I do, too. I saw it a few weeks after our separation and it struck a chord.
We wasn't meant for each other.....
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I do, too. I saw it a few weeks after our separation and it struck a chord.
(((Jojo)) I'm so, so sorry. I am going through a breakup/divorce, too, and it really just plain sucks. But you should be proud of yourself, because you have demonstrated a strong sense of knowing who you are and what you want. It takes so much strength and wisdom to choose a path that will serve you best, though you know full well that it will be painful for a time. You WILL be ok, and we will be here to help you through this time of sadness. 
Juho and I walked separate ways two weeks ago. I have had a hard time two weeks now. It was my decision that we aren't a couple anymore. We hadn't anything in
common except music. Juho wanted to lay down on a couch after work and I wanted that we go and do something. Juho liked to spend a lot of time with friends and I
wanted that we spend time with each other also. We argued most of the times and
feels like he became more my friend than a partner. He wasn't ready to get married or having kids yet and we both are 30 already and the clock is ticking for me at least.
Juho tried that I should stay with him but after a long conversation he also realize that this is the best decision for both of us. We are still good friends and hang out together
a lot and that's good because I still care about him even if we aren't a couple anymore.
I moved back to my old apartment where I lived before I met Juho. Maybe in the future I find my Mr Right or maybe not. So I am single again and I try to be positive about it. Even if is not easy now, I lived with Juho 3 years almost and most of the time we had fun together, even if these last months was mostly arguing or we didn't spoke with each other. Time heal the wounds as they use to say. Who knows maybe Juho and I get together someday again and are having kids etc etc.. or I find a nice new man that I get a family with or I live rest of my life single and are happy with that.
We'll see what happen but from now on things are as they are.....
Thankful I still have my two crazy dogs so the life is not get boring.
(((jojo)))
You made a well thought out and wise decision. Time will heal and you will find happiness again! Peace and joy to you!
I can't shake it. It's profound. I copied it and put it up on my Facebook page with accompanying commentary.
Juho and I walked separate ways two weeks ago. I have had a hard time two weeks now. It was my decision that we aren't a couple anymore. We hadn't anything in
common except music. Juho wanted to lay down on a couch after work and I wanted that we go and do something. Juho liked to spend a lot of time with friends and I
wanted that we spend time with each other also. We argued most of the times and
feels like he became more my friend than a partner. He wasn't ready to get married or having kids yet and we both are 30 already and the clock is ticking for me at least.
Juho tried that I should stay with him but after a long conversation he also realize that this is the best decision for both of us. We are still good friends and hang out together
a lot and that's good because I still care about him even if we aren't a couple anymore.
I moved back to my old apartment where I lived before I met Juho. Maybe in the future I find my Mr Right or maybe not. So I am single again and I try to be positive about it. Even if is not easy now, I lived with Juho 3 years almost and most of the time we had fun together, even if these last months was mostly arguing or we didn't spoke with each other. Time heal the wounds as they use to say. Who knows maybe Juho and I get together someday again and are having kids etc etc.. or I find a nice new man that I get a family with or I live rest of my life single and are happy with that.
We'll see what happen but from now on things are as they are.....
Thankful I still have my two crazy dogs so the life is not get boring.
All I can say is I've been there and done that, and it sounds like you both made the best decision.
Personally, I think it's awesome that you guys can actually stay good friends, as adults should be able to.
Wishing you both the best that a good friendship can bring, and that you'll both find what you're looking for
And yes, crazy dogs help. My crazy dogs got their nightly treat (tonight it was leftover cream from some fresh milk) and one got some in his ear fur and spent the next 1/2 hour rolling about and going insane with delight that he now smells like moo-juice
(((Jojo))) All will work out in the end. Keep your chin up and keep on keeping on.
I think God made you two separate/seperate, so you might become independent, don't get too sad, try to think of other things.
^This.
When I suffered through a serious break up many years ago, I was absolutely astonished to realize I had no idea who I was. I had no interests, no hobbies, nothing I enjoyed or loved outside of the relationship and that's damned dangerous. I'm not saying this is the situation of the original poster at all, but for anyone out there reading it's something to keep in mind. Hell, I was afraid to go to the grocery store by myself because I felt "weird" going alone and I felt completely out of sorts not knowing what kind of food I wanted to buy!! This wasn't a controlling relationship and the person on the other side of the coin did absolutely nothing to validate those feelings, but sometimes we get so wrapped up in someone else that we lose sight of who we are, what we enjoy and what we really and TRULY want out of life. As I said, this can be (and usually is) dangerous.
A break up can and often is a tough time, but remember it's also time given to us so we can reflect and decide who we really are. Again, I think it's pretty amazing and very adult and mature when two people can separate yet remain friendly with one another. Nothing pissed me off more than "I think we should just be friends" and then the relationship--and friendship--is over. Ridiculous. That's what we did in the 7th grade.
You'll be OK Jojo
Sorry it didn't work out, but I am glad you are able to remain friends.