Six Decades of Love

[mstay]

I had to take my Dad into the hospital for a "procedure" a few days ago. He's fine, but the whole thing took A LOT longer than it was supposed to. Anyway he and my brother had a big blow up a few months back and haven't been speaking to each other since. I called my brother while we were at the hospital and basically guilted him into coming to visit that night while my Dad stayed over night. He came to visit and then he picked my Dad up the next day to take him home. I think they must be speaking again.

I guess my point is that as our parents age we never know when it's the last time we see them or speak to them. So we do our best let them know we love them right? Or we try to anyway.

Man, it's hard growing up.

 

[skimom2]

I had to take my Dad into the hospital for a "procedure" a few days ago. He's fine, but the whole thing took A LOT longer than it was supposed to. Anyway he and my brother had a big blow up a few months back and haven't been speaking to each other since. I called my brother while we were at the hospital and basically guilted him into coming to visit that night while my Dad stayed over night. He came to visit and then he picked my Dad up the next day to take him home. I think they must be speaking again.

I guess my point is that as our parents age we never know when it's the last time we see them or speak to them. So we do our best let them know we love them right? Or we try to anyway.

Man, it's hard growing up.

 

[~Ally~]

I guess my point is that as our parents age we never know when it's the last time we see them or speak to them. So we do our best let them know we love them right? Or we try to anyway.

Exactly, which is why when my dad was ill in hospital a couple of months ago I got the first available flight back home from Greece. Everybody told me to stay where I was, because he was in a stable condition, but I would never have forgiven myself had something worse happened and I hadn't returned. Luckily I did return home because his condition/behaviour following discharge was abnormal yet partly due to my input/healthcare knowledge and liaising with the professionals we were able to get him back on track.

Anyhoo, speaking of "love" I thought I'd share this here...enjoy!

 

[ghost19]

You're a good guy sir. Keep those images of your folks tucked way back so you can draw on them for a long time. I haven't, don't, and never will have that kind of relationship with my folks, but I'm making sure my son does with me so maybe, someday, decades from now, he'll think kindly upon memories of his old man. Be true and stand sir.

 

[FlakeNoir]

Thank you for sharing this. Both my parents are still alive and both have passed age 90. Hard for me to talk about them because I know that their time is near. What makes it so difficult is we are separated by distance and circumstance. I only get to see them a few times a year. Phone calls are good, but no replacement. Like I say....it's difficult to talk about. Thanks for listening......

(((Triple O))) xox

 

[blunthead]

Scott, let me respond to this a little later, which I intend to after I'm able to read it fully. I can't just now.

I've finally gotten to read your post, Scott. Thanx for sharing your experience. First of all, best wishes to your mom in her recovery. I'm glad to know she's getting better.

I believe the reason humans exist is to love and be loved and for the sake of love. I assume to find love underlies the actions of each and every one of us (not just sex, as Freud reportedly said...when he was a teenager, I assume), which if that's true helps explain why we feel the way we do when, or if, we finally find love - finally free, finally alive, finally happy.

I assume, since humans are able to take the most valuable things for granted, that a person doesn't fully realize how much he or she loves someone until faced with losing her or him. I'm sorry whenever anyone must lose someone, but happy for love. Scott, I sincerely pray your mom and dad have many more long years together.

Thanx again for sharing with us.

 

[Grandpa]

Lovely tribute, Scott. Thank you for sharing.

We hear that anything worth doing is worth doing well. Relationships and marriages are no different. Whether it's a job, a business, an artistic endeavor, a state of health, or a relationship, when you get comfortable and lazy, that's when it's placed in peril. You have to keep working at it to make it work well. That's not a burden but rather the actions that help us appreciate what we've achieved.

All the best to your folks in these advanced years of their shared lives as they continue to find their measure of peace and love with one another.

 

[GNTLGNT]

Thank you for sharing this. Both my parents are still alive and both have passed age 90. Hard for me to talk about them because I know that their time is near. What makes it so difficult is we are separated by distance and circumstance. I only get to see them a few times a year. Phone calls are good, but no replacement. Like I say....it's difficult to talk about. Thanks for listening......

...always welcome my friend....mine live in the same town, and with crazy schedules it's hard to get with them...

 

[GNTLGNT]

...these kind and gentle words simply reconfirm what is so blatantly obvious...you folks are the best around-bar none.....bless all your hearts....