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not_nadine

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misso (((hugs)) allowed.

I miss the little boards. As most of you do.. Took the Title from the Little boards. Say thank you to whom ever started it.

Bold up and get you going.

I am sick, I do not know if is because of the dog bite. It hurts for sure. Now I called the police and my sister... whom I have not spoken to in years.. In a panic. great..

Vent away.. Tet.
 
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Spideyman

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No (((hugs)) allowed.

I remember the little boards. Took the Title from the Little boards. Say thank you to whom ever started it.

Bold up and get you going.

I am sick, I do not know if is because of the dog bite. It hurts for sure. Now I called the police and my sister... whom I have not spoken to in years.. In a panic. great..

Vent away.. Tet.


Have you followed up with the doctor on meds? has the hand been re ck'd? You may have a secondary infection. Healing vibes!
 

Dana Jean

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Apr 11, 2006
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NN, you know I understand some of what you are feeling and going through. But I am worried you are sabotaging yourself. Not with the ouchies by any means, but just your general frame of mind. I know it's all hard. But, You are smart and funny and I want you to start looking at those parts of yourself and seek out whatever it takes to change your energy around. Hobbies, self help books (yes, people laugh at those but I have read many, many self help books and they all added up to a change.) I want you to doll yourself up and go to the movies. Do random acts of kindness for others -- I'm telling you, there is nothing like the feeling of just doing a kind thing for someone else to get your mind off your woes. I don't say this with any malice so please please please know that. I just want you well and I worry.

ANd avoid trigger things. Things that pull you right back down. You know what these triggers are. Just say no, walk away and don't put yourself in that situation that you KNOW will be harmful to you physically, emotionally, spiritually.
 
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hipmamajen

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NN, you know I understand some of what you are feeling and going through. But I am worried you are sabotaging yourself. Not with the ouchies by any means, but just your general frame of mind. I know it's all hard. But, You are smart and funny and I want you to start looking at those parts of yourself and seek out whatever it takes to change your energy around. Hobbies, self help books (yes, people laugh at those but I have read many, many self help books and they all added up to a change.) I want you to doll yourself up and go to the movies. Do random of acts of kindness for others -- I'm telling you, there is nothing like the feeling of just doing a kind thing for someone else to get your mind off your woes. I don't say this with any malice so please please please know that. I just want you well and I worry.

ANd avoid trigger things. Things that pull you right back down. You know what these triggers are. Just say no, walk away and don't put yourself in that situation that you KNOW will be harmful to you physically, emotionally, spiritually.

I second Dana Jean's advice. I am a much more stable and happy person because of self-help books! If you read one and it doesn't click for you, put it aside and try a different one.

((((n_n))))=
 

Dana Jean

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And, just to add, this means in no way quit talking and reaching out. That's so important to just have ears listening to you. This board and people who listened to me brought me out of a very dark place. I don't know what I would have done without them. I realize, too, that sometimes a vent is just a vent and not really asking for advice, but something's going to give here and you need to know you are worth fighting for.
 
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GNTLGNT

The idiot is IN
Jun 15, 2007
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NN, you know I understand some of what you are feeling and going through. But I am worried you are sabotaging yourself. Not with the ouchies by any means, but just your general frame of mind. I know it's all hard. But, You are smart and funny and I want you to start looking at those parts of yourself and seek out whatever it takes to change your energy around. Hobbies, self help books (yes, people laugh at those but I have read many, many self help books and they all added up to a change.) I want you to doll yourself up and go to the movies. Do random acts of kindness for others -- I'm telling you, there is nothing like the feeling of just doing a kind thing for someone else to get your mind off your woes. I don't say this with any malice so please please please know that. I just want you well and I worry.

ANd avoid trigger things. Things that pull you right back down. You know what these triggers are. Just say no, walk away and don't put yourself in that situation that you KNOW will be harmful to you physically, emotionally, spiritually.
...excellent advice...
 

Lily Sawyer

B-ReadAndWed
Jun 27, 2009
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...because I need to rant. I'm kicking ass and taking names, too.

This one is specifically about a book store, so I guess it's appropriate for a Stephen King website.

I live in Nashville. It's home to several interesting authors, one of whom is Ann Patchett. She opened a bookstore called Parnassus Books, one with *real* books and scheduled book signing events and children's hours. I love supporting mom-'n-pop efforts like this one.

I recently called Parnassus to see if they carried a certain title. The book was to be a birthday present for my very-difficult-to-buy-for father. I'd craftily paid attention when he mentioned the title and that he'd loved reading it as a kid, so getting a copy of it for him was going to be a coup.

Why yes, they told me; they didn't have the book on hand in the store, but they could definitely get it because it is available on a "print on demand" basis. I would have to wait only two days for it to be delivered to the store.

In all fairness, they didn't know the book was a birthday present, and that I was counting on giving it to Dad on the day that it was to arrive. What they did know is that I had already paid for the book in advance and that they were to call me as soon as it was in the store.

It added insult to injury that *I* had to make the call to learn that the book hadn't arrived, that the publisher (a local one) had erred...and that it was expected a full four days after the promised delivery date. I was told that it was indeed a rarity for the publisher to mess up like they had; it just doesn't usually happen.

I was livid.

I should never have been promised the book by a certain date. Had I bought it through Amazon, which I didn't want to do because buying from them defeats the purpose of supporting real, live bookstores, I could have received the book in time for Dad's birthday celebration. I guess the Parnassus people wanted the book sale badly enough that they were willing to stake their professional reputation on the timeliness of a third party. Bad move. They apologized over the phone, but that couldn't change the fact that I was still minus a gift for someone special.

Not only did they compromise their integrity, they also failed to say anything at all about the screw-up when I went in to pick up the book. They didn't bother to put it in a bag, they didn't offer a token bookmark, they didn't apologize again, they didn't recognize that this had been a colossal disappointment for me. This was one gigantic Bookstore Fail as far as I was concerned.

My father's birthday was still a fun one, and he received several small things from me that made the day a nice one. Once he'd received the book, he read it all in one day, and I know he enjoyed it....but caveat emptor, people: don't believe delivery dates, even when they're local, when you hear them or read them.

Okay; rant over. Next.
 

FlakeNoir

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Apr 11, 2006
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...because I need to rant. I'm kicking ass and taking names, too.

This one is specifically about a book store, so I guess it's appropriate for a Stephen King website.

I live in Nashville. It's home to several interesting authors, one of whom is Ann Patchett. She opened a bookstore called Parnassus Books, one with *real* books and scheduled book signing events and children's hours. I love supporting mom-'n-pop efforts like this one.

I recently called Parnassus to see if they carried a certain title. The book was to be a birthday present for my very-difficult-to-buy-for father. I'd craftily paid attention when he mentioned the title and that he'd loved reading it as a kid, so getting a copy of it for him was going to be a coup.

Why yes, they told me; they didn't have the book on hand in the store, but they could definitely get it because it is available on a "print on demand" basis. I would have to wait only two days for it to be delivered to the store.

In all fairness, they didn't know the book was a birthday present, and that I was counting on giving it to Dad on the day that it was to arrive. What they did know is that I had already paid for the book in advance and that they were to call me as soon as it was in the store.

It added insult to injury that *I* had to make the call to learn that the book hadn't arrived, that the publisher (a local one) had erred...and that it was expected a full four days after the promised delivery date. I was told that it was indeed a rarity for the publisher to mess up like they had; it just doesn't usually happen.

I was livid.

I should never have been promised the book by a certain date. Had I bought it through Amazon, which I didn't want to do because buying from them defeats the purpose of supporting real, live bookstores, I could have received the book in time for Dad's birthday celebration. I guess the Parnassus people wanted the book sale badly enough that they were willing to stake their professional reputation on the timeliness of a third party. Bad move. They apologized over the phone, but that couldn't change the fact that I was still minus a gift for someone special.

Not only did they compromise their integrity, they also failed to say anything at all about the screw-up when I went in to pick up the book. They didn't bother to put it in a bag, they didn't offer a token bookmark, they didn't apologize again, they didn't recognize that this had been a colossal disappointment for me. This was one gigantic Bookstore Fail as far as I was concerned.

My father's birthday was still a fun one, and he received several small things from me that made the day a nice one. Once he'd received the book, he read it all in one day, and I know he enjoyed it....but caveat emptor, people: don't believe delivery dates, even when they're local, when you hear them or read them.

Okay; rant over. Next.
Lily, a new VENT thread just went up a few days ago, so I'm going to search for it and will merge the two if that's okay. :)

Sorry about your experience, it sucks when you plan something special and it doesn't work out. I think the most important piece of information when you're dealing with folks like this is to make it personal for them (if possible) so that they care about helping you out. :)
I'm glad your dad had a nice birthday though... :)
 

Spideyman

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Jul 10, 2006
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Sorry to hear about the book and bookstore attitude. I like to shop small bookstores, of which there are now none in my rural area. Over the past several years I've found the smaller stores are becoming less "family/ caring" in attitude. Don't know if it is because of big store competition or what. Glad you dad enjoyed the book.
 

GNTLGNT

The idiot is IN
Jun 15, 2007
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Cambridge, Ohio
Sorry to hear about the book and bookstore attitude. I like to shop small bookstores, of which there are now none in my rural area. Over the past several years I've found the smaller stores are becoming less "family/ caring" in attitude. Don't know if it is because of big store competition or what. Glad you dad enjoyed the book.
...and they wonder why so many have gone out of business...