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hossenpepper

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1. Never get less than 12 hours of sleep.
2. Never play cards with a guy whose first name is the same as a city.
3. Never make love to a woman with a tattoo of a dagger anywhere on her body (I'm willing to be talked out of this one, dagger tattoo ladies).
4. Never wear a muskrat (live OR dead) on your head to a job interview.
5. Never buy generic cheese slices. They always rip in half when unwrapping.
 

Todash

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Get toxic people out of your life.
For those who have difficulty with this (might not just be FlakeNoir and morgan), such as when it's difficult to physically avoid some people for practical reasons, a few things that might help:

1. When they start in with their drama and mess, it might help to think of them as members of another species. Interesting, but not really related to you in any significant way.
2. Repeat to yourself, as many times as necessary, "Not my circus. Not my monkeys." You cannot fix other broken people.
3. Politely decline invitations, requests for loans, etc., without explanation. You do not owe anyone assistance. You do not owe anyone your time. You do not owe anyone explanations for how you choose to live your life. Not even your parents.
4. Voice mail call screening. It's your phone. You pay the bill. You're not required to answer.
5. If unfriending these people on Facebook would cause its own headache, as so often it would, simply go to that person's FB page and unfollow their posts. They will have no idea that you have done this, and they won't be able to tell that you have. (I created a handy little "how to" visual, below.)
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I hope this helps. I learned these things via that most harsh of all teachers, experience.
 

doowopgirl

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For those who have difficulty with this (might not just be FlakeNoir and morgan), such as when it's difficult to physically avoid some people for practical reasons, a few things that might help:

1. When they start in with their drama and mess, it might help to think of them as members of another species. Interesting, but not really related to you in any significant way.
2. Repeat to yourself, as many times as necessary, "Not my circus. Not my monkeys." You cannot fix other broken people.
3. Politely decline invitations, requests for loans, etc., without explanation. You do not owe anyone assistance. You do not owe anyone your time. You do not owe anyone explanations for how you choose to live your life. Not even your parents.
4. Voice mail call screening. It's your phone. You pay the bill. You're not required to answer.
5. If unfriending these people on Facebook would cause its own headache, as so often it would, simply go to that person's FB page and unfollow their posts. They will have no idea that you have done this, and they won't be able to tell that you have. (I created a handy little "how to" visual, below.)
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I hope this helps. I learned these things via that most harsh of all teachers, experience.
Excellent advice. Some people are just unavoidable and these are very practical ways todeal with such individuals.
 

champ1966

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For those who have difficulty with this (might not just be FlakeNoir and morgan), such as when it's difficult to physically avoid some people for practical reasons, a few things that might help:

1. When they start in with their drama and mess, it might help to think of them as members of another species. Interesting, but not really related to you in any significant way.
2. Repeat to yourself, as many times as necessary, "Not my circus. Not my monkeys." You cannot fix other broken people.
3. Politely decline invitations, requests for loans, etc., without explanation. You do not owe anyone assistance. You do not owe anyone your time. You do not owe anyone explanations for how you choose to live your life. Not even your parents.
4. Voice mail call screening. It's your phone. You pay the bill. You're not required to answer.
5. If unfriending these people on Facebook would cause its own headache, as so often it would, simply go to that person's FB page and unfollow their posts. They will have no idea that you have done this, and they won't be able to tell that you have. (I created a handy little "how to" visual, below.)
View attachment 6910

I hope this helps. I learned these things via that most harsh of all teachers, experience.

You're not answering your phone,or replying to my text messages. You're not liking my posts on your Facebook wall!!!! That's it I'm gonna write you a damn letter.
 

FlakeNoir

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For those who have difficulty with this (might not just be FlakeNoir and morgan), such as when it's difficult to physically avoid some people for practical reasons, a few things that might help:

1. When they start in with their drama and mess, it might help to think of them as members of another species. Interesting, but not really related to you in any significant way.
2. Repeat to yourself, as many times as necessary, "Not my circus. Not my monkeys." You cannot fix other broken people.
3. Politely decline invitations, requests for loans, etc., without explanation. You do not owe anyone assistance. You do not owe anyone your time. You do not owe anyone explanations for how you choose to live your life. Not even your parents.
4. Voice mail call screening. It's your phone. You pay the bill. You're not required to answer.
5. If unfriending these people on Facebook would cause its own headache, as so often it would, simply go to that person's FB page and unfollow their posts. They will have no idea that you have done this, and they won't be able to tell that you have. (I created a handy little "how to" visual, below.)
View attachment 6910

I hope this helps. I learned these things via that most harsh of all teachers, experience.
((( Todash ))) Thank you...
 

Todash

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((( Todash ))) Thank you...
You're very welcome. I forgot to mention that what happens when you unfollow someone on FB is that you simply do not see their posts come up in your newsfeed. You can still go look at their page from time to time, if you want to keep up with them. I've done that with a few people whom I do not wish to unfriend but who drive me a little crazy.

Another thing you can do on FB is choose the audience for your posts. I have a specific list called "Non-Reprobates," and I populated this list with a few very conservative family members or friends ... and any minors on friends list. It makes it easy to exclude them from posts that I do not think they would appreciate seeing (or, in the case of minors, that their parents would not appreciate them seeing). I simply choose the audience for a particular post as "Friends except Non-Reprobates."
 

Todash

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You're not answering your phone,or replying to my text messages. You're not liking my posts on your Facebook wall!!!! That's it I'm gonna write you a damn letter.
Weird. Maybe you got added to my Non-Reprobates list accidentally. Which of course would be a mistake as you are the reprobatest of them all.
 

FlakeNoir

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You're very welcome. I forgot to mention that what happens when you unfollow someone on FB is that you simply do not see their posts come up in your newsfeed. You can still go look at their page from time to time, if you want to keep up with them. I've done that with a few people whom I do not wish to unfriend but who drive me a little crazy.

Another thing you can do on FB is choose the audience for your posts. I have a specific list called "Non-Reprobates," and I populated this list with a few very conservative family members or friends ... and any minors on friends list. It makes it easy to exclude them from posts that I do not think they would appreciate seeing (or, in the case of minors, that their parents would not appreciate them seeing). I simply choose the audience for a particular post as "Friends except Non-Reprobates."
FB is not really my problem area, but this is still good advice all the same, thanks. :)