That Moment When...

[~Ally~]

You look at someone and realise you love them more than you can put into words...but may have lost them forever. How do you fix that if they're no longer willing to listen/talk because they've heard it all before? I already know there's no answer...I just wanted to "say it out loud"...

 

[FlakeNoir]

You look at someone and realise you love them more than you can put into words...but may have lost them forever. How do you fix that if they're no longer willing to listen/talk because they've heard it all before? I already know there's no answer...I just wanted to "say it out loud"...

(((Ally))) I'm sorry...
(Love is scary)

 

[king family fan]

(((Ally)))

 

[Grandpa]

So very sorry, Ally.

Sometimes I sing the Scorpions' "Time" in the shower. It's the same type of theme.

I can only offer that time heals. I can't promise that hurt will completely go away. I doubt that it will. But it does fade with time and the progress of life's experiences.

Best to you.

 

[~Ally~]

Thanks...I just needed to let it out...and where better than here?

Sometimes words really are empty...now I need to start making an effort to change my actions, so they reflect how I really feel.

 

[EMTP513]

You look at someone and realise you love them more than you can put into words...but may have lost them forever. How do you fix that if they're no longer willing to listen/talk because they've heard it all before? I already know there's no answer...I just wanted to "say it out loud"...

I already did lose one forever, and 10 years later I STILL can't get 100% over it. He's even married now (he got married 5 months after leaving me) but I still can't get 100% on with life without him. Sometimes it makes me angry, this difficulty of accepting it. Ten years is a long time. The wounds have "healed" but the scars are uglier than usual.

 

[EMTP513]

I already did lose one forever, and 10 years later I STILL can't get 100% over it. He's even married now (he got married 5 months after leaving me) but I still can't get 100% on with life without him. Sometimes it makes me angry, this difficulty of accepting it. Ten years is a long time. The wounds have "healed" but the scars are uglier than usual.

I'm just glad he relocated so I don't have to see him having another life, and wife, without me. He's an EMP (Emergency Medical Physician) and I would have seen him all the time, but he relocated to another town. Probably NOT just because of me, but whatever the reason I'm just glad I no longer have to call in Ambulance Reports to him. Hear his unbelievably cheerful voice (he was always happy no matter what was going on) and giving us medical directives.
He married another doctor. Who knew? If he wanted another doctor so bad, I have no idea what he was doing with me. I was an EMT-I when he knew me. He's never seen me as a Paramedic.

 

[skimom2]

Making your actions match your intentions is the best start. Whether this relationship makes a comeback or not (and you need to be ready to accept that it might not), you'll be in a better position when love makes itself available once again (and it will). Most of all, become a person that you like--you'll never be happy with anyone until you are happy alone.

 

[Lepplady]

You look at someone and realise you love them more than you can put into words...but may have lost them forever. How do you fix that if they're no longer willing to listen/talk because they've heard it all before? I already know there's no answer...I just wanted to "say it out loud"...

If they're really the right one, they'll love you enough to listen.
If it's the real thing, they won't let it be broken, no matter what.
If it's really love, you don't have to beg for it. You don't have to chase it.
If he's not willing to listen, let him go and make room for the one that will.
Don't worry about living with someone else. Worry about living with yourself.

 

[blunthead]

So very sorry, Ally.

Sometimes I sing the Scorpions' "Time" in the shower. It's the same type of theme.

I can only offer that time heals. I can't promise that hurt will completely go away. I doubt that it will. But it does fade with time and the progress of life's experiences.

Best to you.

Good word. (((((Ally)))))

 

[pegasus216]

(((((Ally)))))

 

[Spideyman]

(((((Ally))))) May you have only love and green lights in the future.

 

[SharonC]

If they're really the right one, they'll love you enough to listen.
If it's the real thing, they won't let it be broken, no matter what.
If it's really love, you don't have to beg for it. You don't have to chase it.
If he's not willing to listen, let him go and make room for the one that will.
Don't worry about living with someone else. Worry about living with yourself.

Wise advice from a wise woman.

 

[HollyGolightly]

Hang in there. It's all you can do. You don't just stop loving someone, but you can learn to live without them. (((Ally))) It isn't easy at all.

 

[GNTLGNT]

...Ally, whomever this was has lost more than they'll ever realize..yes, words can be wrung of all emotion and truth after a time, but there are always more there, if one is willing to listen for them...plus, it disturbs me-that you are worrying about changing yourself...it's a temporary dodge at best-I know, I've tried repeatedly to re-make myself, only to have the true core shine through...I've accepted that I'm an imperfect jerk, but my heart is pure and my love strong...one doesn't always need to re-examine themselves, because of the obstinacy of another... blessing and peace my sweet friend...

 

[Haunted]

Thanks...I just needed to let it out...and where better than here?

Sometimes words really are empty...now I need to start making an effort to change my actions, so they reflect how I really feel.

((((Ally)))) sounds like you have the right idea there.

 

[VampireLily]

You look at someone and realise you love them more than you can put into words...but may have lost them forever. How do you fix that if they're no longer willing to listen/talk because they've heard it all before? I already know there's no answer...I just wanted to "say it out loud"...

You know what, Ally..... sometimes things that seem so irreversibly permanent, actually just need time.

 

[Lina]

If they're really the right one, they'll love you enough to listen.
If it's the real thing, they won't let it be broken, no matter what.
If it's really love, you don't have to beg for it. You don't have to chase it.
If he's not willing to listen, let him go and make room for the one that will.
Don't worry about living with someone else. Worry about living with yourself.

Great words!

(((Ally))) Hang in there, love is hard and cruel sometimes. To say honestly, you made me cry now, as I can really understand what you're feeling now. But Lepplady is right about this, if he loves you, he will listen and understand, no other options here. If he doesn't... it means it is not love and you need to survive through this, move on and give your love to someone who deserves that! That's not easy, I know... But it gets better with time, it heals...

 

[Riot87]

I'm sorry for your lose fr i hope eveything turns out ok for you.

Oan i love evanescence

 

[fushingfeef]

(((~Ally~)))