I'm really close with my mom (I live with her and my stepdad) but I haven't seen or talked to my dad in 4 years, my stepmom won't let him have any contact with me.
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I'm really close with my mom (I live with her and my stepdad) but I haven't seen or talked to my dad in 4 years, my stepmom won't let him have any contact with me.
That's too bad. I'd advise that you try to make some contact with him. Because there are no guarantees. I know whereof I speak as I used to be on very shaky grounds with my father until my Mom died. They were divorced and I do have a stepfather but have never got on with him at all. Now I talk more with my real Dad and seldom with my stepfather. Things like that open your eyes to see who really loves you.
The situation with my father is.....complicated; He and my mom got divorced right after I got out of high-school and I lived with him for a long time after that but then he met this woman and kind of started neglecting me, he would rarely come home, sometimes leaving me by myself at the house for a week or more (I don't drive and I have health problems) and then he married her but didn't tell me until two weeks after. I knew from the moment I met her that I wasn't going to like her, that she was trouble, and I was right. To make a long story short she tried to have me declared mentally unstable to draw a check off of me (she actually adopts kids so she can draw a check off of them and then kicks them out when they turn 18, that's why she has so much money), my mom found out and got me a lawyer, my dad and stepmom found out I had a lawyer, freaked out, and kicked me out of the house. My stepmom still calls my mom at work and harasses her, trying to put salt in the wound that she won't let my dad have contact with me. She's crazy, really really crazy, she'd have to be to spend so much time harassing my mom.
....I have some things that rankle with me about my folks, but we have a good relationship....and as I've said elsewhere-I'm fortunate to still have them around, they are both in their 80's....
Holy cow! I guess you have tried, then. That's the best you can do. I'm sorry.