What you all predicted would happen finally happened.

[Religiously_Unkind]

My stepdad finally got violent tonight when I went into the living room to tell him to lay off my mom. He pulled his shirt off like a psycho lunged at me and told me he would go upside my head. My mom called the police and then called them back and told them not to come (i'm not happy with her about that.) I don't know what to do, guys, my mom is going out of town this weekend and i'm going to be alone with the creep even though i'm terrified of him now. I haven't felt this low in a long time, and I feel bad because I made things worse between my mom and him. This is the first time I've been threatened since I was bullied in middle school, it doesn't feel good, not good at all. I don't want to be scared in my own home.

 

[CoriSCapnSkip]

Sorry about this. Can you go with your mom, to friends, or a shelter?

 

[Religiously_Unkind]

Sorry about this. Can you go with your mom, to friends, or a shelter?

I can't seem to make her see that he's dangerous; she thinks it was a bluff, but I saw his eyes. He's crazy, really crazy. She did say she has an appointment with a divorce attorney on Monday, so that's something. I feel sick to my stomach about this whole thing and my head is pounding.

 

[Neesy]

My stepdad finally got violent tonight when I went into the living room to tell him to lay off my mom. He pulled his shirt off like a psycho lunged at me and told me he would go upside my head. My mom called the police and then called them back and told them not to come (i'm not happy with her about that.) I don't know what to do, guys, my mom is going out of town this weekend and i'm going to be alone with the creep even though i'm terrified of him now. I haven't felt this low in a long time, and I feel bad because I made things worse between my mom and him. This is the first time I've been threatened since I was bullied in middle school, it doesn't feel good, not good at all. I don't want to be scared in my own home.

You should not be left alone with this man. Your Mom should either cancel her plans or try to make some other arrangements (just my opinion).

Why would she call the police then change her mind? Is there someone you can go to for help? By the way, don't feel bad - I don't think you made things worse between your stepfather and your Mom. It sounds like they have some issues they need to work out, and you're just caught in the middle. Sorry to hear this.

 

[Religiously_Unkind]

You should not be left alone with this man. Your Mom should either cancel her plans or try to make some other arrangements (just my opinion).

Why would she call the police then change her mind? Is there someone you can go to for help? By the way, don't feel bad - I don't think you made things worse between your stepfather and your Mom. It sounds like they have some issues they need to work out, and you're just caught in the middle. Sorry to hear this.

I guess I could go stay with my grandma for the weekend but I don't want to run the risk of him destroying my things while i'm gone, I have some very valuable stuff.

 

[Neesy]

I guess I could go stay with my grandma for the weekend but I don't want to run the risk of him destroying my things while i'm gone, I have some very valuable stuff.

If he touches your stuff he'll just add "fuel to the fire" - it will probably anger your Mom. Besides, what is more important - your health/sanity or a couple of material possessions?

 

[Religiously_Unkind]

If he touches your stuff he'll just add "fuel to the fire" - it will probably anger your Mom. Besides, what is more important - your health/sanity or a couple of material possessions?

My mom wants me to stay at the house, she says she'll be damned if he runs us off, but I can't make her understand that i'm terrified. This has happened before, one of her boyfriends hurt me really bad when I was 9 and I ended up having to get a catscan on my head.

 

[Neesy]

My mom wants me to stay at the house, she says she'll be damned if he runs us off, but I can't make her understand that i'm terrified. This has happened before, one of her boyfriends hurt me really bad when I was 9 and I ended up having to get a catscan on my head.

Ask your grandmother if you can go to her place and explain how scared you are.

 

[Religiously_Unkind]

Ask your grandmother if you can go to her place and explain how scared you are.

I think she said she's going out of town too, though she might stay if I asked. I've been trying to call her and haven't got an answer. She might actually come up to OKC to stay with me, though, If I told her what happened. She said this kind of thing would happen and I was just too dumb to believe her. If nothing else I can just stay in my room in the hours he's home this weekend, get my meals and take the dog out while he's asleep. I'm writing a script and doing concept art so I can probably lose myself in the work if I really try.

 

[Tery]

Call the county sheriff. He threatened you, too and you fear for your safety. They will be able to help or tell you who can. He should be in jail and you should press charges. Enough.

 

[mjs9153]

You're getting lots of good advice there, I don't think it's wise to stay there alone with that guy. I can't believe that the police didn't come and verify that everything was okay in the house, that is is what we did in my state whether the caller wanted us to still come or not. You can go and call for police somewhere else and speak to an officer outside the home if you would be more comfortable that way.. they can tell you what you can do, and if they have domestic victims shelter you could probably stay there over the weekend if you are that terrified and don't have anywhere else to go. If you do go take your most valuable items in a backpack and take photos of everything else with your camera phone if you have one, if he does damage any of your property that's a separate issue on pressing charges and is sometimes easier to prove than a he said / he said situation..

 

[Grandpa]

Department of Human Services.
Department of Social Services.
Department of Child Protection Services.

Different local governments call them different things. They're usually part of the county government. You need to talk to a caseworker about your concerns, your fears, your options.

Good luck.

 

[Spideyman]

All good advice. Most important- get out. A bedroom door can be broken down. Your safety first!

 

[Toni_S_UK]

Don't stay alone in the house with him, if you have some things that are really special to you, take them with you, not worth the risk to yourself, emotionally or physically. Keep your chin up lovely.

 

[GNTLGNT]

...enough is enough!....you run the risk of being badly hurt or worse, and your Mother is enabling this by not getting you both out of this toxic environment before now....make the phone calls and get out of the house....period......

 

[king family fan]

Always be safe.Things are replaced but you can't. So much good advice here.

 

[doowopgirl]

All good advice here. You are in my prayers. Do something. Better than doing nothing.

 

[Hill lover35]

Hello I just read this, I hope you are doing well, can you somehow support your self, to love on your own, can you and your mom. Move out or stay some place else while you are getting resources ready?

I think you should remove your expensive items out of your room and to some place you can trust, or to a friends house or rent a storage unit

 

[HollyGolightly]

My mom wants me to stay at the house, she says she'll be damned if he runs us off, but I can't make her understand that i'm terrified. This has happened before, one of her boyfriends hurt me really bad when I was 9 and I ended up having to get a catscan on my head.

Hey you! How did the weekend go? I saw this late Friday and was quite worried about you. You shouldn't have to live like this.

 

[staropeace]

My mom wants me to stay at the house, she says she'll be damned if he runs us off, but I can't make her understand that i'm terrified. This has happened before, one of her boyfriends hurt me really bad when I was 9 and I ended up having to get a catscan on my head.

Your mom is not much of an adult ....or a mother, for that matter. Stay with your grandmother. I did contracts for Child Welfare. If I had anything to do with it, I would have you away from your mom as well as her boyfriend. Both need a good kick in the ****. Yes, this makes me extremely angry.