Public Marriage Proposals - Romantic or Rude?

[Sundrop]

No need to go see Sunny. I'm running a special today...........

Oh, lord........

 

[Out of Order]

Scalp massage and blow dry included?

Sure....sure......My exfoliating will leave you stunned.

 

[Sundrop]

Sure....sure......My exfoliating will leave you stunned.

Run, Holly........Run like the wind!!!

 

[KingAHolic]

Well, I would not propose to any man (well except for maybe Chris Hemsworth....) anyway, never been proposed to (in public) and would like not like it. I feel it's a guys way of making sure the girl says "yes" - of course, if I wanted to get married to the guy I probably would love it, but, if not, well............

Overall, I think it's dumb (technically speaking...)

 

[Sundrop]

 

[Grandpa]

I've come a long way, but I can still be horribly awkward, and insecure. Anxiety is often a way of life for me.

Me too with the anxiety. I swear I'm trying, but good Lord! How do you combat this, Sunny?

Mostly, I hide in the basement.....

Lots of social anxiety here. In my younger days, I'd be in a little knot of people, and say something quietly to one of them I could talk to, realize that suddenly, every one of the three or four other people were listening to me, and I'd falter.

What I did. Volunteered in groups that interested me. It was still awkward, because the first year, I'd sit quietly at the table unless called upon. Slowly, though, I started making my voice heard and got more comfortable with it. Then came some public speaking things associated with those groups. It was terrifying at first, but I got more used to it.

Now I can do public speaking at the drop of a hat, and I can tell jokes to a group of people without going into a frozen panic. But what I still can't do is mingle. I dread social gatherings and making small talk. That's when I like to bring Grandma along. I'm the remora in the wake of her social shark (in a nice way).

But anyway, you don't go from being horribly shy to gregarious overnight, any more than you go from sedentary to long-distance runner overnight. You do some stretching, you take some steps, you challenge yourself, you try not to overdo in, and in incremental steps over the years, you find yourself pounding that path more comfortably than you'd ever dreamed.

 

[skimom2]

I think it's kind of showy. Please forgive my assumptions if you've done this - maybe you had the best intentions. But it seems to me, these days, so many people live to put their lives on facebook or other social media. If it's done sincerely, it's not a bad thing really. But if the party being proposed to isn't sure, it certainly puts them on the spot to act according to how everyone expects them to act, rather than to go with what they are really feeling. I think it should be a private moment.

 

[Grandpa]

And there's the "high risk" part of it. Ouch.

 

[GNTLGNT]

...I don't care one way or the other if you propose a good tonsorial touch-up in public OR private!....

 

[KingAHolic]

I don't have an issue with the public/private aspect as much as the pressure it puts on the woman...