tactfully say something like "Oh! Don't tell us how the show ends!" and smile, she'll realize she's out of control again. And tactfully interrupt her when she's going on and on. She probably traps people on the phone, too. I've had to learn how to deal with people who do that: yell "Fire!" and hang up.

Believe me, I've tried. I am not exactly a blunthead , but I'm pretty blunt and will speak up when needed. When she goes on one of her tangents, another coworker and I (who's even less tolerant of her than I) start up another conversation quietly, but nonetheless obviously ignoring her story. Then the others have to act interested in Blabbermouth, while the more interesting friend and I talk about something else.
Or even if I've never heard the story she starts in on, I'll interrupt and say, "Oh, yeah, I remember you telling us that," so she'll think she's already told us. Ain't I awful??? It's just that she has to tell EVERY detail, from the exact day and time, to who was there, to what toothpaste she used that morning. My motto is, "Tell the ending of your story first, then if I want to hear it from the beginning, I'll letcha know."

 

[Riot87]

I am not working at the moment but i actually made it manager at the last place i used to work for lol my boss was cool.

 

[blunthead]

Believe me, I've tried. I am not exactly a blunthead , but I'm pretty blunt and will speak up when needed. When she goes on one of her tangents, another coworker and I (who's even less tolerant of her than I) start up another conversation quietly, but nonetheless obviously ignoring her story. Then the others have to act interested in Blabbermouth, while the more interesting friend and I talk about something else.
Or even if I've never heard the story she starts in on, I'll interrupt and say, "Oh, yeah, I remember you telling us that," so she'll think she's already told us. Ain't I awful??? It's just that she has to tell EVERY detail, from the exact day and time, to who was there, to what toothpaste she used that morning. My motto is, "Tell the ending of your story first, then if I want to hear it from the beginning, I'll letcha know."

It sounds like you're dealing with it, not succumbing to it.

 

[ghost19]

I remember what it feels like to go from "one of the guys", to a supervisor of those same guys. It's a very crappy feeling when you know topics you used to kick around with everyone at lunch are now discussed without you around. That was the hardest adjustment I had to make. The same group of guys I shared common experiences and hardships with were now going to be under my supervision. Over the course of one weekend, you go from "guy with us in the trenches" to "admin a-hole". I called a meeting about my third day as a supervisor and tried to tell everyone that "my door is always open, I'm still one of you'll." The whole speech felt hollow and useless. I waited in silence after telling everyone at the conference table this fact and watched as everyone just sat there looking down at the table. No jokes, no comments, nothing. I then just sat down in my chair and told all the guys. "Look, I'm not any good at being in charge. I wasn't given a choice, I need you guys to continue to do what you do, how you do it. I'm not here to change anything, just to support all of you and give you whatever you need to get the job done." I sat there staring around the room for what seemed like eternity. Finally, Travis, my co-worker of over a decade and someone I would trust with my life, asked if he might say a few words. I told him please do. Travis got up from his chair and walked over the dry erase board in the conference room. He acted like he was going to say something several times, then just shook his head, looked at me very seriously for a few minutes, and proceeded to draw a huge phallus on the board, writing my name above it and then a caption below the picture exclaiming "WE ALL HATE YOU!".......Everyone lost it, including me. He did this while MY supervisor was watching. My supervisor had decided to sit in and see how my first meeting with my team went. My supervisor was crying he was laughing so hard. Travis shook my hand and took his seat, and everything was ok after that. I think three quarters of getting respect at my work is if you are ok with laughing at yourself. If you take yourself too seriously, they are going to let you have it without remorse....

 

[blunthead]

...I think three quarters of getting respect at my work is if you are ok with laughing at yourself. If you take yourself too seriously, they are going to let you have it without remorse....

This is the the thing in a nutshell, imho. Nobody appreciates or respects someone who thinks too highly of himself. Some bosses think their position makes them superior. Thinking that way only makes them an inferior boss.

 

[mustangclaire]

I could go on, and on about my boss. He was office manager. Then our resident partner left as his daughter died. Mr OCD (as I call him) bought into the partnership with his parents money. He is now my boss. And I have never worked for someone like it. He admits he is incredibly picky, I don't understand how I have done a job perfectly well for 8 years, and all of a sudden I am being picked up for the tiniest of things. I work in a small office, only 5 of us, and we all feel the same. He worries me so much. I swallow Kalms before I go to work, and swallow more before bedtime so I don't lie awake at night obsessing I did everything right. And he's younger than me. Go figure

 

[nate_watkins]

Has anyone heard the song 'Like a Boss' by Lonely Island?

Definitely NSFW, and not about an evil boss...