Thanks everyone again. Getting through it. My step dad isn't so good with the "emotion" bits so my sister and i have done all the clothes bagging, paperwork going through, choosing an outfit for the coffin etc. Whilst he does the bank, getting the car swapped over, cancelling appointments that she had. We're getting stuff done. Have to say i find bed time the worst. I woke at 1.00am last night. Came downstairs. Cried so hard i threw up. Fell asleep on the sofa at 4.... You all know what it's like. Hopefully we can get the death certificate tomorrow now autopsy has been done. Which means we can book the funeral (humanist, as she wanted). I have a hard decision to make though. I will have the opportunity to see her, of course. I really really don't know whether to or not. My sister saw her at the hospital of course, when she'd died. She said she looked at peace. I remember going to see my gramps, and wishing i hadn't. But will i regret not saying goodbye? What are other folks thoughts? I just don't know. Sorry for rambling and on your monumental day too.