Hi everyone. I'm at a real cross roads in my life, and I really don't know what to do. Silly, I know, to come on here and ask a bunch of folks I've never met before for advice and thoughts, but I think a lot of you on here. And my mind is going round and round and round.
As some of you know, I'm an estate agent here in the UK. I've been with the same firm for over 10 years now. Weathered recession, and kept my job, no mean feat in these economic times.
"Boss A" used to run the branch (we have 5 offices in total) I work in. Fun, enjoyable company, but not terribly reliable, but the type who ALWAYS comes up smelling of roses, everyone loved him, and he was full of praise for what all of us in the office did. Personal (pretty tragic) things led to him leaving.
"Boss B" took over about 2 years ago recruited from within our company, in my very office. He has been here for longer than me, and was ALWAYS management material. Anyhow, he took over, deservedly so, it's now "his baby".
Boss B is completely different. No sense of humour. Critiques everything we say/do. Has shaken my confidence. If it's not done his way, it's wrong. I'm not, as some of you will have gathered, the most run of the mill person, but slowly I have been instructed on how to speak, conduct myself, and question my ability. He is younger than me, but will doubtless be very wealthy very soon. Or dead with ulcers/stress induced heart attack. He knows the way he conducts himself is wrong, but he also can't help himself. It's not just me he's like that with. However, we are successful, and busy, and very well respected within our town. So clearly it works. So I suck it up each day and try to deal with it, telling myself it's just 6 hours a day.
Boss A called me the other day. He is now MD of another estate agency, and has offered me a job. Same hours as I do now (5 days a week, 9-3). I'd be the "number 2" in the office. He's chosen me because of my loyalty, the way I am with people and because I am good at my job. In the same town though, not far from where I work now, doing what I do now. In his words, the office is doing ok but they want to "shake it up" and get a new team in there.
I honestly don't know what to do. My current firm have kept me, through thick and thin for over 10 years. I am loyal. But the stress I am under sometimes is unbearable. But my job is secure. But Boss B and I are poles apart personality wise.
Has anyone been in a similar position? Obviously I'm not asking people to tell me what to do, but I wondered if any of you had any thoughts on this?
Thanks for listening.
As some of you know, I'm an estate agent here in the UK. I've been with the same firm for over 10 years now. Weathered recession, and kept my job, no mean feat in these economic times.
"Boss A" used to run the branch (we have 5 offices in total) I work in. Fun, enjoyable company, but not terribly reliable, but the type who ALWAYS comes up smelling of roses, everyone loved him, and he was full of praise for what all of us in the office did. Personal (pretty tragic) things led to him leaving.
"Boss B" took over about 2 years ago recruited from within our company, in my very office. He has been here for longer than me, and was ALWAYS management material. Anyhow, he took over, deservedly so, it's now "his baby".
Boss B is completely different. No sense of humour. Critiques everything we say/do. Has shaken my confidence. If it's not done his way, it's wrong. I'm not, as some of you will have gathered, the most run of the mill person, but slowly I have been instructed on how to speak, conduct myself, and question my ability. He is younger than me, but will doubtless be very wealthy very soon. Or dead with ulcers/stress induced heart attack. He knows the way he conducts himself is wrong, but he also can't help himself. It's not just me he's like that with. However, we are successful, and busy, and very well respected within our town. So clearly it works. So I suck it up each day and try to deal with it, telling myself it's just 6 hours a day.
Boss A called me the other day. He is now MD of another estate agency, and has offered me a job. Same hours as I do now (5 days a week, 9-3). I'd be the "number 2" in the office. He's chosen me because of my loyalty, the way I am with people and because I am good at my job. In the same town though, not far from where I work now, doing what I do now. In his words, the office is doing ok but they want to "shake it up" and get a new team in there.
I honestly don't know what to do. My current firm have kept me, through thick and thin for over 10 years. I am loyal. But the stress I am under sometimes is unbearable. But my job is secure. But Boss B and I are poles apart personality wise.
Has anyone been in a similar position? Obviously I'm not asking people to tell me what to do, but I wondered if any of you had any thoughts on this?
Thanks for listening.
