How do you live with family members's sickness?

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mustangclaire

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I've just stumbled upon this thread and I am so sorry for all the sadness you guys are going through. I am keeping you in my thoughts and I don't know what else to say, there is nothing I CAN say but all of you, I give you my love and know I really am thinking hard about you and sending hugs and thoughts of the most positive kind.
 

Dana Jean

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Not well today. I'm wearing out, to be honest. The mental changes due to my mother's MS have made her such a different person than the woman who raised me. It gets harder and harder every week.
I understand this all too well myself. You just do what you do because it's who you are. A code of ethics. So no matter what she says or does, you still will be the best daughter you can be because it's who you are. And you love her and it's the right thing. But it does batter your doors for sure. My thoughts are with you.
 

Haunted

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They are sending me for tests again monday...I was at the lab today. Mom died yesterday and I am too ill to get on a plane and fly to Newfoundland for her funeral. I am so very sad. This has been a really bad winter for me. Almost too much. I am resting and reading...that is the best I can do. My mom was such a good person. The world is not a better place without her in it.

So, so sorry you are feeling so ill. Your Mom will live forever in your heart. Praying those tests go well. With hope this winter is over and spring will soon grace your doorstep.
 

Haunted

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Not well today. I'm wearing out, to be honest. The mental changes due to my mother's MS have made her such a different person than the woman who raised me. It gets harder and harder every week.

That's the hardest part, she's not the same. One day at a time. Prayers being said for you and your mom.
 

Neesy

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That's the hardest part, she's not the same. One day at a time. Prayers being said for you and your mom.
Has anyone here ever taken care of a close relative with Alzheimer's? To me it was as if an alien had come and entered the body of someone you love (in my case, my Dad) and taken over their person. It is like they already died but yet they seem to be right in front of you, but it is not really them (if this makes sense?)
 

Haunted

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Has anyone here ever taken care of a close relative with Alzheimer's? To me it was as if an alien had come and entered the body of someone you love (in my case, my Dad) and taken over their person. It is like they already died but yet they seem to be right in front of you, but it is not really them (if this makes sense?)
((((Neesy))))
 

Spideyman

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Has anyone here ever taken care of a close relative with Alzheimer's? To me it was as if an alien had come and entered the body of someone you love (in my case, my Dad) and taken over their person. It is like they already died but yet they seem to be right in front of you, but it is not really them (if this makes sense?)

My Nana had Alzheimer's. Even though my mom was the main caregiver to Nana, I still spent a great deal of time with her. Mom and I had become strangers to her. All we could do was to love, comfort and be there. She finally passed peaceful in her sleep.
 

mstay

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Has anyone here ever taken care of a close relative with Alzheimer's? To me it was as if an alien had come and entered the body of someone you love (in my case, my Dad) and taken over their person. It is like they already died but yet they seem to be right in front of you, but it is not really them (if this makes sense?)

Yes, when my Mother-in-Law had it she became so mean spirited at times. But we knew she still had that kind heart in there and it showed occasionally. She became so childlike near the end that it was funny sometimes how she acted just like a toddler. I wouldn't change the opportunity I had to take care of her for anything though. I loved her until the end. And it was very hard at times.